Finally site is back, Im in need of big help

[Plain & Simple]

Ok this is the situation.

There is this girl that i work with, since day one she has been giving me the biggest signs that she is into me, we both servers at a restaurant.
This girls buses my tables without me saying anything to her, everytime she passes by me she pinches me or feels on me, i mean 95% of the time she feels on me when she passes by me.

Now at first i acted like i didnt even care, i played it out, for a week or so, then one day i come in to work and she says "Hi baby" she said it loud, everbody hear it, i was shocked but again i just played it off and said, wasup.

This girls literally sweats me at work she gives me signs that are too big and obvious she gives me the brightest green light ever so ok, it was "pancake day" so the day before at work she says that she wants to go out with me to eat some pancakes, i give her my number before she leaves, and yes she calls me the and we go out, nothing happens though, she acted like she wasnt that interested even though we were on a "mini date" i dont even call that a date.

So like a week ago , i decide to ask her out since she keeps giving me signs i told her " What you doing on sunday" she says nothing why i say " cause i wanna go out with you aight" she says where are we going " i say i dont kow somewhere" then she doesnt reply and leaves without even saying by to me or nothing, the she neve called me for the date, her excuse was that she thought that i had to work wich i did, but ok.

So this past friday i tell her again that i wanna go out with her, she says " i dont know may be, i might come in to get some extra cash"

Botom line is that this girl gives me all the signs in the world even gets mad and "Tries to ignore me lately cause " i dont call her" she says, but when i text her she doesnt reply, like today i text her this moorning she hasnt replied .

I dont know why she doing this, and i need help in how to handle this situation please.

It seems that she is big headed cause a couple of coworkers like her too and told her, so she knows it but hell why she giving me the obvious signs and when i ask her out she backs down? complains about why i dont call her?

i dont know what to do i was gonna ignore her for good and move on to the next one , thats why im posting this, everybody tells me that she is all up on me, and i know it but hell what does she want then

 

[So Many Ways]

You should:

Drum roll please..............................................

Talk to other chicks!

Throwing game at chicks you work with can end badly.

 

[JHeights83rd]

No leadership

I agree with so many ways, its not good to get involved with women that you work with. If it ****s up, then youre stuck looking at her and seeing her everyday. Girls at their jobs in general are bad, because when they go there they know they have to put on their friendly courteous face. Plus all types of sexual harrasment laws. Best not to get involved with that possibility.

Ok, that girl will probably not want to spend any time with you and this is why. Its the woman's job to try to control the man and turn him back afc to where hell do anything. nuff said. its youre job as a man to communicate to that chick that thats never gonna happen, youre life, youre needs and youre game are too strong for that. shes not a ***** for doing that. If you were a man with options to get multiple women, you would naturally try to take a girl and try to turn her into your f buddy where you could have sex at your disposal. nuff said ok back to your situation When you asked her out and you said 'I dunno, somewhere' that communicated to her that:
(1) You dont have a plan
(2) Youre interest is more in her, than youre activity
(3) Youre inexperienced
(4) "oh gosh, he wants me to help him decide what were gonna do i feel like the guy"
(5) Youll do anything with her, as long as you do something with her thats fine.

Ok because of what you communicated with that, and because the work place is a bad environment to pickup women, move on, be friends with her, (if you can) 1

 

[Last Man Standing]

Giving a girl your number and waiting for her to call you is weak weak weak! She seems to be the agressor here and women don't like passive men!!! It is your job to set the agenda and makes things happen.

Why didn't you tell her "we are going somewhere fun" instead of shrugging your shoulders and saying "I don't know". Be dominant and decisive - she had to grope you afew hundred times just to get this far!

Do not be her "friend" - that is not why you asked her out!!

 

[Plain & Simple]

but **** then why is she still giving me signs , iono man... i knew i messed up a bit wen i said i dont know, but i know that wasnt the end of the road , since she called me the monday following, an still is interested, but like i said, im not gonna waist my time on her, if she wanted to go out with me she would have done that already, hell she had 2 chances already

 

[LeviathanIYG]

Stop saying "if she wanted", FU*K what she wants.

