"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Field reports from this weekend - advice appreciated

Why_You

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Friday night - Went out for drinks and went out to a couple night clubs. A woman who I know has interest in me came along but I didn't want to do anything with her. She has mutual friends who would be it awkward, I don't find her sexually desirable and she has a husband. Long story short, she was so desperate all night trying to hold my hand, telling my buddy how much she likes me and then at the end of the night she gave me a verbal spray telling me to fvck off and that I don't know anything. Not much advice needed here but she was being AFC as hell. So clingy and desperate. When the night started I was thinking maybe I might just get some oral or something off her but the more irrational and desperate she became the less I felt like doing anything with her at all.

Saturday night - Was at a cafe with my buddies and initiated conversation with the waitress there a few times. Originally she seemed so snobbish but then I realised that she was just extremely shy. I finished my meal at around closing time then I hung around a bit while she was putting chairs up and cleaning around. She was young, I'm in my early 20s but she must have been 17ish. The youngest girl Ive been with would be a year younger then me but I guess she's fair game. Anyway, I got up and waved her towards me she came up to me and I asked what she's getting up to tonight. She said nothing she's going home to bed lol. I said come out after work give me your number and we'll hang out she gave me her number and I said ciao. I messaged her a little while later asking what's the address and what time to pick her up she said that she just got home and she's really sleepy. I ALWAYS ring but I was in my car, no pen and I thought since I just saw her minutes ago and got her number etc then a message would be okay. I then said nah I'll pick you up we'll hang out don't just sleep your Saturday away. She said really I'm too tired it's almost mid night. I said okay no worries get back to me when you're not so tired. Saying that probably was a mistake as firstly, she's shy and probably won't initiate when I'm basically a stranger and secondly, I gave her the option now if I call she'll probably think I'm over keen or something.

Sunday morning - I'm at the local swimming pool when I see a HB9 coming down as I'm walking in too. I immediately initiate conversation and have her talking to me for a minute or two. I'm there with a buddy and she's alone. She goes to swim and I let her know that the pool on that side is closed for the day blah blah then she comes over and puts her towel right next to me and my towel and gets undressed there. She then turns around and talks some more and asks me if I can take some photos for her with her mobile phone. I'm there taking photos and making her laugh. She runs over looks at the pics and talks for another minute then gets into the pool. My buddy says to me if you don't ask for her number and take her out you're a fool. I was feeling intimidated by this girl's great looks. She was so fvcking attractive like you wouldn't believe. This didn't get me nervous or stuttering or anything I kept it all inside. I go for a few laps come out and she comes out and starts drying herself off in front of me. She stands around a while I SAY NOTHING like a pvssy then she turns and says well I'm off to me and I said okay see ya and she's smiling at me and leaves.
I don't have to say my mate was filthy with me. He said she was doing everything she could to show she was keen and I didn't even ask for her number.

Tips with these guys? Btw, first girl is a HB6.5, second is HB7 third HB9.5.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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BadNews

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First girl: forget about her - waste of time.

Second girl: If you had REALLY good rapport with her you could have asked her to come out with you that same night. Otherwise I would have called her a couple days later and asked her out then. Telling her to call you when she wasn't so tired was probably the best thing you could have done to end that interaction - good work.

Third girl: Why didn't you ask for the number?...
 

Purefilth

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BadNews said:
First girl: forget about her - waste of time.

Second girl: If you had REALLY good rapport with her you could have asked her to come out with you that same night. Otherwise I would have called her a couple days later and asked her out then. Telling her to call you when she wasn't so tired was probably the best thing you could have done to end that interaction - good work.

Third girl: Why didn't you ask for the number?...
i agree with all the above - except that by text, the "get back to me when youre not so tired" has no tone, and depending onhow she feels at the time it could be misinterpreted as a narky sour comment. Other than that:up:
 
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