"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Finding balance? Help me out guys!

Faca

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Ok, here the problem:

I'm succesfull with girls, cause i only date chicks that are interested in me. In the past, have had weeks with 3 dates with 3 different chicks. A most of the time 2 where chasing me etc.
In the last two months, haven't had any dates.. but cause, i didn't put any effort in. Girls have asked my number, and keep getting in contact with me. My testosterone levels are OK, work out 3 times a week.. do many stuff etc. Its no depression either!

My Problem now is that, i have no desire to go on dates.. or to sarge. Feel like i'm wasting my time, and can do a lot of better things.
The problem might be that i only see getting the chick with a date or sarging.

It's like i don't have any balance in all this, as if something has been corrupted in my system!

Happend to any of you guys, and which advice could you give me?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Well from my perspective, I see that you have no interest in these girls that are "chasing" you. I'd recommend that you take the time to try and be the one to make the move for a change. You said that you only date chicks that are interested in you, well it'd obviously be different if you were the one to try and make the attempt to a random girl that you might like and just introduce yourself. My advice would be to stop loathing around in your safe zone where the same type of girls throw themselves at you, and try and aim for a girl that really catches your eye but you never met. And if you can't find a girl that really catches your attention, that just means your hanging around the wrong/same places.
 

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Yep, I went through this same thing for a while, after my last LTR ended, I went stragiht to AFC hell. But after I recovered from that and saw the light again, I was still not motivated. I couldn't figure out why either.

Sounds like your just not being challenged enough. It's a natural psychological thing. The girls that obviously want you, dont interest you now right? See, men and women aren't that different, when it comes down to it.

My suggestion, just go on more dates, with more girls. You'll get back into the way of things soon enough. From what it sounds like, your just going for these girls that already want you, sounds pretty boring to me. I like a good challenge, (dont confuse this with challenging mind games of course)

Soon enough you'll find some girl that you can't figure out, and sends you all sorts of mixed signals, soon after you'll be back here posting about it :)

Vicious circle eh?
 

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you make it soud, as if i don't have enough challenge.. with might be.

Last year, had some negative experiences.. LTR which, went wrong.. and one-itis..

Recovered from the one-itis, but look at things differently.. want to protect my heart.. but as it seems, it's very boring.

Anyway, i think the real problem comes from within.. it's myself..

And i feel that when improving some things, i better cannot be involved into any relationship or anything, cause it takes my time...

btw. Have a very busy and active life..
 

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one last thing; a lot of girls i meet.. live one or more hours away from me...
So i don't go out to the same places...

This long distance, is what i think also a problem..
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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