So last night,
I went to the club by my self for the first time to check it out and just meet people and try to enjoy myself. I'm really not the club guy and this night in my opinion just enhanced that perspective of me. I mean I enjoyed myself a little and got to taste some drinks I've never had before and hey, I also tried mingling around with a few people including the ladies of course, shootin **** with the staff yada yada yada, but overall I wasn't overly impressed. I tried to get hype with the music (this new hip hop just f*kin erks me cause for the most part, it's garbage!) but I just couldn't do it. It's the musician in me I guess...lol.
My main concern though wasn't really much the club though. I already know that I was mainly there for just experience; knowing where I could take someone and what's involved and/or there. My thing were the ladies.
Now I refuse to call them *****es, but in the same sence, it's like come on! A lot of women complain about the good guys not being around anymore, yet here I go trying to start up basic convo, just trying to shoot the **** and it just ends with cold shoulder (btw this was an extreme hip-hop crowd....ghetto and all...). I know the guard is up, but seriously, to that extent?!? What's the f*kin point then?!?
Though in my head I kind of knew that I'd probably not find anything genuine even on the basic level with such an aggressive atmosphere.
Upside is that I at least tried my hardest to get out my head. I even managed to approach 2 sets out of the probably 5 to 6 girls I approached that night (the selection wasn't impressive either). One was a 3 and the other was a 4, both done improperly considering that the addressable was towards one person in the set and not to everyone. Equally against me though, the sets were kind of dismayed when I approached anyway.
Another upside is that I did catch one number with someone who's thoughts were probably on the same level as mine, which made taking with her incredibly easy and enjoyable, but she imo was nothing impressive, let alone what I'm looking for atm (has a kid). Though I probably will txt her tomorrow to keep her as a friendly contact. Dont really need to escalate with her.
The last upside is that I think I got a glipse at where I want to be when I approach a lady because in my opinion, was the best one out of every one of them today; the second to last. I casually walk up to some girl (not really attractive either that I can give two sh)its about) and just start flowing my conversation, joking about how she's back here when the party is further to the front of the club yada yada yah and the next thing just flowed with notable questions being great open spots for convo if again she also gave two ****s about the convo...which for the most part she didn't anyway....:cuss:
To conclude this lengthy story, I'd say I'm a bit distressed because I was expecting a bit more results for the effort I put in tonight as the non drunk diamond in the rough, but also a bit satisfied that I've learned a bit about the mistakes I'm making with those I'd call 10's. Mystery always says to "NEG" these targets first but I couldn't come up with one, equally, one that I could get away with.
I still got a lot more work to do but let me ask you guys, what's a better place than the club? Despite the fact that I probably will go again but on a better night, I cant really see the factor of quality girls there being of the most sufficient. I'm not looking for a bang job or a one nighter. I've heard bookstores, school (college), stores, but haven't really found somewhere solid. I'm 21 by the way.
I went to the club by my self for the first time to check it out and just meet people and try to enjoy myself. I'm really not the club guy and this night in my opinion just enhanced that perspective of me. I mean I enjoyed myself a little and got to taste some drinks I've never had before and hey, I also tried mingling around with a few people including the ladies of course, shootin **** with the staff yada yada yada, but overall I wasn't overly impressed. I tried to get hype with the music (this new hip hop just f*kin erks me cause for the most part, it's garbage!) but I just couldn't do it. It's the musician in me I guess...lol.
My main concern though wasn't really much the club though. I already know that I was mainly there for just experience; knowing where I could take someone and what's involved and/or there. My thing were the ladies.
Now I refuse to call them *****es, but in the same sence, it's like come on! A lot of women complain about the good guys not being around anymore, yet here I go trying to start up basic convo, just trying to shoot the **** and it just ends with cold shoulder (btw this was an extreme hip-hop crowd....ghetto and all...). I know the guard is up, but seriously, to that extent?!? What's the f*kin point then?!?
Though in my head I kind of knew that I'd probably not find anything genuine even on the basic level with such an aggressive atmosphere.
Upside is that I at least tried my hardest to get out my head. I even managed to approach 2 sets out of the probably 5 to 6 girls I approached that night (the selection wasn't impressive either). One was a 3 and the other was a 4, both done improperly considering that the addressable was towards one person in the set and not to everyone. Equally against me though, the sets were kind of dismayed when I approached anyway.
Another upside is that I did catch one number with someone who's thoughts were probably on the same level as mine, which made taking with her incredibly easy and enjoyable, but she imo was nothing impressive, let alone what I'm looking for atm (has a kid). Though I probably will txt her tomorrow to keep her as a friendly contact. Dont really need to escalate with her.
The last upside is that I think I got a glipse at where I want to be when I approach a lady because in my opinion, was the best one out of every one of them today; the second to last. I casually walk up to some girl (not really attractive either that I can give two sh)its about) and just start flowing my conversation, joking about how she's back here when the party is further to the front of the club yada yada yah and the next thing just flowed with notable questions being great open spots for convo if again she also gave two ****s about the convo...which for the most part she didn't anyway....:cuss:
To conclude this lengthy story, I'd say I'm a bit distressed because I was expecting a bit more results for the effort I put in tonight as the non drunk diamond in the rough, but also a bit satisfied that I've learned a bit about the mistakes I'm making with those I'd call 10's. Mystery always says to "NEG" these targets first but I couldn't come up with one, equally, one that I could get away with.
I still got a lot more work to do but let me ask you guys, what's a better place than the club? Despite the fact that I probably will go again but on a better night, I cant really see the factor of quality girls there being of the most sufficient. I'm not looking for a bang job or a one nighter. I've heard bookstores, school (college), stores, but haven't really found somewhere solid. I'm 21 by the way.
