"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Find it hard to like most the women my age (53)

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Just a bit of a whiny thread, but finding it hard to dig the women my age. One chick I was considering, had this red hair and lips... met her again and the first half inch of her hair was entirely grey.

Not having a go at her, we all age. But I saw that, then I sort of imagined her without the make up and hair dye and my c0ck sort of decided 'no thanks'

Sucks getting older.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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englishman said:
Just a bit of a whiny thread, but finding it hard to dig the women my age. One chick I was considering, had this red hair and lips... met her again and the first half inch of her hair was entirely grey.

Not having a go at her, we all age. But I saw that, then I sort of imagined her without the make up and hair dye and my c0ck sort of decided 'no thanks'

Sucks getting older.
We all age. Let her give you some head and see how you feel then.
 

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So don't - the rule is you can go half your age + 7 in the older parts of the world.

Depends on your citizenship status. If its american you're going to be a hot property in mexico. I'd be working out a lot - thats non-negotiable at 53 just for toning and facial structure, learning a little spanish especially some sayings you can mix in 'mi casa su casa' that kind of stuff and planning your x-border adventures.
 

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But be prepped to do the numbers. There are girls who don't mind an age gap - your job is to find them. Reminds me of the definition of a job hunt - wading through 200 nos so you can get to that yes.
 

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englishman said:
Sucks getting older.
OH HELL YEAH.
I jumping aboard this rant even though there is zero that can be done about it. F*ck this aging $hit. Biatches aging fatly with terrible personalities. Me getting wrinkles and worn out. **** it all to hell.

The last few months I have been slaying girls like a mother f*cker. I am literally fuc.k worn as I type this, but have another plate date set up in an hour. I can barely move and its a wonder my di*k isn't worn down to a nub.

My friend said to me the other night " Dude slow down, your killing yourself"
I just said
"one day I will be old and regret not having done more while I was younger". I'm in a puzzy flood at the moment and am taking full advantage of it.

You always think you have more time than you do. Between work and personal advancement its easy to just sit back and say "Tomorrow I'll hit it up". Man, you have to chase, do, grab and take advantage of whatever you want in life straight away.

Some older gentleman set me off that said something similar to englishman. Somehow I deciphered it as 'time to go on a sex spree'. I was just about to quit, but englishmans post has hardened my resolve to put a few more racing stripes down the side of hithard jnr.
Yes, its shallow as it gets. But hey, someones gotta do it.

Ahhhh nothing like a good rant and brag at the same time
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Date younger - pursue when you have high currency

I always date/sex younger woman. I like the earlier comment re 1/2 your age plus 7 years - works for me. A while ago I hit up a woman who was less than 1/2 my age (legal I may add!0 and that worked really well.

I DO think its key to:

- workout and make the best of your physique
- groom yourself well
- exude confidence not arrogance
- take the lead. So many men dont or wont do this and women HATE that
- use body language and posture and deportment in social situations. Again, women do pick up on that

At present I have a plate that is 26 years younger than me. She has VERY high IL and is the same ethnicity and country as I am. It can be done.

I agree with the OP - older women do not do it for me. They have their fun teenage to late 20's. Then its OUR turn :)
 

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I'm 54, so I know what you're saying. Actually, I find that there are a lot of older women that I find attractive (I like certain body types), but of course most of them are married. But the good news is that you don't have to date within your own age. Anyone who tells you that you do is either lying or mistaken.

HeadLightsOn said:
At present I have a plate that is 26 years younger than me. She has VERY high IL and is the same ethnicity and country as I am.
Yeah, I had a 22 year old throwing herself at me, last year I think it was? I have a friend my age who bangs girls in their younger 20s. Fvck that "half your age + 7" crap, you can date whoever you want. Most girls that age are into partying though, and I'm kind of past that scene, so I find women in their 30s a nice compromise.

Men don't age like women though, so as long as you take care of yourself you can date younger. I was watching some sort of comedy skit (I think it was on Amy Schumer), and there were a bunch of women talking about how at a certain age they were no longer fvckable. Tina Fey said that men can go forever, however. She was making a joke, but there's a large element of truth there. Women have a much earlier expiration date.
 

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Englishman,

I'm with you. So many of the women my age are just incredibly unattractive. It's like they get to a certain point and just give up.

And like others here, I date younger women. Fifteen years younger is not a problem. So you should be able to pull women in their 30's my friend.

-Augustus-
 

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At 32 I got with a 19 year old. That's all I want anymore. I don't think I 'm even attracted to women in their 30s.
 

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Opening poster. Don't whine just deal with younger women. Really you could be dating 35 year old women with no problems.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I have a lot of women over 50 that are after me even though I'm clearly not at all interested, so I can relate to your pain.
 

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I don't know what it is, but women really don't age well at all! In the 45-50 range it's very rare to find any truly hot women. They just look beat up from the feet up, and tore up from the floor up. It's truly not my job to judge them, but it's hard to avoid. And the worst part is they really think/act like they're a prize!

Even some of the older HB8's-HB9's Tend to start getting saggy breasts and butts, and leathery skin. I'm making myself vomit in my mouth just thinking about it. Yuck!!

Guess I'm destined to date the 29-38 range of sociopathic girls with personality disorders.
 

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Ya, 53 would be the average age of my plates' mothers. Not a pretty sight.
 

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Young women in their 20s wanted to bang Sean Connery when he was your age. Monica wanted Bill Clinton. You don't have a problem here. Just make sure your game is tight, keep yourself cleaned up and dress well and you can still pull the young girls.

If you're not having much luck here, go on vacation overseas to like Vietnam or Colombia or some place like that. You CAN still pull young tail.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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ZTIME said:
I don't know what it is, but women really don't age well at all! In the 45-50 range it's very rare to find any truly hot women. They just look beat up from the feet up, and tore up from the floor up.
So true, many are just absolutely hideous. I've seen some who say they're 45-50 but looked more like 65-70! It's incredibly rare to find the female equivalent of a George Clooney lol.
 
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