Finally hit it but didn't call the next day...

[Ronin I]

Situation -

Known this girl for awhile now but the past month or so we have started "dating" more seriously. Last night we had sex for the first time (I was on top of my game and fvcked her so well she is not likely to soon forget).

Anwyay, I stayed over her house and in the morning she made me breakfast and I like a gentleman I helped her shovel her driveway - then I left telling her I would call her later.

I spent the whole day vegging on my couch watching football - sleeping occassionally. She sent me the occassional IM to which I did respond every once and awhile, albeit briefly - and I didn't get around to calling her.

Finally she calls me to "say hi" at around 1030pm - we chat for a bit and I suggest that we do something tomorrow night and she agrees. Then I get off the phone telling her that I am going to sleep.

After that I walk over to my computer and IM her a goodnight message - we wind up getting into this IM convo in which she starts telling me that it seems like I didn't want to talk to her today, that I said I would call her and that I didn't, that she carried the phone around with her all day, that she thought it wouldv'e been nice if we couldv'e spent the day together, that she's afraid that I am going to "jap" on her (not sure what that means but I think basically it means she doesnt want me to fvck and run), also that she hates feeling this way - the last two guys she slept with "japped" on her I guess (which is part of the reason that she made me wait so long to hit it).

I tried reassuring her - telling her that I have no intent on "japping" on her. I explain that I didnt call because I slept on and off for most of the day and because we did speak over IM (albeit briefly)- I also told her that last night was "special" and that she should seriously just stop trippin'. I then tell her that she is tired and should get some rest and I end the convo there.

OK - so do you guys think more apologizing is in order or should I forget about this and move on? She wants a relationship, as do I, so I feel that I should reassure her - perhaps with some sort of small gift to apologize to her for not calling (I do feel that I was somewhat insensitive to her feelings - this girl is very inexperienced sexually so her giving it up to me was a big deal for her)- Basically, I don't want her to start getting nervous or regretting what happened - and then start pulling away from me -I actually do like this girl.

Also as a side question - any tips on how to prevent condom breakage? I used one of those Trojan Supra polyurethane condoms lfor the 1st time ast night and while it felt pretty good the damn thing broke and interrupted my fun - have any of you had problems with these polyurethane condoms breaking?

Thanks.

 

[honeyshark]

Originally posted by Ronin I
Situation -
OK - so do you guys think more apologizing is in order or should I forget about this and move on? She wants a relationship, as do I, so I feel that I should reassure her - perhaps with some sort of small gift to apologize to her for not calling (I do feel that I was somewhat insensitive to her feelings.

No more apologizing, at all. Don't reassure her constantly, just realize that she is insecure and don't always provide the emotional support she needs whenever she wants it.

NO SMALL GIFT. Bringing her a gift is just weird and gives off the impression that you cater to her every whim. Seriously, she was tripping over a small phone call, you didn't do anything oh so terribly wrong. Don't bring a gift, because that also says you made a big mistake, which you really didn't. She is the insecure one, and she is making you insecure.

Peace.

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

You reassured way enough.

 

[McKindley]

Honeyshark is leading you straight. No gift, no more reassurance. If it comes up again just tell her guys and girls are different about this type of thing. Just because you didn't want to spend the whole day with her doesn't mean you plan to hit it and quit it. Then tell her to drop.

 

[Knicknack]

Originally posted by GigaloDJ
Quick question.

Say you've been fvcking a girl for a while. Maybe she's even your girlfriend. Do you need to always call the next day?

stop overanalyzing everything. a DJ does what he feels is right. if a girl lets you have sex with her, you might want to drop all the games for awhile and just be nice. a phone call would make her feel appreciated.

i'm talking about a GF here. what i just said does not apply to a ONS or a FB.

 

[Jimbo2k]

Originally posted by Knicknack
if a girl lets you have sex with her, you might want to drop all the games for awhile and just be nice

LETS YOU HAVE SEX WITH HER? Wtf kinda DJ mindset is that? YOURE supposed to be the prize

 

[Knicknack]

Originally posted by Jimbo2k
LETS YOU HAVE SEX WITH HER? Wtf kinda DJ mindset is that? YOURE supposed to be the prize

whatever... i follow the "i'm a prize thing" to a key when it comes to gettin pvssy. lets not avoid reality. we want pvssy and women have what we want. once she LETS us have it, we should drop the games for a minute and just show her a little more appreciation. i'm just talking about a few things. i'm not saying go buy her sh|t or anything. just either tell her or call and say how much you enjoy hanging out with her and how special she is. they will eat that up.

i'm not trying to run your business. i encourage you to do whatever you want.

 

[THA REALNESS]

Originally posted by GigaloDJ
Quick question.

Say you've been fvcking a girl for a while. Maybe she's even your girlfriend. Do you need to always call the next day?

Ayo,dawggbones you know the answer to that so why be all sancsrit with it?

 

[THA REALNESS]

Listen poundpuppies,ya'll need to chill out with these half-homo questions..."I slept with her do i call her the next day????


UH-DUHHHHHHH!!!!

Waddy you think Biddy-boo ??!?!

 

[THA REALNESS]

True that's more like it. Proceed .

 

[THA REALNESS]

P.S. If I like Her or if i'm in the mood i like to avoid calling her then just pop up out the blue and look at her reaction . It's golden . They put on a face of shyness,inferiority and a hopeless crush all in once you gotta see it to beleive it ,likes they are transported back into 4th grade and their cruch just gave them a peck on the cheek.

