"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Finding the big city post grad hookup culture scene even wilder than college.

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I went to a division 1 school in the big 10 and they college is supposed to be the peak of hookup culture in most cases. What I found was that if you were in a decent fraternity house or played a sport, it was true, but for most other guys it wasn't.

All of it was about status and girls who might have liked certain guys didn't go for them due to fear of judgment from their sisters. Maybe it's because Greek Life was pretty big at my school, for a Big 10 school that is.

I also found that girls were more weary of the guys they hung around and rarely ventured out of their cliques in most cases.

I moved to NYC a year after graduating college and I am finding that the hookup culture here is much wilder and crazier.

It's like, moving to a big city after college has become the new moving to college.

In college, girls were weary of who they ****ed and hung out with, not wanting to break from their cliques.

In the big city post grad scene, it is open season.

They easily make out with strangers at bars, easier to take them home, and a lot of them are on Tinder compared to their college days.

Am I on to something?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Tonight a Russian beauty who lives in NYC wrote to me. We used to live together. I loved her so much I cried the last time I kissed her goodbye (thankfully she was asleep at the time). I haven't seen her in 4 years because NYC is not the city for me. But Escape From New York is a great movie.

Girls these days are more easy-come, easy-go. They can't be easier with you and not easier with everyone else, so the door swings both ways.

My favorite spot in NYC to get breakfast is the cafe at Iroqois near Times Square (mainly for tourists I now realize). At least in 2012 they had scrambled eggs with caviar for $19.99.
 

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In the big city post grad scene, it is open season.
As has been said many times, location is huge. College/uni is OK for pulling, but it is a narrow market and familiarity can work against the objectives.

I went to uni in London and still live here 15 years later. Sometimes I am tempted to move further afield, but other times it almost seems pointless as the world pretty much comes to us, and different opportunities arise every week.

All I'll say is mix it up; go to different venues and different types of places. Anonymity is your friend. Personally, I'm going to start hitting more high end bars late in the evening to start attracting top calibre specimens, rather than grimy clubs that I have been used to.
 
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College/uni is OK for pulling, but it is a narrow market and familiarity can work against the objectives.

All I'll say is mix it up; go to different venues and different types of places. Anonymity is your friend. Personally, I'm going to start hitting more high end bars late in the evening to start attracting top calibre specimens, rather than grimy clubs that I have been used to.
So much truth, your market is limited in uni and word gets around fast!
 
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Tonight a Russian beauty who lives in NYC wrote to me. We used to live together. I loved her so much I cried the last time I kissed her goodbye (thankfully she was asleep at the time). I haven't seen her in 4 years because NYC is not the city for me. But Escape From New York is a great movie.

Girls these days are more easy-come, easy-go. They can't be easier with you and not easier with everyone else, so the door swings both ways.

My favorite spot in NYC to get breakfast is the cafe at Iroqois near Times Square (mainly for tourists I now realize). At least in 2012 they had scrambled eggs with caviar for $19.99.
See Big Neil

I do want older guys to do well because it gives me hope, think I want to be married with kids in my 30s? No ****ing way!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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