She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
At this point that seems true,it's dumb that she couldn't just be straight forward instead of being fakely interested,guess if I get bored I'll shoot her another text, 9 days is quite some time lol.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
It's when you are dating a she devil that pretends to be a hot woman that you unwittingly find yourself falling in love with.
Are you suggesting that's what I should do?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
True,I'm thinking she had a bad dating experiment after me,she hasn't ignored my previous texts and it's been 2 weeks since the date,on the fence about texting,just feel if she hasn't reached out since right after the date she's not interested idk.
Just to clarify. I lived in the "country" during my time doing OLD. However, I was about a hour from 2 different cities (Baltimore and Philadelphia) and was about 5 minutes from a major college campus. So while I did live down a long dirt road, and in what basically looked like a shack - the # of women in my area was very high.