 

[iqqi]

ronin- i can see how that could be annoying. she was very clingy, all damn day!!! you'll just have to let her find out on her own by your actions, and you may have to have a talk with her about insecurity because that could really fcuk sh!t up.

giggy, what, do you not want to call her the next day? or is this some stupid DJ mindtrick sh!t you are clinging to? if you just don't feel like calling her the next day you may have a bigger issue. if it is the DJ sh!t, you are setting yourself up for a bigger issue.

 

[DEKKA]

just admit it.... you're gunna jap on her

 

[Tryin to Grow a Chin]

Hit it and quit it.

Our best revenge against deceitful women.

The sport of kings.

 

[Eileen]

Originally posted by Ronin I
Situation -

(I was on top of my game and fvcked her so well she is not likely to soon forget).

Blimey! That's blunt and lacks class.

I hate to be the bringer of a harsh reality, but oft times a woman's feelings of insecurity stem from the fact that they feel as if they've been used. That comes from a lack of intimacy during sex and shortly after sex. To be as blunt and crass as you are, early on in a relationship especially with an inexperienced woman, you need to concentrate less on fvcking her and more on building intimacy. I'm sure that at least one of you enjoyed yourself, not so sure about the other.

My guess is that she's feeling rather like a piece of meat at the moment and your lack of compassion only reinforced that feeling. When it comes to sex, women’s emotions can be rather fragile and if you truly care about the woman, you'll go out of your way to accommodate that. Especially in the beginning. Later in the relationship, after you've afforded her some sense of comfort and stability, you can ease up a bit.

Really, is this not common sense for a bloke?

 

[Big Pappy]

The lady does have a point. It's not rock solid, but it is food for thought.

 

[Eileen]

I'll work on the rock solidness thing Big Pappy. Normally I'm very good in that department ...

 

[Ronin I]

Re: Re: Finally hit it but didn't call the next day...

Originally posted by Eileen
Blimey! That's blunt and lacks class.

To be as blunt and crass as you are, early on in a relationship especially with an inexperienced woman, you need to.....

Oh jeez, another woman.

Sweetheart, that was guy talk - as in words spoken only around other men (it is a mistake to assume that I am this "blunt and crass" in other situations - ie when I am with her).

Believe me I have been "building intimacy" with this woman for months now.

I think her problems stem more from what's happened to her in the past and less from me.

 

[( . )( . )]

Re: Re: Finally hit it but didn't call the next day...

Originally posted by Eileen
Blimey! That's blunt and lacks class.

I hate to be the bringer of a harsh reality, but oft times a woman's feelings of insecurity stem from the fact that they feel as if they've been used. That comes from a lack of intimacy during sex and shortly after sex. To be as blunt and crass as you are, early on in a relationship especially with an inexperienced woman, you need to concentrate less on fvcking her and more on building intimacy. I'm sure that at least one of you enjoyed yourself, not so sure about the other.

My guess is that she's feeling rather like a piece of meat at the moment and your lack of compassion only reinforced that feeling. When it comes to sex, women’s emotions can be rather fragile and if you truly care about the woman, you'll go out of your way to accommodate that. Especially in the beginning. Later in the relationship, after you've afforded her some sense of comfort and stability, you can ease up a bit.

Really, is this not common sense for a bloke?

ronin, ignore this bullsh!t totally.

anyway DO NOT apologise anymore, and all this talk shes doing about where you 2 stand, are you gonna "jap" on her, its bollocks and SHOULD be meaningless chick filler drivel talk to you, in other words forget about it.

please for the love of god DO NOT and i repeat DO NOT get into the reassuring thing with her, its a kiss of death, this early on ALWAYS keep her on her toes, constantly behave as your the prize and drop the hints without actually saying but make sure she knows that one wrong foot and shes gone, YOU know and she knows your the man, and a man of your quality and clued in-ness on how to get chicks and that you both understand that her kunt is not gold plated and can be easily replaced, make sure she ALWAYS is reminded of this.

my 10 $ worth

EDIT: btw eileen, we have a little thing around here where we do what ACTUALLY WORKS when it comes to attracting and phucking chicks, stick around a bit longer , get a feel for it, and honestly until you get a half decent grasp of the basics PLEASE do these guys a favour and dont post.

 

[Eileen]

Re: Re: Re: Finally hit it but didn't call the next day...

Originally posted by ( . )( . )
EDIT: btw eileen, we have a little thing around here where we do what ACTUALLY WORKS when it comes to attracting and phucking chicks, stick around a bit longer , get a feel for it, and honestly until you get a half decent grasp of the basics PLEASE do these guys a favour and dont post.

Oh master of all that is phuckable and chicklike ... tell me please, if you would, how has all this worked out for you thus far?

Sex and relationships are about two people not just one. It's a team thing not a competition. Just earlier I read a post from a poor bloke who "DJ'd" to long and his girl dumped him saying he took her for granted. Do you wish the same fate for your friend here?

Women’s emotions work quite differently than a mans. As a man, there is little hope that you could ever fully understand the complexity of it all. Being polite and reassuring a new lover is not by any stretch of the imagination and unmanly gesture.

Being a man entails many things. One of which is the ability to admit when you've done wrong. You don't have to dwell, slobber, beg or carry on like a jackass but it does need to be addressed. Being a man also entails understanding that sex is far more emotional for women than it is for you.

You might not agree with my opinions. I don't use a recipe book when it comes to dealing with matters of the heart. Your experience might be different from mine but it does not shadow the fact that I too have experience in these matters. I dare say I have more experience with these matters.

So instead of throwing these unattractive hissy fits every time you disagree with me why don't you leave it to the readers to take what they find helpful and to leave what they think won't work.

Good Day!