"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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NobodyCares1

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so as I already wrote a couple of times I'm quite new to DJing... and I often need some tips and motivation... for which this site is great... but still I want to ask something personally...

there's this girl I met on Friday... it happened kinda fast I just came up to her while dancing... put my hands around her stomach and we almost immediately started to kiss... then we danced for a while but she had to go away so she could catch her bus... but I got her number and then kissed her goodbye... the thing is that I want to call her but damn I have almost no idea what to talk about... I don't want to talk for too long either but I'd like to set on a date...

so when should I call her... how should I start... what should I talk about with her and when should I go on a date with her? the perfect time for me would be the weekend but I'm not sure if that's so good for a first date... I also don't want the first date to be too long... so any ideas and tips for me?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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eastcoast15

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1. Chilll dude

It's ****ing great that you pulled that off. You should be happy about that. Nows not the time to freak out and let yourself get all worried about it. In fact the more you think about it most likely the worse you're going to do. Sit back and take a deep breath...

You might screw it up but guess what?

Thats completely ok

When should you call her?
Right now if you like, sooner than later because the interaction wasn't superrrr in depth to the point where you both know each other pretty well and shes going to want to put a bunch of effort into you.

(who knows though you might have been a excellent kisser and shes waiting for your call)

Start with saying hello...
After that... If you had anything memorable from when you guys talked then bring that up just to get the ball rolling. If you had like a inside joke or something like that then go with that.

If things are going well you can be like... hey we should hangout this weekend. (If shes going to put some effort in then might as well make it work for you)

Assuming shes stoked
Then you can take her out, anything works but if you get creative then that works better. The most important thing is that you are spending time together.

Hopefully I at least got you started, good luck man!
 

Jack Wealthy

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^Great advice.

I'd text her first because sometimes girls don't answer random numbers they don't know. Unlike me. Then just talk normally and make a joke or two, ask her out real quick and say you'll keep in touch. Bang done.
 

NobodyCares1

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well we didn't talk much... she just told me her name and later where she's from and that she has to go because the last bus was leaving... so that's the problem :)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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