"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Finally finished my year long project! Check it out!

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Its been a year and a half since I started my first major development project. I originally started it to learn a new programming language, and now I'm finally done and its ready for launch. I know a lot of you don't really like/use social networks, but I'd love it if you guys here at SoSuave would check it out! You can sign up at Nxt It. While you're at it, follow me - @Eph (just search for "eph" - there's a small issue when typing hashtags and the @ symbol into the search bar I need to fix).
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What exactly is it that people are signing up for? The page is not clear.
 

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amoka said:
What exactly is it that people are signing up for? The page is not clear.
Its a social network - something akin to FaceBook or Twitter. I realize the page isn't clear about what exactly it is, and that's one of the things I'll work on.
 

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What makes it different from facebook and twitter?
 

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It's just a project...not a functioning website.

The design is very...harsh. It's also kinda hard to understand what's going on, hard to find people etc.

The code itself seems clean (html-wise), much cleaner than what I get on my websites! ;) And I've been a programmer for years.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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CerwinVegaFan said:
It's just a project...not a functioning website.

The design is very...harsh. It's also kinda hard to understand what's going on, hard to find people etc.

The code itself seems clean (html-wise), much cleaner than what I get on my websites! ;) And I've been a programmer for years.
Well, it'll always be a project to me. I can't stop thinking of how I can improve it thanks to my perfectionist personality. With that said, care to explain your comments? I'd love to know what needs to be improved. As for the clean code comment, you should see the source. Its not as pretty as I'd like it to be, even considering the fact I've been programming for 5 years now.
 

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Fatal Jay said:
What makes it different from facebook and twitter?
Those were probably two of my biggest influences. Kinda hard to explain what I feel are improvements over Facebook and twitters models, but some of the simpler features are a separation of "audiences". Its a bit similar to Google+, in that you can control which posts you see and who you want to be able to see your posts. You have followers, and then you have friends. Kind of a cross between Facebook and Twitter, really.

Another feature is rich text. Maybe not a problem for everyone, but I always see people capitalize words to emphasize, so I thought why not just let people use italics, for example. Then I looked at trending hashtags, and took it one step further with posts that are popular. Those are just a few of things that make it different, although arguably, not necessarily better.
 

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I don't want to come off as an a hole, but what you said sets your site no difference from facebook

you come up with some cool features and I will invest and promote with you bro.
 

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Congratulations on your achievement. I know what you're saying... Starting from nothing you learned programming and developed a structure for your idea.

Of course now you need to define its intent, how it would benefit prospective members, and pretty up the graphics.

But good job on learning the language and executing something tangible.
 

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Atom Smasher said:
Congratulations on your achievement. I know what you're saying... Starting from nothing you learned programming and developed a structure for your idea.

Of course now you need to define its intent, how it would benefit prospective members, and pretty up the graphics.

But good job on learning the language and executing something tangible.
Well, I wouldn't say nothing. It was (at the time) my second programming language and fourth computer language overall. I know three programming languages now - in addition to the other two. But thanks.

And Fatal Jay, no worries man. You don't come off as an a$$. I know I still need to work on setting it apart from Facebook and Twitter by coming up with unique features.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Spent the last month or so updating the site. There are a ton of improvements, including a fix for the issue when typing # or @ into the search bar. Check it out guys!
 
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I didn't sign up, still may, but without seeing it I still do have an appreciation for what you have done. About 5-10% of my job is programming. Programming isn't easy, and it isn't something just anyone can do. I know many outstanding tech people who can't program "hello world". People in general have no idea or understanding of the knowledge and work that goes into our technology today. It's the programmers and electrical engineers who are really the ones to thank.
 

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Since I can't edit the OP, the new site is here. The link in the OP will still work, but you'll be redirected to the old site.
 

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logicallefty said:
I didn't sign up, still may, but without seeing it I still do have an appreciation for what you have done. About 5-10% of my job is programming. Programming isn't easy, and it isn't something just anyone can do. I know many outstanding tech people who can't program "hello world". People in general have no idea or understanding of the knowledge and work that goes into our technology today. It's the programmers and electrical engineers who are really the ones to thank.
Thanks for your appreciation. The site probably took anywhere from 1000 to 2500 lines of code to complete, if not more. And there were a few things I couldn't do on my own, so, yeah, it's not easy. But, if it were easy it wouldn't be worth it, would it? :)

Fatal Jay said:
Site looks better
Thanks, wasn't really sure about the design seeing as I'm not naturally gifted in that area. So, it's nice to get some positive feedback on that.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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