everywomanshero
Master Don Juan
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I want to keep this very simple, so that even someone who has never had sex before won't get confused. Please try not to laugh at my descriptions, for guys who are experienced it will seem quite humerous. Feel free to lend us explanation of how you fingered it out for yourself.
Kissing
Things you can do include sucking on her upper lip, running a finger or two seductively down her lips and neck, rubbing fingers lightly across the side of her neck, breathing on her neck, smelling her neck and hair, kissing, licking, sucking her nipples. This takes some experimentation to fine tune. I've also found if you do the same thing every single time, it can start to wear off after a while. Back off it for a while, then come back with it a couple of sessions later.
How to find relevant parts in the dark:
The ****oris *when erect* is kind of like a bump. It's located up above the 'main entrance' to the poon cave. If you are at the main entrance, you must go North. If you arrive at the exit, then go WAY north fast! If you arrive at the hairy area above the 'wet areas', then you must go south.
Never use dry fingers to search for things:
There is nothing gross about licking your fingers. I pretty much also do this. It also helps with 'getting inside' with your member later. Don't try entrance/fingering with dry body parts. If wiping spit on your dong turns you off, just rub her crotch with it for a second first. A lot of women are turned on by rubbing your member on her ****oris anyway (again, get some moisture on it from near the 'main entrance').
Oral
This is very hard to explain and get right. Mostly you makeout/neck, finger/suck tits, and then end up here (or something along those lines). You will want to lead up to this. You don't want to go too fast or too slow. if she's pushing your head away from down there, you may be using too much pressure for that moment, and if she's pulling your head in then you may be using too little. Again, it will be required that you know what you are doing by feel. If you feel lost, start near the 'main entrance' and start working North until you find the 'bump'. You don't have to start off directly on it, I prefer to go around it and on the sides and such for a while. The overall effect is to keep her enagged, you don't want her getting bored and thinking about something else, and you don't want to overdue the stimulation before you've even gotten her aroused.
The motion of the ocean
You have to judge the situation's mood to really know this. Is this a situation for a hot quickie in the afternoon, a time to play the dominant male, or a time to just make love? This isn't easy to know, but in your life you will probably encounter all of these.
Impotence Anxiety
I don't have anything scientific on this, but for me deep stress can produce this. I like to do meditation, regular exercise including cardio, and avoid long periods of cold weather. I also found natural skin condoms worked better during the turbalent periods of deep stress than many others (note that it offers less protection). No condom is undoubtably the best for this situation if one is willing to accept some risk.
Other theatrics
"Watching a movie" is a good excuse to lead up to makeout or sex. I've found this very reliable. Pop in movie, turn lights out, start with touching hands, progresss
After you've been together a while, having her close eyes and tickle with a feather (see sexsational secrets for explanation of effect) or even handcuffs can be good every now and again.
Some bubble bath, wine, and candles can produce a romantic bathroom. If you use cheap wine, hide the bottle or wrap it in a towel and pour the drinks. Women tend to know wines better than one might suspect. I have never tried to close anyone this way for the first time, but it's a nice effect for a regular girl. If you're really sosuave, some music is good too.
If you're bathroom is too crowded, then making a nice looking dinner and havign music and candles in the front room is a nice effect. hardwood floors are perfect for this kind of 'dinner by candlelit on the floor together'. You can have a little bed made by using a comforter rolled out on the floor.
Kissing
Things you can do include sucking on her upper lip, running a finger or two seductively down her lips and neck, rubbing fingers lightly across the side of her neck, breathing on her neck, smelling her neck and hair, kissing, licking, sucking her nipples. This takes some experimentation to fine tune. I've also found if you do the same thing every single time, it can start to wear off after a while. Back off it for a while, then come back with it a couple of sessions later.
How to find relevant parts in the dark:
The ****oris *when erect* is kind of like a bump. It's located up above the 'main entrance' to the poon cave. If you are at the main entrance, you must go North. If you arrive at the exit, then go WAY north fast! If you arrive at the hairy area above the 'wet areas', then you must go south.
Never use dry fingers to search for things:
There is nothing gross about licking your fingers. I pretty much also do this. It also helps with 'getting inside' with your member later. Don't try entrance/fingering with dry body parts. If wiping spit on your dong turns you off, just rub her crotch with it for a second first. A lot of women are turned on by rubbing your member on her ****oris anyway (again, get some moisture on it from near the 'main entrance').
Oral
This is very hard to explain and get right. Mostly you makeout/neck, finger/suck tits, and then end up here (or something along those lines). You will want to lead up to this. You don't want to go too fast or too slow. if she's pushing your head away from down there, you may be using too much pressure for that moment, and if she's pulling your head in then you may be using too little. Again, it will be required that you know what you are doing by feel. If you feel lost, start near the 'main entrance' and start working North until you find the 'bump'. You don't have to start off directly on it, I prefer to go around it and on the sides and such for a while. The overall effect is to keep her enagged, you don't want her getting bored and thinking about something else, and you don't want to overdue the stimulation before you've even gotten her aroused.
The motion of the ocean
You have to judge the situation's mood to really know this. Is this a situation for a hot quickie in the afternoon, a time to play the dominant male, or a time to just make love? This isn't easy to know, but in your life you will probably encounter all of these.
Impotence Anxiety
I don't have anything scientific on this, but for me deep stress can produce this. I like to do meditation, regular exercise including cardio, and avoid long periods of cold weather. I also found natural skin condoms worked better during the turbalent periods of deep stress than many others (note that it offers less protection). No condom is undoubtably the best for this situation if one is willing to accept some risk.
Other theatrics
"Watching a movie" is a good excuse to lead up to makeout or sex. I've found this very reliable. Pop in movie, turn lights out, start with touching hands, progresss
After you've been together a while, having her close eyes and tickle with a feather (see sexsational secrets for explanation of effect) or even handcuffs can be good every now and again.
Some bubble bath, wine, and candles can produce a romantic bathroom. If you use cheap wine, hide the bottle or wrap it in a towel and pour the drinks. Women tend to know wines better than one might suspect. I have never tried to close anyone this way for the first time, but it's a nice effect for a regular girl. If you're really sosuave, some music is good too.
If you're bathroom is too crowded, then making a nice looking dinner and havign music and candles in the front room is a nice effect. hardwood floors are perfect for this kind of 'dinner by candlelit on the floor together'. You can have a little bed made by using a comforter rolled out on the floor.