"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Find your style!

arutha

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People seem to spend so much time here focusing on what to say, how to be C&F, meeting women.. I think style is very much underestimated.

If you are wearing clothes that you are comfortable and happy with, and most importantly that make you feel more sexy, you will notice a huge boost to your confidence, and (especially if the style is good) the way women in public interact with you. Find what makes you feel like a million bucks and walk with more pride and confidence!

I believe this is going to differ a lot from person to person depending on your own looks and personality, so post your style if you have found it to give inspiration. Plain and boring gets you nowhere.

I used to wear polo shirts, then in the last month or so I have started wearing full button up shirts that you might wear at important meetings or in an office job. I have noticed a huge difference, I feel a lot sharper and better looking, a feel more successful and sexier, thus I carry myself with more confidence and happiness. I am finding a lot more women are actually initiating small talk with me in public, and I can open for random situational chatter so much easier and get better results.

Do not underestimate making yourself look good.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Dubh

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argyle sweater vest and my 6' wheat boot timberlands do it for me and sometimes wearing my j's make me feel like mike lol
 
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PoopofMauricio

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Meh, style isn't that important. It'a all about swagger my man, swagger! :trouble:
 

King Turi

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Haha, seriously, it doesn't have much to do with what you wear.

I wound up with a chicks number last night, and got her to come around my place and we chatted and stuff for ages, and I was wearing a tank top and boardies when we met.
Her friend like full grabbed my arm and forced me to meet her and stuff, I've had it happen a few times, but yeah, usually the chick isn't that great.

This chick was actually really cute, sucks she's going back to her hometown tomorrow, probably gonna move back up here in a few months though, I guess chill with her then.

But yeah, like I said, tank top and boardies for me.

Then again, they did see me when I was like singing and playing guitar and stuff and for some reason that has an effect on people massively.
 

imarockstar

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Yeah it wasnt the boardies, it was def. the guitar and singing. You exuded confidence through your passions. But I can see what King Turi is getting at. It's more for people who are finding their inner game. Back when I had little to no confidence, I noticed I was a lot more social and seductive when I was well dressed than when I looked like I just rolled out of bed.

But I totally agree with the title. Find your style. It's not about wearing what everyone else is just because it's a name brand. It's about wearing what you feel comfortable in. The style that makes you you, as opposed to some poser trying to fit in.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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