"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Finally Walked away...

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I finally walked away from a girl that has been causing me a mess of trouble for 3 months :up: . This girl was the same one I posted about a few weeks ago. Not to mention all the other negative things about her, I found out she was pursuing other guys. I told her she couldn’t give me what I wanted (a committed relationship/trust) and walked out of her life.

It seems now that I have second thoughts about walking away from her. This is really the first time I stood up for what I believe was right and walked away from a girl I really liked. I truly believe I made the right decision, but I still think about her and the times we shared. These thoughts eventually lead to doubt. Is this normal? Any advice would greatly be appreciated.

-Golf…
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Yeah, they are normal for someone who hasn't had that many relationships/flings.

If this were your 15th or 20th girlfriend, you wouldn't be having these doubting thoughts. It would all kinda blend together with the memories of the other girls.

I don't know your age, but I'm guessing you need to dump or be dumped a dozen more times before you find someone who's even close to being worthwhile.

We all go through this: it's like you did so much WORK on that realationship! All this gaming and thinkning and conversation for nothing.

But it wasn't for nothing. It's like college classes. You don't get paid to learn, but it'll help you out down the road.
 
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Phyzzle said:
Yeah, they are normal for someone who hasn't had that many relationships/flings.

If this were your 15th or 20th girlfriend, you wouldn't be having these doubting thoughts. It would all kinda blend together with the memories of the other girls.

I don't know your age, but I'm guessing you need to dump or be dumped a dozen more times before you find someone who's even close to being worthwhile.

We all go through this: it's like you did so much WORK on that realationship! All this gaming and thinkning and conversation for nothing.

But it wasn't for nothing. It's like college classes. You don't get paid to learn, but it'll help you out down the road.
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I'm 23, Had 2 serious relationships. One was a year, the other 4 years.
 
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