"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Finding the big city post grad hookup culture scene even wilder than college.

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I went to a division 1 school in the big 10 and they college is supposed to be the peak of hookup culture in most cases. What I found was that if you were in a decent fraternity house or played a sport, it was true, but for most other guys it wasn't.

All of it was about status and girls who might have liked certain guys didn't go for them due to fear of judgment from their sisters. Maybe it's because Greek Life was pretty big at my school, for a Big 10 school that is.

I also found that girls were more weary of the guys they hung around and rarely ventured out of their cliques in most cases.

I moved to NYC a year after graduating college and I am finding that the hookup culture here is much wilder and crazier.

It's like, moving to a big city after college has become the new moving to college.

In college, girls were weary of who they ****ed and hung out with, not wanting to break from their cliques.

In the big city post grad scene, it is open season.

They easily make out with strangers at bars, easier to take them home, and a lot of them are on Tinder compared to their college days.

Am I on to something?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Tonight a Russian beauty who lives in NYC wrote to me. We used to live together. I loved her so much I cried the last time I kissed her goodbye (thankfully she was asleep at the time). I haven't seen her in 4 years because NYC is not the city for me. But Escape From New York is a great movie.

Girls these days are more easy-come, easy-go. They can't be easier with you and not easier with everyone else, so the door swings both ways.

My favorite spot in NYC to get breakfast is the cafe at Iroqois near Times Square (mainly for tourists I now realize). At least in 2012 they had scrambled eggs with caviar for $19.99.
 

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In the big city post grad scene, it is open season.
As has been said many times, location is huge. College/uni is OK for pulling, but it is a narrow market and familiarity can work against the objectives.

I went to uni in London and still live here 15 years later. Sometimes I am tempted to move further afield, but other times it almost seems pointless as the world pretty much comes to us, and different opportunities arise every week.

All I'll say is mix it up; go to different venues and different types of places. Anonymity is your friend. Personally, I'm going to start hitting more high end bars late in the evening to start attracting top calibre specimens, rather than grimy clubs that I have been used to.
 
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College/uni is OK for pulling, but it is a narrow market and familiarity can work against the objectives.

All I'll say is mix it up; go to different venues and different types of places. Anonymity is your friend. Personally, I'm going to start hitting more high end bars late in the evening to start attracting top calibre specimens, rather than grimy clubs that I have been used to.
So much truth, your market is limited in uni and word gets around fast!
 
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Tonight a Russian beauty who lives in NYC wrote to me. We used to live together. I loved her so much I cried the last time I kissed her goodbye (thankfully she was asleep at the time). I haven't seen her in 4 years because NYC is not the city for me. But Escape From New York is a great movie.

Girls these days are more easy-come, easy-go. They can't be easier with you and not easier with everyone else, so the door swings both ways.

My favorite spot in NYC to get breakfast is the cafe at Iroqois near Times Square (mainly for tourists I now realize). At least in 2012 they had scrambled eggs with caviar for $19.99.
See Big Neil

I do want older guys to do well because it gives me hope, think I want to be married with kids in my 30s? No ****ing way!
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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