"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Finally saw someone try mystery's method in person...

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The setting was San Fransisco, and we had just completed one leg of our road trip in Cali. I had friends from college who lived near downtown so I decided to drop by and check out the town. We hit up a local outdoor festival - basically a party scene outdoors in the middle of the afternoon.

Standing in line, I see two guys somewhat outrageously dressed up. Nothing like Mystery from Pick up Artist, but you could tell they threw on some bling just to get attention. The first thing they did was send in the wingman to talk to my friend, while the first guy approached his girl and started telling a story. At first it seemed like they knew each other, but the guy kept going on w/ his story - it was something strait out of the book , 'the game'. One thing that instantly was noticeable was that these guys were doing something verbatim...there was no confidence at all behind what they were doing. I guess it was amusing to me actually seeing this stuff in action for the first time.

The lesson here? All the theory and literature in the world won't give you confidence. All the lines, acts and skits one can do won't help if you don't act like the ****. Props to them for practicing and going for it. Yes this horse is beaten to death, but real life examples are where its at!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Pretty much that's my attitude. You either **** the girl or you don't. You either have a blast going out or you don't. All these things are something you just do, no advice is needed because you're either just going to make it happen or you're not. Only you can choose to be a failure, be unhappy, be moapy, not have a good time. So if some guy has a good time pretending to be mystery, fine, but to believe that is what ya need to do to get ***** is just sad.
 

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r0cky said:
Did they f-close the girl?
not even close, they didn't have the confidence to even keep them hooked. It was clearly beginners.
 

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MM does has its place atleast. Mystery, to his credit, was a fvcking genius for being able to make this all into a science. His group theory is so spot on to where its like "holy crap!"

But they're just beginners, I wouldn't be too critical of them. Eventually when they do this enough and pickup on things, they'll definitely get better. They just need to stick with some method and keep going with it. But thats why so many new guys like the Mystery Method because it doesn't require balls and its easy to start but at the same time you don't grow all that much compared to something more natural which forces you to get more balls and you overall will grow stronger.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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MM is an EXCELLENT tool to get an understanding of certain aspects of social dynamics, but that's where its value stops.
 

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It's like being a pro quarterback. You can know the playbook inside and out, but none of that means squat when you hesitate to execute the plays on Sundays. It takes time and experience to incorporate the lessons into your every day behavioral pattern and to tailor fit them to your natural persona.
 

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I saw Mystery Method being used by another person at a club too a couple of years ago. The guy was terrible. He opened up a group of 3 women, and then IMMEDIATELY starts talking to just one of them. The stuff he was saying was straight out of the book, and when the group left, he tried following them, but then stopped, went back to his friends with a look of disappointment.
 

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He is a genius for sure. He got all those guys to send him money! LOL

Seriously, read his archives, the guy was very creative from that start, but honestly his biggest accomplishment was getting all the cash from guys.
 

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everywomanshero said:
He is a genius for sure. He got all those guys to send him money! LOL

Seriously, read his archives, the guy was very creative from that start, but honestly his biggest accomplishment was getting all the cash from guys.
agreed on all account, especially being able to figure out and market a product like that.

got a link to the archives?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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synergy1 said:
The lesson here? All the theory and literature in the world won't give you confidence. All the lines, acts and skits one can do won't help if you don't act like the ****. Props to them for practicing and going for it. Yes this horse is beaten to death, but real life examples are where its at!
There's a greater lesson to be learned here. They're putting what they read into action and that repeated exposure is where you get the confidence, from doing this stuff over and over again. All the lines and acts and skits aren't meant to help get the girl per se, they're meant to give you a structure to work from so you can get experience and practice the non-verbals and whatnot, that as a whole is what breeds confidence and success down the road. Routines and whatnot amount to nothing more than training wheels. End of story.
 

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It would be interesting to watch that in action, definitely. I've got nothing against techniques if they get you to break the ice with women. That's really 2/3 of the battle right there.
 

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everywomanshero said:
He is a genius for sure. He got all those guys to send him money! LOL

Seriously, read his archives, the guy was very creative from that start, but honestly his biggest accomplishment was getting all the cash from guys.
Just like all the others selling PUA sh*t. There's even women selling PUA books like Tiffany Taylor. There's a lot of money to be made on male desperation. That's what they do on online dating paysites, when your membership expires, you get an inbox of pretty women's messages! And the sex sites just advertise for porn.
 
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