"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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AustinG

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Here is a little thing with a hb8 i met in the mall once..she was 17-18 but in my eyes age is only a number :)

me:excuse me i have a question
her:yes?
me:what do you think the sexyest food is?
her:what do you mean?
me: i mean the sexyest looking food
her:(laughs) blah blah
me:why do you say blah blah?
her:becuase its blah blah
me:that food is alright but i like blah more.
her:yea that one is alright
me:so whats youre name
her:name, you?
me:AustinG
me:what school do you goto?
her:blah what about you?
me:blah, how do you like it there i heard the teachers are real strickt.
her:yea so and so is very mean and blah blah blah
me:alright i gotta go im meeting up with some people. gimmie youre number so mabey we can chat some more.
her:number
me:alright cya
her:bye!

how was that?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Microphone Fiend

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nice job man. Good confidence booster isnt it? Maybe nex time try to get to know a bit more about her b4 u go for the # close, but good job.
 

Distant Light

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Originally posted by Microphone Fiend
Maybe nex time try to get to know a bit more about her b4 u go for the # close, but good job.
Think soo too. Don't be surprised if she flakes. Keep us updated.
 

Taviii

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Originally posted by Distant Light
Think soo too. Don't be surprised if she flakes. Keep us updated.
Why??

Can you please explain your ideea!
 

oakraiderz2

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You merely scratched the surface of rapport. SHE ONLY knows where you go to school, nothing else about you.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Wee

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Originally posted by Taviii
Why??

Can you please explain your ideea!
Well lets see. I can't even count how many times this happens to me and my buds. You meet a chick. Talk for a long time, and then # close. You call her up.. either she don't pick up or she does and says "I'm busy, I'll call you back". Nothing happens. Attraction don't last forever and what you really need is rapport - talking to her and learning about eachother. C&F, Kino, blah blah all that **** that builds attraction - that is just a tool so she opens up and you can build more of a relationship with her.

My assesment of AustinG is; its great you got her number, its even better you opened with something interesting. Then you just kinda ****ted out whatever you had left. Like when a person is writing a story and they have a great start, and then they skip through the middle and rush out a ****ty ending. She don't know a damn thing about you, think if you were meeting a GUY (only because if I say girl you will see it differently than she does) and he says hi. You get his name and where he goes to school. Then he says "we should go out pimping later". Ya he was friendly enough to come up to you, but he is still a stranger, an aquaintance at most. Build more rapport. I hope that answers travvii's question.
 
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