"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Financial question: Loan payments

MetalFortress

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Haven't had a loan before, so about loan payments...

1) Are they similar to credit cards, where I can pay a minimum, or pay more, or even pay it off all at once if I choose to?

2) If yes to above, would taking out small personal loans, and then using the loan money to repay the whole loan right away, be a valid way of boosting credit score?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Julian

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Im pretty sure a loan from the bank will charge you like 8-18% interest.
 

diablo

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Originally posted by MetalFortress
Haven't had a loan before, so about loan payments...

1) Are they similar to credit cards, where I can pay a minimum, or pay more, or even pay it off all at once if I choose to?

2) If yes to above, would taking out small personal loans, and then using the loan money to repay the whole loan right away, be a valid way of boosting credit score?
The most important factor in your credit score is time. Obviously, someone who's had credit for 1 year and never missed a payment will be getting much less favorable rates than a person who's had credit for 10 years and never missed a payment.

For loans, banks charge several fees. Origination fee, processing fee, early payoff fee, etc. You might only want to take a loan out for $500, but it will cost you around $50-75 just to have them process the loan. So far, you're getting $500 and having to put $550-575 back in. Then there's interest (this varies so we won't go into it). If you pay off your loan early (and most banks won't do anything under a 12-month) you're going to pay a penalty of another $50-75. Why, you ask? Why should you be punished for being responsible and paying your loan off early? I have no clue - my guess is that the bank is pissed that they aren't going to get their interest rate.

Get a credit card. Keep your balance low, never miss a payment (I recommend using their online payment methods... much easier), and take out a loan only if you really need it. Don't spend money you don't have unless you absolutely have to... It isn't going to have that much of an effect on your credit history unless you default... Another good idea might be to go into your bank and talk to someone about solid ways to build your credit history...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by MetalFortress
I've got a couple cards right now. I make 1600 dollars a month before taxes with no rent to pay, so I have some cash now. But the loan's hit on the wallet with extra fees wouldn't be worth the extra credit?
Ask any banker, they'll all tell you the same thing. No. Just because you pay fees isn't going to make it that much more "special" to your credit report...
 
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