"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I trapped a very naive girl into becoming my girlfriend. She is awesome in every way, eager to hang out, split the bill, sex etc. I'd rate her a 7 even though she never wears make-up.

The thing is that I am using her as a safety net, while I pursue model-like women and hope they have the same traits she does. Maybe I'm looking for that trophy wife that everyone hits on (and expect them to be awesome in every way..lol)

I'm already broken and approaching 30 years old. I really don't know what I should expect after 30, but if this continues, I would never be happy with anyone. Any advice?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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InnerHappiness said:
I trapped a very naive girl into becoming my girlfriend. She is awesome in every way, eager to hang out, split the bill, sex etc. I'd rate her a 7 even though she never wears make-up.

The thing is that I am using her as a safety net, while I pursue model-like women and hope they have the same traits she does. Maybe I'm looking for that trophy wife that everyone hits on (and expect them to be awesome in every way..lol)

I'm already broken and approaching 30 years old. I really don't know what I should expect after 30, but if this continues, I would never be happy with anyone. Any advice?
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The difference between a 7 and a model is the model will spend more time on her appearance. She will know her "poses". She will not compromise and make herself look "bad". She will not be too "helpful" to diminish her power. She will benefit as much as she can off a situation, soaking in the resources.

The difference between a model and a 7 is a personal methodology, which almost GUARANTEES you will not have a better partner or someone who cares more about you. It's just the way they are wired.

If you can be in hi demand in the models circles and have social status and clout, she will ***** herself and god mode you, but if you do not, she will strip you of resources, time and energy and it's not going to be worth it.

Also the sex is even likely to be worse, because a model is always flipping things so the attention comes to them. In the sex they are not going to be as concerned about you and your feelings as a loyal and loving 7.

And a 7 can always make themselves up more. A model will usually never drop her ego.

Ask the other guys.
 
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DaddyLongShanks said:
The difference between a 7 and a model is the model will spend more time on her appearance. She will know her "poses". She will not compromise and make herself look "bad". She will not be too "helpful" to diminish her power. She will benefit as much as she can off a situation, soaking in the resources.

The difference between a model and a 7 is a personal methodology, which almost GUARANTEES you will not have a better partner or someone who cares more about you. It's just the way they are wired.

If you can be in hi demand in the models circles and have social status and clout, she will ***** herself and god mode you, but if you do not, she will strip you of resources, time and energy and it's not going to be worth it.

Also the sex is even likely to be worse, because a model is always flipping things so the attention comes to them. In the sex they are not going to be as concerned about you and your feelings as a loyal and loving 7.

And a 7 can always make themselves up more. A model will usually never drop her ego.

Ask the other guys.
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That's good stuff. Do you think that all 8's and 9's fall into that 'model mindset?' I understand that getting bombarded by men could be a side effect, but I have stood out with many of them and somehwat successful at holding their interest. Perhaps it's recent successes that I've been thinking about male hypergamy - male entitlement?
 
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That's good stuff. Do you think that all 8's and 9's fall into that 'model mindset?'
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Some men don't even call them "hot"... I mean just cause someone has more makeup or more coordinated clothes should they gain status in our rating system?

Because that's all the optical illusion is.
 
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Some men don't even call them "hot"... I mean just cause someone has more makeup or more coordinated clothes should they gain status in our rating system?

Because that's all the optical illusion is.
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I think I've developed the indifference to not let that affect me, or so I like to think.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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"How do you fight narcissism"

Simply stop being a coward.
 
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