Finding a sense of humor.

[drewsg]

Anyone out there without a sense of humor? It's hard to admit, but going through a lot of stressful moments have caused me to take myself more seriously than I should. At my old store, someone even called me Mr Serious. Any women that I talk too from work say they can't believe how different I am once they get to know me. My problem isn't actually getting women, I can get smiles and stares all day, but when it comes to breaking the ice with something funny or witty, I fall flat on my face. Then the awkward moment comes, and if I'm lucky, I'll still get her number.

I don't know how ridiculous this sounds, but I've been thinking about hitting up local comedy clubs in the area. Not to steal jokes or anything, but just see what is that makes laugh. I know a lot of people say it's not critical, but I think it's an important thing to have.

What's your take?

 

[women haze]

I feel your pain as I am the same way. I wish I could help you but I try to be funny by upping the tone of my voice like Chris Tucker and say someone off the wall. Unfortunately that never works.....

 

[ALPHAROMEO]

Negs

use those 2 negs all the time

neg1 I CAN T QUITE UNDERSTAND YOU ARE YOU FROM THE COUNTRY?
or you r spitting on me !!! or your nose goes red where yu re talking to me

NEG 2 YOU R NOT WEARING A BASEBALL CAP OR A HAT OR A HEADDRESS I THOUGHT ALL THE WOMEN HERE WERE STLL WEARING CAPS HEADDRESSES WHAT HAVE YOU! you D sure look good in one of these by the way do you think women should go back to wearing corsets ? IMAGINE YOUR BANK MANGER WERARING ONE?

think of something outmoded old fashioned like a headdress or maybe the opposite high heels

 

[ALPHAROMEO]

also put on a FRENCH accent that s very attractive to the women and funny
check out FRENCH actors emsculating the FRENCH language on YOUTUBE ( louis MALLE MARION COTILLARD maurice CHEVALIER )

 

[Desert Fox]

use those 2 negs all the time

neg1 I CAN T QUITE UNDERSTAND YOU ARE YOU FROM THE COUNTRY?
or you r spitting on me !!! or your nose goes red where yu re talking to me

NEG 2 YOU R NOT WEARING A BASEBALL CAP OR A HAT OR A HEADDRESS I THOUGHT ALL THE WOMEN HERE WERE STLL WEARING CAPS HEADDRESSES WHAT HAVE YOU! you D sure look good in one of these by the way do you think women should go back to wearing corsets ? IMAGINE YOUR BANK MANGER WERARING ONE?

think of something outmoded old fashioned like a headdress or maybe the opposite high heels

How is this funny?

Just drop a dead baby joke and you'll get digits bro.

Just kidding, but humor is developed through PRACTICE. I started off saying random **** in my group and people were like "WTF" then one day someone laughed and I was like "WTF DID SOMEONE JUST LAUGH" and after that it was jsut easy breezy.:cheer:

 

[scrouds]

IMPROV COMEDY TRAINING.

There's a school near me that teaches improv. I would think this would be best way to learn to be funny, as the training is totally about thinking on your feet.

I'm not sure if they have anything where you live like that.

 

[King Valmont]

Drewsd,

You do not have to be a comedian to get women.... your a smart guy you know this..... If you want to do it as a hobby or passion I say go for it.... otherwise being too funny will actually hurt your game.... let humor be a little spice to your personality... use too much of it and it will come off try hard and actually turn people off.... Many guys who are serious can use little humor and use intensity to get women....

You need to figure out yourself who you are and what works best for you.... Some guys out there are the fun party guys who get girls easily on humor only.... yet they know when enough is enough...

There are also guys out there who are real men... serious... direct.... and powerful... & women also find this attractive... Study from the best out there (actors in movies are perfect examples) I have a show on the best male role models out there (podcasts) and find an actor you can identify with, take notes and try it out...

For good comedy role models:

Watch Eddie Murphy Raw,
Dave Chappelle (His First HBO Show)


John Wayne wasn't a comedian (tough, straight to the point, rarely cracked a joke) but he pulled alot of ass.....

Learn to improve yourself in every way and it will continue to just get easier and easier..

 

[Elmoshow21]

Read the book Comedy Writing Secrets if you want to fully understand the dynamics of humor.

 

[FairShake]

Either you have it or you don't.

I went YEARS thinking I had it and trying to be funny but I'm just not. Maybe you aren't. If you aren't a shy person who gets tongue-tied then whatever thoughts and quips you're serving up aren't cutting it. And that's ok. Most people aren't funny. Seriously, just take a listen to what normal everyday "funny" conversation consists of. Even for an unfunny dude like me, I can spot when somebody is laughing with the crowd. And usually...they are.

Be with the crowd and you will score a point or two.