First Cold Approach!

[Prof]

I just left the library...
So after sitting and studying with the girl who's recently blown me off (see the other topic I started) and that I've known for 3 yrs, I left to go study on my own.

Sitting down I saw a chic and a guy studying something, and eventually the guy left. I left, eventually, as well to sit in a different area of the library. I think by now I was thinking it'd be weird of I approached her as soon as this guy left, but whatever, I'll continue my story.

So after studying in a different place for a bit, (~30 mins?) I went and talked to her. Conversation:

me: "you're not doing something that's due soon are you?"

her: "oh of course"

me: "oh geez, so what is it" (sort of playing with her)

her: "chemistry lab..." blah blah

She broke it off pretty quick after, when the conversation (and my mind) came to a quiet point.

But hey, I got her name (no number) and damn did it feel good! I swear, though, I wouldn't have froze up if her breasts hadn't been so damn pretty...:crackup:

 

[Alphathree]

Nice work, but the solution is not outside of you, it's inside...

 

[worstepisode]

I know what you mean Prof. I remember my first approach ever a month ago. I didn't get her number but the fact that I held a conversation with her(a girl) for 5 minutes was amazing. I'm telling you, I couldn't stop smiling after that.

 

[Alphathree]

I rescue women from people like you

 

[Blackdragon5095]

Fear

I'm never mad at any man who apporachs a girl. Good job you earned yourself 1 step away from beating your fears.

"Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear - not absence of fear."
Mark Twain

I hope you do more cold approachs, that way the more you do the sooner you will be used to talking to people you never met before.

¡°Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less.¡±
Marie Curie

Let me give a example, you see a hb 8 standing at a bus stop. You think ( man that chick is hot ) and before you can even make 1 step gusse who pops up ??
Fear,
Fear comes in your way and says bunch of bullcrap thats not even true. Says that she will laugh if you apporach her because of the loser you are. Fear then tells you that your shirt looks funny and will make her want to not be near you.

Do you notice how fear says and makes you feel down ??
None of this is any good. When was the last time fear said something good about you. Never !! Ignore fear and apporach her.

As you appoarch and you talk to her ( because of HER Problems and HER fears she rejects you ) She gets on the bus you get no phone number. Gusse who pops up again ?? Fear. Fear says see I told you was stupid, You shouldn't have appoarch her you made yourself look like a fool. You feel down and down right stupid for what you did.

 

[bbestar]

For me I don't consider that a real approach... unless you get some sort of number

Ask her some qualifying questions, such as in the mystery guideline..

Like if she's really smart in chemestry or has like straight A's

Make her think you are interested in her because of her qualities..

Not because you want hit that laffy taffy..lol

!!

 

[Immaculate]

Guys I almost died in a car wreck 6 months ago.

Just think about it.. your life can be gone inan instant.

After my car wreck something clicked in my brain and I will cold approach any girl I see.

Just think about it what if you died tomorrow?

All the things you could have done but didn't cuz u were too pussified to approach.

 

[Prof]

A.) Guys, what ever happened to leaving the ripping on us to the women, and leaving it out of the forums? We all know they tear us down enough for petty fighting amongst guys on these forums to be unnecessary.

B.) I did feel good after I talked to that girl! So good I'm starting to think the whole thing is cumulative (one approach leads to many).

C.) If it's anything I've learned about fear, it's that I can't give into it for one moment. One fear filled moment infects the rest of my day instantaneously, I swear. Even if it's at the expense of coming off a little awkward (stalling for a second while regaining some steam).

D.) I totally agree with you, Immaculate. Living with cluster headaches and my daily mountain bike routine have gone a ways to give me that sort of attitude, or close (I'm definitely not going to say I've had anywhere near the experience you had, promise.)

E.) It'd be cool if I made a 'Journal of Approaches' thread, 'eh?

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

Prof,

Great job!!! Everyone shys away from number closing when they start out. The most important thing is that you grabbed your balls and approached. **** what the rest of these guys have to say. One obstacle at a time my brother.

Any girl, Any place, Anytime!!!

My first approach ever was ****ing last December. I acted totally weak and afc and got rejected. My second approach I received a number and a girl that was interest in me.....

 

[oakraiderz2]

Originally posted by Immaculate
Guys I almost died in a car wreck 6 months ago.

Just think about it.. your life can be gone inan instant.

After my car wreck something clicked in my brain and I will cold approach any girl I see.

Just think about it what if you died tomorrow?

All the things you could have done but didn't cuz u were too pussified to approach.

Not to be a ****hole or anything, but if this actually worked, the world would be in better shape than it is...or maybe itd be worse?

 

[Prof]

haha Thanks Self-Mastery! And thank the rest of you, as well.