Find real, mature men in your life to look up to and learn from

[jhonny9546]

I know it might sound strange to say, but many of us grew up without a father figure.
Because of that, we often have to make a deep internal effort to truly become men ourselves.
Finding a mentor doesn’t just help you channel your growth, it also makes life feel much more meaningful and fulfilling.


So how did you go about finding the right men and environments in your own life?

 

[BaronOfHair]

So how did you go about finding the right men and environments in your own life?

Drop by Dagobah. You'll likely encounter at least one

 

[Smok1nAce]

Find tough/mean but honest men.

Here’s where you won’t find them in cubicle jobs, or jobs where you answer to a lot of women.

 

[jhonny9546]

Find tough/mean but honest men.

Gardeners, Manual Workers, Electricians, Plumbers.
I have many examples, and they are all men with risky finances.

Why them and not the office ones?

 

[Manure Spherian]

So how did you go about finding the right men and environments in your own life?

I actually did much self introspection and turned to certain authors. Then from there I stuck with or found the right friends, who are all decent, caring men. Perhaps the suggestion above for mean men would work for some. For me, it wouldn’t.

 

[Travel memoir21]

Godly Conservative Men, the truck driver praying type - Christian type whose got a family, Fire fighters and noble paramedics, martial arts instructors, your local pastor and priest and rugged, connoisseur dudes of fine taste eager for a casual conversations in indie Cigar and pipe bars are good places to start.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Godly Conservative Men, the truck driver praying type - Christian type whose got a family...

From such men we receive tutelage in the fine art of finding Biblical justifications for littering the nation with the corpses of a few hundred strangled hookers, and mistaking F-cker Carlson for a modern-day Mark Twain

 

[plumber]

Gardeners, Manual Workers, Electricians, Plumbers.
I have many examples, and they are all men with risky finances.

Why them and not the office ones?

generally those manual workers will be in better physical health. That in turn affects how the pretense and mind work. They usually will be more in tune with emotions.
Emotions are everything.

its also perfectly possible that an office worker who trains hard in some physical thing such as boxing or other.. will be the same, and then they also have the money.