BE A MAN!

This girl had to give you signs for god knows how long and even then, after all that she had to ask you out before anything happened.

BE A MAN!

She gropes you and says "Hi Baby" and you shrug it off.

BE A MAN!

You shrug your shoulder and say "I don't know" WTF is that?

BE A MAN!

You go out and nothing happens, NOTHING F*CKING HAPPENS!!

BE A MAN!

You let her b*tch and complain to you

BE A MAN!

Your solution is to ignore her and run away

BE A MAN!

Be a man don’t you get the whole idea behind the Don Juan philosophy?

Men:

- Take charge (You definitely aren’t taking charge)
- Is definite about what he wants (You don’t know what you want)
- Creates his own reality (You are getting sucked into her reality)
- Recognizes that Time is the most valuable asset (you are wasting to much time on her)
- Is always sure (NEVER EVER EVER say “I don’t know” or “I’m not sure”)

BE A MAN, It looks like you got your work cut out for you.

 

[Plain & Simple]

^^very true, except, that i know what i want, i just wanna smash it

 

[Cruise]

Then ****in smash it... why didn't you tell her that you wanna rip?

You said, "I don't know." ****... the simplest answer could've been, "You'll see." Simple!

But yeah... she IS testing you. And you know that she knows that she has you in a ****in headlock. Obviously she wants you... you just need to take the lead.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Dood your totally letting her run the agenda. She's the man in this situation and your the girl CHASING after her now! She liked you at first because you didn't give her attention like all the other chumps you work with. It intrigued her, ("Why won't he fall for my tricks like all the other guys) and it kept building inside her, hence her forwardness with you. Had you stayed true to being the dominant male, you would have fuvked her by now and had her eating out of the palm of your hand. Instead you turned into a wussy and started chasing her.

To be honest I don't think this girl is actually interested in YOU, she interested in gaining your attention and validating herself to....HERSELF!!! She's a red flag girl and your not losing anything by ditching her. Use her as practice, flirt with her, ignore her and STOP asking her out. It will bother her and she will revert back to her old ways by chasing you, but don't fall for it. Eventually it will be too much for her and she might try to hook up with you just to validate her feelings.

Part of being a DJ is to recognize that your making a mistake, correct it and proceed. Lastly, your already waaaaaaaaaay too caught up in this and you will only fuvk this up worse if you don't escape from it and focus on other girls.




PIMP

 

[Plain & Simple]

^^^dats my plan now in ignoring her.
I'm still not clear in how I messed up, though she gave me signs and I asked her out she the one dat flaked twice.

I guess I waited too long and when I said I don't know but I feel dat the same outcome would had happen if I had said we going here or there.
**** wen I text her she don't reply then she wines bout why I don't call her, ****...

But anyway, ima go back to ignoring her , now once she acts all interested again, how do I ask her out, I mean **** I did twice already.

 

[SamePendo]

You obviously don't interact/date other women. Try it. Not all women are like her. That's why you're so wrong, she'd be worth it if she was the last woman on earth, but she isn't. Great advice by everyone. Especially by my Austrailian Idol.

 

[Tazman]

From my POV I don't think your actions were necessarily that bad. She was chasing you hard until you gave in and showed interest. She sounds like a typical AW who was looking for validation as someone else mentioned. You didn't just come out of the blue and approach her, she's been flirting with you hard for a while and you decided to make a move. If her interest was as high as she lead on, she'd be jumping at the chance to be with you.

This is not to say that the advice you've been given isn't good, it is, but don't get caught up in thinking YOU necessarily did something wrong. You did ask her out, which is usually the most difficult part, and she decided to flake and ignore (because you don't call her, but when you do she doesn't reply?). If she really did a complete 180 simply because you didn't have a specific idea in mind for a date, do you really think she would be worth pursuing?

I say you ignore her, but don't make it seem intentional, which would make her believe that you caught feelings from this nonsense. Just treat her like any other coworker/acquiantance.