I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Where the hell do you find or get these Asian women?Yeah - my last g/f was chinese and I speak a bit. I've had Japanese and Vietnamese girls too. Totally agree with you that Asian's a good option but I'm talking about a bit of regular local practice to up my skills not a two week millionaire poonfest. I'm sure that the 40s DJs don't go to the pubs/clubs the guys in their 20s/30s do. It changes - chasing still attractive women in their 30s who aren't too screwed up - you're hunting unicorns most are wifed up with kids.
If you've got any mates willing to wing man, I see a a few middle aged women in bars in the city. I think the city provides more of an after work bar environment.Guys I'm resurrecting this old thread because I'm still having a problem with it. What I can't work out is I've gone to online dating because I'm pretty time poor at the moment.
Online there seems to be plenty of attractive women in their thirties. But of course the nature of the environment means its attention w**** City.
So I'd like to approach in the real world if nothing else just to improve my skills. But I really don't seem to see the same girls. If I go to the local shopping centre or the local market I just don't see any chicks in that age bracket that aren't wearing a ring.
Things are a little bit different here than in the states we don't have the same after work bar culture. I could try a fancy Hotel bars but I'm going to end up burning a lot of cash if I go that path.
Help me out here guys this is doing my head in.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I would recommend somewhere you would find professionals. Based on your description I reckon you are interested in the more intelligent females. And I imagine the city is probably the best place to find a lot without going to a bar. Otherwise maybe some sports group or other type of meet up? A conference maybe? I'm only 19 and I'm a production manager in a cold room so I don't deal with many professional people and wouldn't be able to suggest many places but I'm sure you will have some ideas. In summary, scout places where you'll find professionals.Yeah approaching in bars was never my strength end my only two single mates are unredeemably blue pill. They whinge when I chat up girls
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.