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For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

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Finally got a phone number..

DJnoob

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Finally got a phone..

Thank you to everyone here.. if it wasn't for this message board (seriouisly) my life would still be sorta hopeless until now...

Last day of class was today. this girl who sat next to me who usually leaves class first cause she would usually finish with her test first in class (she seems to be the smart, silent, shy type).. well, I finally did what I had the courage to write her a note asking for her #.

I wrote exactly this on a piece of paper: "you seem like a cool person! =) Whats's your # and ill call you sometime" (i wrote it on paper because no one was allowed to talk during the test)

On the paper she wrote her name and her # with a smiley face then quietly leaves the room.

SO HERE IS MY QUESTION:

Normally, when you sit next to a chick in class for 11 weeks and ask for her # on the last day of class..do chicks normally give you their number when you ask for them or is there ALSO a chance that they would not give it to you? Has this ever happened to anyone here?

FEEDBACK WOULD BE MUCH APRECIATED! Thanks again to everyone here... this was my first time asking for a girl's # ever!!!!
 

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Actually speaking to her would be a good start.
 

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First off congrats...second off why the heck you wait so long?

I don't think this would happen to the fellas on this board because either

1) We would have gotten the number either very early in the quarter or somewhere in the middle when good rapport is made.

or

2) The other guys would have never gotten the balls to make a move.

So congrats again for doing your thing. Where to go from here? Its pretty simple...call her up and set up a date...why analyze what happened, how it happend, what t-shirt you wore, if you had your lucky draws on....it happened...dont over analyze it...

have fun and set up a date bro..
 

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noob,
First off I have to agree with hpnotiq on this and start with a serious congrats. Go back and look at what he actually wrote again.

From your post it seems that you definately could have gotten this girls number earlier in the semester. But again that is the past and you didn't. At least you had the balls to step up and do something when you did. For that I think that you are probably much better off than you think you are. I wouldn't be suprised if you have been in the same position before but never realized it. I was in that spot and never acted on it or tried anything before. Those are days that I am happy are long gone.

In accord with hpnotiq's reply just go ahead and call her and set something up. If it works out than great but if not than dont worry as I am sure that you will meet many more girls than you thought you possibly could anyways. Just put yourself in a position were you are not being pushy and enjoy what you have. Honestly I am happy for you, the first number or the first date or whatever is always the hardest when you are trying to prove yourself to yourself but you have already overcome that and you should enjoy yourself now. Best of luck and I hope you quickly realize that you are capable of whatever challenge that is put in front of you.
 

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Thanks guys,, yeah some rapport has been established already..talked to her in class..laughed at my jokes, made fun of her.... she knows im C & F... thanks again to everyone here.. even though we only go by screen names ...but still.
 

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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Re: Finally got a phone..

Originally posted by DJnoob
Normally, when you sit next to a chick in class for 11 weeks and ask for her # on the last day of class..do chicks normally give you their number when you ask for them or is there ALSO a chance that they would not give it to you? Has this ever happened to anyone here?
If you're asking because you think this would be a good strategy to use, you're wrong. It comes off as insecure - if you were confident, you would ask for it sometime in the 11 weeks before the one final class period. To answer your question, though - it's the exact same as if you'd asked her at any other time. There's a chance she'll give you her number, there's a chance she won't. Just because you waited until the very last second to slide her a note asking for her number instead of asking for it in the other 33 (assuming you meet 3x a week) times you saw her doesn't increase or decrease the likelihood that she'll give you said number.

Good job getting it. You've just begun one of the earliest stages of the DJ Boot Camp - now you need to get a minimum of 10 more this week - and by verbally asking for it! Get out there!
 

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Ok, I'm gonna take it easy on you, cuz the board seem proud of you.

So congrats on getting her number, i think deep down you KNOW what mistakes you made. so the leasson you should learn is that you could have had her number a long time ago and saved yourself some worry.

 

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You dont really lose anything by going for it and calling her say....this weekend? Classes are over so you an pretty much make plans for anytime you want (except if she goes back home or whatnot).

Give it a shot, call her, ask her to get together one day and take it from there.
 

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Re: Finally got a phone..

Originally posted by DJnoob


Normally, when you sit next to a chick in class for 11 weeks and ask for her # on the last day of class..do chicks normally give you their number when you ask for them or is there ALSO a chance that they would not give it to you? Has this ever happened to anyone here?
Doesn't matter. If you think she's cool/hot/whatever, then call her up and set up a light date...lunch or something...where you can talk to her a little and work your magic. ;)
 
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