Finally met a great girl, will over communicating kill it?

[tomwesten27]

Between Tinder, POF, and general bar meetings. I have met some awful women. Some good lays, but nothing close to LTR material. Which is expected with online dating.

I recently met a young lady at a friends event and we hit it off. Kissed already, kino through the roof etc. Had the 1st date a few days later at a (low key ice cream shop) Cost me $4 total. and we had fun.

My problem is when I get to this point where I know a girl is into me, I tend to start over texting, over calling, over communicating. The old beta in me feels as if I don't communicate with her she will forget about me. It is silly I know but I am trying to shake it once and for all...

So how often should I be communicating with this girl? We seem to text every day...every few hours or so we shoot one another a text back and forth, keeping it light and fun. Talking about simple things. Its built great rapport so far I feel.

Should I not text a day or 2 sometimes? Will it work to my advantage to go ghost a day sometimes? Does it get her thinking?

 

[Sensible]

Communication devices are only for setting appointments. If you keep doing that you will turn her off. You can talk to her on text when it's been some time in the relationship like 3 months and you are official. But right now what you should be doing is not to exchange many text messages and use telephone to set up the next date. You already know that what you are doing is wrong, so listen to yourself and stop doing it.

 

[Maximus Rex]

State Your Rationale

So how often should I be communicating with this girl?

How often do YOU feel you should be communicating with her? State your reasons as to why and why your plan of action will help you achieve your long term goal/s.

Should I not text a day or 2 sometimes? Will it work to my advantage to go ghost a day sometimes? Does it get her thinking?

How will doing to does things work to your advantage?

 

[tomwesten27]

Today I decided to not hit her up first. I remember reading so many times after I start up a convo two times I feel I should wait and see if she reaches out to me no?

It is good to go ghost sometimes and see if she texts/calls me first?

 

[wonderer]

Im in a similar situation and dont now how to play it. I know I shouldnt text everyday but its difficult. I NEVER initiate, its always her. Ill keep my responses random, sometimes a couple of hours, sometimes several, sometimes after a few minutes.

Havent gone longer than a day without some form of communication after i've seen this chick for about a month though. Would be useful to get some more insight!