"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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FINALLY a new girl..

toddC

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Howdy boys, its been a little while ehh...Anyways, its been about 3 weeks that I've spent with little to NO options for myself. So finally I grabbed my sack and last night I believe I picked up a chick again.

My friend had a party (not a very good one) and I knew going into this that she was the girl I wanted that night. So I got there and walked around saying Hi to everyone and there she was...she ended up saying Hi to me first. Now later in the night I was just talking to her, holding a lot of EC and finally I said I was like mad at her for something and walked away. Now this is where I realized that if I went upstairs or downstairs she would only be a few minutes behind me. IOI? Then I left to go to another party and she texted me asking where I went...When we got back (the other party SUCKED), she greeted me again and then I walked downstairs...whcih she followed as usual. Now everyone was sitting down and talking and there were no more seats left for me so I told her to move over...she just patted on her lap so I sat on top of her..(some more intense kino)...She was kinda like rubbing my back gently and whatnot...Then she was like wait what are we doing..SWITCH...so then she sat on my lap..(a little more kino?) Then like I was paying no attention to the girl, my friends and I left AGAIN to go to yet another party...which sucked yet again...so we went back ( we were gone for about 20 minutes). This is when she decided to leave. So as we were walking in she was walking out. She said bye to everyone then playfully pushed me gave me some EC and then I gave her a kiss on her cheek (playing a little hard to get) and that was it...Now I didnt ask her for her # because I had it already...Should I be calling her today...or wait for tommorow? And how should I be playing this from this point on..
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Wow I would've made the move on this chick awhile ago, if she's up to snuff looks wise at least.
 

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yea she is a pretty decent looking girl...and I would have made a move when she was saying good bye to me but her ex bf (who is kinda my friend...not good friend...but a friend) followed us back to our friends house to hang there and I felt a little awkward so I didnt..
 

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You could have successfully made a move, you didn't. Ask her to hang out and do what u gotta do.
 

toddC

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right, but should i be calling this girl tonight as last night was the first time we've hung out in about 8 months..or should i wait a little and possibly even get a text from her instead..
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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LikRetsam

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I'd make a move. Enough opportunities have been missed. Call her up.
 

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Okay update...now I may just be over analyzing this buttttt...I texted her today (2 days after that night)...We had a bit of a texting conversation and finally I asked her what she was doing that night and she just never responded...Do I wait for her to text me next or should I just call her tommorow or the next day?
 

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basically you have her in your hands, call her tommorow, do some little push a pull, ****ey and funny and you are there, good luck.
get down to some hot kino next time(without clothe)
 
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