"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Fighting Narcissism

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I trapped a very naive girl into becoming my girlfriend. She is awesome in every way, eager to hang out, split the bill, sex etc. I'd rate her a 7 even though she never wears make-up.

The thing is that I am using her as a safety net, while I pursue model-like women and hope they have the same traits she does. Maybe I'm looking for that trophy wife that everyone hits on (and expect them to be awesome in every way..lol)

I'm already broken and approaching 30 years old. I really don't know what I should expect after 30, but if this continues, I would never be happy with anyone. Any advice?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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InnerHappiness said:
I trapped a very naive girl into becoming my girlfriend. She is awesome in every way, eager to hang out, split the bill, sex etc. I'd rate her a 7 even though she never wears make-up.

The thing is that I am using her as a safety net, while I pursue model-like women and hope they have the same traits she does. Maybe I'm looking for that trophy wife that everyone hits on (and expect them to be awesome in every way..lol)

I'm already broken and approaching 30 years old. I really don't know what I should expect after 30, but if this continues, I would never be happy with anyone. Any advice?
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The difference between a 7 and a model is the model will spend more time on her appearance. She will know her "poses". She will not compromise and make herself look "bad". She will not be too "helpful" to diminish her power. She will benefit as much as she can off a situation, soaking in the resources.

The difference between a model and a 7 is a personal methodology, which almost GUARANTEES you will not have a better partner or someone who cares more about you. It's just the way they are wired.

If you can be in hi demand in the models circles and have social status and clout, she will ***** herself and god mode you, but if you do not, she will strip you of resources, time and energy and it's not going to be worth it.

Also the sex is even likely to be worse, because a model is always flipping things so the attention comes to them. In the sex they are not going to be as concerned about you and your feelings as a loyal and loving 7.

And a 7 can always make themselves up more. A model will usually never drop her ego.

Ask the other guys.
 
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DaddyLongShanks said:
The difference between a 7 and a model is the model will spend more time on her appearance. She will know her "poses". She will not compromise and make herself look "bad". She will not be too "helpful" to diminish her power. She will benefit as much as she can off a situation, soaking in the resources.

The difference between a model and a 7 is a personal methodology, which almost GUARANTEES you will not have a better partner or someone who cares more about you. It's just the way they are wired.

If you can be in hi demand in the models circles and have social status and clout, she will ***** herself and god mode you, but if you do not, she will strip you of resources, time and energy and it's not going to be worth it.

Also the sex is even likely to be worse, because a model is always flipping things so the attention comes to them. In the sex they are not going to be as concerned about you and your feelings as a loyal and loving 7.

And a 7 can always make themselves up more. A model will usually never drop her ego.

Ask the other guys.
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That's good stuff. Do you think that all 8's and 9's fall into that 'model mindset?' I understand that getting bombarded by men could be a side effect, but I have stood out with many of them and somehwat successful at holding their interest. Perhaps it's recent successes that I've been thinking about male hypergamy - male entitlement?
 
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That's good stuff. Do you think that all 8's and 9's fall into that 'model mindset?'
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Some men don't even call them "hot"... I mean just cause someone has more makeup or more coordinated clothes should they gain status in our rating system?

Because that's all the optical illusion is.
 
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Some men don't even call them "hot"... I mean just cause someone has more makeup or more coordinated clothes should they gain status in our rating system?

Because that's all the optical illusion is.
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I think I've developed the indifference to not let that affect me, or so I like to think.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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"How do you fight narcissism"

Simply stop being a coward.
 
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