Finding a date for my fraternity formal is brutal. Tips?

[starfishandcoffee]

having a particularly brutal dry spell right now, and this situation just sticks an exclamation point onto it.

my formal's on May 1, and I've just been turned down by my fifth girl. (I'm *not* asking the one I'm fooling around with right now, since she's in a relationship.)

Girl 1 - was actually a sweetheart about it - she checked her calendar, and she's not going to be in town that week.

Girl 2 - the one I took last year we're not on good terms, really, but we've grown to tolerate each other and occasionally have lunch. she's going with one of my other brothers already.

Girl 3 - has a history with one of my other brothers, since he's too chicken to ask her out but goes nuts whenever a guy talks to her. she thought it would be too awkward to work, since he's gonna be there.

Girl 4 - at a party we had on Friday, in one of the sororities. "Formals cost money. I'm not even going to go to my own." Yeah, OK.

Girl 5 - in a student group with me, she thinks pretty highly of me and I get her laughing pretty regularly. asked her out 5 hours ago, and...complete radio silence.

Not really at my wit's end here, since I have a couple of weeks left. but I want to bring someone that:

A. I have a shot with sexually.
B. I asked myself. I don't want to be fixed up with anyone, I'm too proud for that.

At this point, should I just start asking classmates and every female acquaintance on my phone list?

 

[Rival]

friends are a valuable resource, let your pride slide if it gets you a hot girl? who cares? Don't limit yourself due to pride.

 

[nismo-4]

having a particularly brutal dry spell right now, and this situation just sticks an exclamation point onto it.

my formal's on May 1, and I've just been turned down by my fifth girl. (I'm *not* asking the one I'm fooling around with right now, since she's in a relationship.)

Girl 1 - was actually a sweetheart about it - she checked her calendar, and she's not going to be in town that week.

Or she has low interest in you.

Girl 2 - the one I took last year we're not on good terms, really, but we've grown to tolerate each other and occasionally have lunch. she's going with one of my other brothers already.

You are just a friend to this girl.

Girl 3 - has a history with one of my other brothers, since he's too chicken to ask her out but goes nuts whenever a guy talks to her. she thought it would be too awkward to work, since he's gonna be there.

She thought you weren't attractive and she has her eyes on the other brother.

Girl 4 - at a party we had on Friday, in one of the sororities. "Formals cost money. I'm not even going to go my own."
Yeah, OK.

She wouldn't say this to Brad Pitt. She doesn't find you attractive either.

Girl 5 - in a student group with me, she thinks pretty highly of me and I get her laughing pretty regularly. asked her out 5 hours ago, and...complete radio silence.

She just wants you to give her attention. Block this girl unless you want to join her orbiters.

Not really at my wit's end here, since I have a couple of weeks left. but I want to bring someone that:

A. I have a shot with sexually.
B. I asked myself. I don't want to be fixed up with anyone, I'm too proud for that.

At this point, should I just start asking classmates and every female acquaintance on my phone list?

At this point, see if your friends can help. What do you have to lose?

 

[RangerMIke]

You have to be kidding right... you are having a problem getting a date to a frat dance.... really?

Okay.... just freaking go around and ask girls all over campus. Walk up introduce yourself... joke around with her a bit, ask her out... if she says no move on.... the number will work in your favor. Just keep fvcking asking until someone says yes.

My guess is that you should have success in about an hour.

 

[starfishandcoffee]

At this point, see if your friends can help. What do you have to lose?

I've always hated asking for help, and I'm afraid that if I end up doing that, the girl's going to know I was "helped" asking her out to formal. I'd rather have no date than be seen as a huge vagina that can't get his own dates.

You have to be kidding right... you are having a problem getting a date to a frat dance.... really?

Okay.... just freaking go around and ask girls all over campus. Walk up introduce yourself... joke around with her a bit, ask her out... if she says no move on.... the number will work in your favor. Just keep fvcking asking until someone says yes.

My guess is that you should have success in about an hour.

trust me - if I get to 8 girls who say "no", then I'm going into berserker mode and doing exactly this. I am absolutely determined to bring a girl to this - I was fixed up last year and I hated it.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

Ask your brothers if their dates have any sorority sisters that want to go. Your chances of getting laid will drop unless shes a hoe. Man, I had it rougher than you and even i managed to get dates lol.

 

[badboyjmm]

If anything go alone. It seem like you want to take the opportunity to end your dry-spell which is cool, but it might be the reason why you are not able to get a date.

It's pretty much an unwritten rule but if a girl accept an invitation to go to a fraternity formal, she's expected to sleep with the dude.

Hopefully you will manage to find a cute chick to go with and bang !

 

[Mike32ct]

Don't give up. I got rejected five times for the senior prom. I went with the sixth chick.

The problem with getting "help" or "fixed up" is that it can lead to friend zone. Do whatever you can to find someone yourself.

Being "helped" can only work if they find someone who already likes you.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

If anything go alone. It seem like you want to take the opportunity to end your dry-spell which is cool, but it might be the reason why you are not able to get a date.

It's pretty much an unwritten rule but if a girl accept an invitation to go to a fraternity formal, she's expected to sleep with the dude.

Hopefully you will manage to find a cute chick to go with and bang !

No, she's not!!!!! The greek community does not need any more rape accusations ruining it's image. If she does not want to have sex than she will tell or run off and sleep with her sisters in another room haha.

Getting helped is how most of my frat brothers met their girls. They literally had friends from their high school join a sorority and hook them up with their sorority sisters. However, ff you put them in a neutral setting than they would fail miserably. Cold approaching random girls is like trying to make a million dollars by working 80 hours a week for 10 dollars an hour.

 

[dasein]

You have to be kidding right... you are having a problem getting a date to a frat dance.... really?

This used to happen to me all the time in college, the "big weekend" where you have to spend 72 or more hours taking care of a date. It's not that bizarre, and I was doing well with women and sex generally at the time. Plus I was broke most of the time, and these things can get expensive fast.

OP, consider taking a female friend to these things, a lower maintenance, no drama girl whom you can have fun with no sexual pressure. Do your laying during normal times and just have fun at the big parties. After lots of stressful dates with prima donna women I was trying to screw or impress, I learned this lesson and started having far more fun at these things. You don't need big deal parties to get laid, just have fun at the big parties and get laid during other times.

 

[Trump]

I've always hated asking for help, and I'm afraid that if I end up doing that, the girl's going to know I was "helped" asking her out to formal. I'd rather have no date than be seen as a huge vagina that can't get his own dates.

Trust me bro, it will be worse going alone than being set up.

Go with the flow, see what happens. You think everyone is good and sharp that they don't need help? You think no one has been set up/makes mistakes? Politicians go blow up cities and kill innocent people over money, then they come on tv smiling, standing up straight, and being all confident. "Sorry, we were wrong, but it's good we did it anyway."

Lower the ego and if you are set up, take it.

trust me - if I get to 8 girls who say "no", then I'm going into berserker mode and doing exactly this. I am absolutely determined to bring a girl to this - I was fixed up last year and I hated it.

Be careful, when you absolutely have to do something they will sense it and pull back/make your head spin/make fun of you.

Again, go with the flow. Put your best foot forward and let others decide what they will.

 

[mangotot]

Go with your brother.