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This is something I've been working on. It represents the filtering process that a man and a woman would use when they consider someone as a potential partner.
In the "man" and "woman" columns are the current traits or actions that contribute to their image and qualities (owning their own sh1t), or like they abbreaviate this in the SMV term.
Then, there is the blue line that follows the man's thought process, and the red line that follows the woman's.
You can see how the qualities of a man or a woman, in reality, are not seen for what they truly are, but instead contribute to building the two more internal columns.
To give you an example, a woman will notice that you go to the gym, dress well, and maintain a healthy diet, which she associates with a sense of style, self-care, and diligence. However, she won't see your inner motivation for enjoying these activities or the adrenaline rush and emotions they evoke in you. Also, she will see how your friends and other treats you, or how you much you're kind to others. How many female friends You have and How your family is built. What she will see is that You will have or not, social proof, validation and other qualities.
This internal column represents the "shell," or what others see, and it's something we must also learn to observe in ourselves, as if we were viewing ourselves from a third-person perspective. Doing this periodically, perhaps once a month or once a week, will forever change how you perceive yourself in the social "market."
Ultimately, you will have gained an understanding of how others see you! This shouldn't make you insecure or focused on seeking external validation, but rather more confident in eliminating certain things from your life to focus on others that genuinely validate you from within and allow them to shine uniquely. For instance, a friend of mine is an excellent fisherman, and the internal validation he receives from this activity is evident when he shares it with a room full of people. He is magnetic.
Then, there are three checkpoints for different stages of a relationship:
the STR qualification, the LTR qualification, and the final qualification for beign a good match.
I would appreciate hearing your opinion and exploring how this idea can be developed further.
You can view the full image for better resolution here: https://ibb.co/KpQxLWqF
In the "man" and "woman" columns are the current traits or actions that contribute to their image and qualities (owning their own sh1t), or like they abbreaviate this in the SMV term.
Then, there is the blue line that follows the man's thought process, and the red line that follows the woman's.
You can see how the qualities of a man or a woman, in reality, are not seen for what they truly are, but instead contribute to building the two more internal columns.
To give you an example, a woman will notice that you go to the gym, dress well, and maintain a healthy diet, which she associates with a sense of style, self-care, and diligence. However, she won't see your inner motivation for enjoying these activities or the adrenaline rush and emotions they evoke in you. Also, she will see how your friends and other treats you, or how you much you're kind to others. How many female friends You have and How your family is built. What she will see is that You will have or not, social proof, validation and other qualities.
This internal column represents the "shell," or what others see, and it's something we must also learn to observe in ourselves, as if we were viewing ourselves from a third-person perspective. Doing this periodically, perhaps once a month or once a week, will forever change how you perceive yourself in the social "market."
Ultimately, you will have gained an understanding of how others see you! This shouldn't make you insecure or focused on seeking external validation, but rather more confident in eliminating certain things from your life to focus on others that genuinely validate you from within and allow them to shine uniquely. For instance, a friend of mine is an excellent fisherman, and the internal validation he receives from this activity is evident when he shares it with a room full of people. He is magnetic.
Then, there are three checkpoints for different stages of a relationship:
the STR qualification, the LTR qualification, and the final qualification for beign a good match.
I would appreciate hearing your opinion and exploring how this idea can be developed further.
You can view the full image for better resolution here: https://ibb.co/KpQxLWqF
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