So I've been doing the PU thing since 1997 when I started reading Ross Jeffries' "Get Laid Newsletter." My success didn't really start to take off until about 2003 when I began running game (patterns, weasel phrases, etc) in online communication (ie: writing).
Lately I was thinking about professionals--lawyers, doctors, architects, engineers--and how, after they really get settled in their businesses, they pretty much all develop a specialty, a niche.
I think your niche chooses you, rather than vice-versa. Every professional I know who's been doing a thing for a long time realizes the niche that will most efficiently make him money and gradually gravitates toward it. One uncle of mine is an architect and only does single-story industrial buildings. Another uncle of mine is a lawyer who does trusts and estates only. They didn't start out doing those things but as their careers progressed they "fell into" those niches because they catered to their talents and predilections, they could earn the most money per hour that way, and through sheer luck as well.
For pick-up, I personally do only online dating. Period. I don't approach women in bars or clubs or anywhere other than online. In fact if I'm in these other venues I will specifically not even attempt PU in any way. It's like a tax lawyer whose nephew asks him about a DUI and the uncle says, "sorry I only do tax law. I'd be happy to recommend somebody though."
Online gets the most bang for my buck, and caters to my writing ability and the fact that I look fairly good "on paper." Movement into this niche came in 2002/2003 after several years of trying to pick up women in bars, coffee shops, college campuses and other places. It just sort of happened.
So I think when people try to tell others where they should hit on chicks (eg., "no online dating" or "no clubs" or whatever) it's misleading. If for some reason you manage to attract church chicks to your d!ck then you should be picking them up in church.
Mystery's clearly good in clubs, bars, those sort of places, with lots of people around him. Ross Jeffries is better in quiet places in one-on-one interactions with women. Other "gurus" are good in other places and other situations.
I think a lot of guys who follow these methods would be best in another niche. I think the mistake is made when they try to mold themselves into someone they're not. Because you don't choose your niche, your niche chooses you. You have to be open to it and when you're trying to be someone you're not, the process fails.
I believe you can consider yourself a beginner when you're trying out lots of different niches, an intermediate once your niche has found you, and an expert once you're begun to master that niche. I don't think it's wise to be a "general practitioner" because the time you waste in venues that aren't your natural niche would be better used in venues where you'll pull more (and higher-quality) tail with less time and effort.
Of course if your situation drastically changes your niche may change as well. One of the big benefits for me is that online dating is free--hanging out in clubs and bars ain't--and I don't have lots of cash. So if I won the lottery and had money to burn then perhaps my niche would change. But until that happens I can get much more poon for my time, money and effort in the online arena.
Of course some guys will say that a true PUA can pick up women anywhere at any time, and that might be true. But I think for most people, they will have certain strengths and weaknesses and those should be best used in a specialty rather than broadly applied to lots of very different situations. That is if you're looking for efficient use of your time and generally are looking for more poon and better poon for your time and effort. Now, if you're looking for a 'soul mate' then all bets are off.
Since this is the "mature" section I assume that many guys here have a niche. I'd be interested to hear about yours.
Lately I was thinking about professionals--lawyers, doctors, architects, engineers--and how, after they really get settled in their businesses, they pretty much all develop a specialty, a niche.
I think your niche chooses you, rather than vice-versa. Every professional I know who's been doing a thing for a long time realizes the niche that will most efficiently make him money and gradually gravitates toward it. One uncle of mine is an architect and only does single-story industrial buildings. Another uncle of mine is a lawyer who does trusts and estates only. They didn't start out doing those things but as their careers progressed they "fell into" those niches because they catered to their talents and predilections, they could earn the most money per hour that way, and through sheer luck as well.
For pick-up, I personally do only online dating. Period. I don't approach women in bars or clubs or anywhere other than online. In fact if I'm in these other venues I will specifically not even attempt PU in any way. It's like a tax lawyer whose nephew asks him about a DUI and the uncle says, "sorry I only do tax law. I'd be happy to recommend somebody though."
Online gets the most bang for my buck, and caters to my writing ability and the fact that I look fairly good "on paper." Movement into this niche came in 2002/2003 after several years of trying to pick up women in bars, coffee shops, college campuses and other places. It just sort of happened.
So I think when people try to tell others where they should hit on chicks (eg., "no online dating" or "no clubs" or whatever) it's misleading. If for some reason you manage to attract church chicks to your d!ck then you should be picking them up in church.
Mystery's clearly good in clubs, bars, those sort of places, with lots of people around him. Ross Jeffries is better in quiet places in one-on-one interactions with women. Other "gurus" are good in other places and other situations.
I think a lot of guys who follow these methods would be best in another niche. I think the mistake is made when they try to mold themselves into someone they're not. Because you don't choose your niche, your niche chooses you. You have to be open to it and when you're trying to be someone you're not, the process fails.
I believe you can consider yourself a beginner when you're trying out lots of different niches, an intermediate once your niche has found you, and an expert once you're begun to master that niche. I don't think it's wise to be a "general practitioner" because the time you waste in venues that aren't your natural niche would be better used in venues where you'll pull more (and higher-quality) tail with less time and effort.
Of course if your situation drastically changes your niche may change as well. One of the big benefits for me is that online dating is free--hanging out in clubs and bars ain't--and I don't have lots of cash. So if I won the lottery and had money to burn then perhaps my niche would change. But until that happens I can get much more poon for my time, money and effort in the online arena.
Of course some guys will say that a true PUA can pick up women anywhere at any time, and that might be true. But I think for most people, they will have certain strengths and weaknesses and those should be best used in a specialty rather than broadly applied to lots of very different situations. That is if you're looking for efficient use of your time and generally are looking for more poon and better poon for your time and effort. Now, if you're looking for a 'soul mate' then all bets are off.
Since this is the "mature" section I assume that many guys here have a niche. I'd be interested to hear about yours.