Fill your life..

[FRëSHURE]

Many of the tips given in the seduction community relate to being busy. As having things to do portrays you as the prize.

One tip will suggest we don't call the target for 3 days after closing. The next tip will suggest telling the girl you're busy on day X even though you might not be. Another tip will suggest not answering her call or sms immediantly as 'you have things to do'.

My tip suggests filling your life.

Most guys here tend to come from a computer game background through there teen years, which may continue on into later life. This has been compounded recently through a thread in Anything Else about the Xbox 360, and through 'The Game - Neil Strauss' which suggested Mystery - the worlds best Pick Up Artist played Morrowind aswell as downloading much ***** porn.

Its a world that like myself, I'm sure we can all relate to.

Over the last couple of years, I have discovered things which I enjoy doing and things which I need to do. I do these things in preference to approaching targets, or spending time with closed targets.

Some examples are;
Enjoy doing:

• Lifting
• Running
• Kayaking
• Poker
• Travel

Need doing:

• Work
• Study

I try to fit as many of these activities into my day as possible. This leaves less time to waste on Computer games, Porn, Television and as a result, when I tell a target I'm busy, I will not ever get caught out in lies.

 

[pimpfromdayone]

Yeah, good ideas, but as for the last part, there's no point doing things just so you can tell her without lying that you are really busy. How is she going to find out anyway? Who cares if she does? Not her business anyway.

 

[jd782]

Yeah, and its doing guy stuff. When she's at the mall buying more shoes. Guys should be out, pumping iron, going on 10 mile hikes, smashing something, or whatever.

 

[syncmaster]

smashing something, or whatever. [/B]

lol :crackup:

 

[Scrumtulescence]

Of all of the advice on these boards, this is what I need to do most right now. It's just so difficult in my current situation. I don't have any friends around here anymore, I recently realized I don't really have any hobbies, I feel like I'm in a state of perpetual boredom and frustration of not having anything to do, and to top it off, I'm going to have a get a job in a field I don't enjoy at all because it's the only way I'll be able to make enough money. Knowing that I "don't do anything" is one of the main things that keeps me from trying to get to know girls.

Yeah, good ideas, but as for the last part, there's no point doing things just so you can tell her without lying that you are really busy. How is she going to find out anyway? Who cares if she does? Not her business anyway.

If you're out looking for nothing but one night stands, then sure. But if you want to actually get to know girls and date around, then it soon becomes impossible to hide your lifestyle.

 

[FRëSHURE]

Originally posted by Scrumtulescence
If you're out looking for nothing but one night stands, then sure. But if you want to actually get to know girls and date around, then it soon becomes impossible to hide your lifestyle.

Thank you.

I'd been holding off on an almost identicle reply to let someone else have the thunder.

Scrumtulescence: I can't help you to find out what hobbies you will enjoy, but Lifting for example is awesome because not only do you have a good time, your confidence will raise, and your looks will improve.
Other things, like running I only enjoy because I live close to a national park, and can run amongst wild life. Treadmill, for mine, can't keep me interested.

Other things I am very interested in trying is a martial art, and some of those short night courses. Something like a writing class takes my fancy.

 

[[o_0]]

the thing with peopl here is they have no life filled, so they have to act like they do. its sad but still. mainly doesnt matter what you do, just leave home sometimes guys!!

 

[pimpfromdayone]

Half of filling your life is just a matter of getting a job (preferably a career). College and school is definitely something you can do with your time, but as an undergrad, it is still boring without doing other things. I daresay most college students are bored out of their minds, but their time will come. All I can say is, get some hobbies. The best part about being busy is that it will naturally make you a better bf. Think about it. If you truly are busy all the time, she will value your time more and you won't call her too much or spend too much time with her, which keeps her interest high. Beautiful. Plus having a job, whether you need it or not, will give you more chances to meet the opposite sex.

 

[[o_0]]

yeah but its funny when somebody while meeting you asks - who are you? and you answer 'im working in..' 'im studying..' etc etc. that doesnt make you who you are. pzz

 

[organizedconfusion]

total newbie here, this is my FIRST POST!!

anyways, i have always thought that whatever lifestyle you are
into often translates into the character of whom you are
better then any type of verbal communication that comes
across when you first meet someone.

i myself has always been into cars,shooting,boxing,working out,
wanderlust..and it's always made me feel more..i don't know..
like a dude.

i don't know if i did it intentionally as in "trying to be more of a man" or anyting, but i do find myself gravitating more
along the lines of these type of activities...

not saying that interior decorating,knitting or shopping makes
you less of one, more power to you.

try it, takes up some boxing classes (i prefer boxing over kartate because in boxing you get HIT and it can HURT!)
lift some weights, get in the car and drive to a different city
just to hang out,stay in a different town in a hotel and
vege out on hamburgers and fries from the moms & pops
shack down the street. Take differet routes to work,
do something crazy or just different from who you are.
in time you will become alot more interesting and
exciting and it will give you the confidence and also
create attraction in people because that adventurer/wanderlust
character of who you are will be magneticly attractive...
to EVERYONE. i have had sooo many different "mini adventures" that i took last summer ,from venturing into "ghost towns"
to being stranded in a different city when my tranny blew out on the drag strip doing 60 mph racing against a 12 sec. trans am.



have you ever looked at someone and said to yourself..
what a dork! but know nothng about the person?
or , that guy is cool or that girl looks really fun & is a sweetheart?
how could you ever assume these things when you
know nothing about them?
it's called intuition, maybe it's not always right but it's most likely
along those lines of the first & lasting impression you get on a person.When you do all sorts of adventurous and wild things,
it "transforms you" into that type of person, and that energy will
be translated into your being.And without words when you
enter a room or the first 40 seconds of meeting someone
whoever you are is translated in a flash.Good/bad whatever...
and that attraction/repulsion is created.

Ever notice when someone is trying to change for the better what's the first things that they do?
they change their actions..
i am not going out anymore
i am gonna study more
i am gonna be a better worker
why?
because it changes your charactor and the type of person
you are becoming.Would you feel like the honor student
that you are when you are secretly a drug dealer on the side?
of course not..if you were "sick" you might







the difference between pretending and being...

IS DOING
do the things of the the person you want to become and it all comes natural because thats who you are and not just something you are pretending to be