Fire Discussion: Ponder This Quote

[TheException]

"There is NO such thing as a girl who is “perfect.” Stay away from that mentality. Never think that a girl is “different” or “special.” There is no girl in the world who would never cheat, no girl who won’t get bored of you if you play your cards wrong, and no girl who wouldn’t ever leave you. All girls have the capability of doing all these things, what determines whether they do them is YOU; how much interest and attraction you can cultivate, your attitude and mentality, and many other things that YOU are in control of." - Shark(SMGP)

What are the first things that come to your head when reading this quote? Which parts stand out to you the most? Do you happen to agree or disagree with the author?

As for my take.....the biggest part that stands out to me is: "what determines whether they do them is YOU"

Too many guys on sosuave(and the world in general) seek to shift blame to other things/people besides themselves. Its "x's" fault. Its "y's" fault. No damnit......its YOUR FAULT. If you act like an overprotective, jealous, insecure chump.....then YOU DESERVE TO HAVE YOUR GF LEAVE YOU FOR ANOTHER MAN. If you want to smoke pot all day, not do your homework, fail every test and wonder why you are still working minimum wage.....its NOT because of "society" or "conformists".....ITS YOU ACTING LIKE A MORON.

Almost every single thing in our lives we have a hand in controlling. Whenever we can admit mistakes......is when we can actually see personal growth. And I 100% agree with the notion about attraction levels. This should be the focus of every relationship.

Chime in fellas....

 

[narcissist]

I agree with the quote.

Disagree with your take on society.

Society is a more powerful entity than your will power.


For example. A person in Uganda that has been born with aids, no food, no water, no health care no matter how strong their will power is, is not going to rise to the top of society.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Originally Posted by backbreaker
One of the things I did when I first got on this forum was go back and point out something that I did wrong and find my fault in every relationship that ended.

That's good, and I've done the same thing. It took me years....and years, to get over the one that got away (highschool). And for the longest time I tried to figure it out. It wasn't until I first read "The Game", to where my eyes were opened. I had been searching, I knew there was something (like Neo), but I didn't know where to look, then what do you know, a book store. Because of this, and things like this forum, I can pinpoint exact times in our relationship where I acted like a complete and utter wuss. I know exactly why she originally fell for me. I know why she told me she loved me when she did (she told me first btw ). I know why at times, she became distant, I know all of the chances she gave me (to turn back into a man). I know it all. My conclusion:I was the one that made her leave me.

^My one relationship where I got cheated on (branch swing).

I was going to start a thread, a challenge to SoSuave posters who got cheated on. Now that you're "unplugged", go back to your plugged in days, and try to figure out why she cheated on you. Could it have been something that you did? Or was it just because she was a wh0re? And if that's still the reason, then, why did you make a wh0re your gf?

 

[VladPatton]

I disagree with the quote. You can only do so much. If she wants to leave you, she will. The same is true for the reverse. Some chicks will stay with an abusive looser no matter what and will never leave him.

This generalization that shıt is 100% your fault is from the PUA community trying to get you into whatever system they are selling.

Humans are weird, fickle, and personalities, likes, ideas, and minds change. I cannot agree that it's a guy's full fault for a girl giving him the boot 100% of the time, no way.

There are people with PhD's who can't figure this shıt out.

 

[j.619]

^My one relationship where I got cheated on (branch swing).

I was going to start a thread, a challenge to SoSuave posters who got cheated on. Now that you're "unplugged", go back to your plugged in days, and try to figure out why she cheated on you. Could it have been something that you did? Or was it just because she was a wh0re? And if that's still the reason, then, why did you make a wh0re your gf?

yes, just yes.

Got cheated on ONCE and never let it happen again. Beta past is just that... in the past. Granted, I didn't spread her legs for her, but I was controlling and insecure. Decision to cheat doesn't get much easier than that for b*tches. Moral of the story is to be high value. If you're not, fake it 'til you make it.