"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ok, this girl is about a 8.7.Today was 3rd day of school.1st day i noticed this girl starin me in the eyes for a few seconds(happened a few times).2nd day she was sittin next to me and gave me a complete 3 second stare down 1-2 feet face to face.Today,we got assigned seats and she was sittin across the room but in front of me and to the side(easy to see each other).Anyways she again gave me a lookin this time after bout 2seconds she looks away down at her desk then bites her lip and goes into a gaze like she was daydreamin!If thats not a sign of interest im not a DJ! So after class I start the convo as we walk towards door.(Remember some of the sentences mite not be word for word but close enough,hard to remember every detail. I know a few lines by heart because i use em alot..)

ME-Wasup
HER-Ha,nuttn how bout you?
ME-Haha, same here...
ME-So you like this class?
HER-Its alrite, i guess it'll do....
ME-Hey, can I talk to ya for a sec?(Guide towards wall.)
ME-So, wats really up?
HER-Huh, what you mean?
ME-Cmon,I see you lookin at me alot,im not one to just sit around starin....
HER-Well, your a pretty attractive guy, and when we held eye contact I just felt drawn into you.
ME-Ha,now it comes out.....
ME-You gotta boyfreind?
HER-Naa,u?
ME- Ha,very funny.Your a jokester...is that what you look for in guys?
HER-Funny guys are always a plus....
ME-So what do you look for in a boyfreind?(I will remember this for a conversation in the future when i use a lil ss on her)
HER-Funny,Exciting guys who are laid back,being good lookin doesnt hurt either....
ME-Ever been in love?Like you know when you feel just an instant connection with someone you've just met?
HER-(After a few second stare)Ive never been in "real" love....although ive liked some guys alot.....
ME-Are you lookin to be?
HER-(She absolutely looked like she was just eatin it up...she didnt say anything)
ME-Here, take a pen out and write your number on my arm....

Ok, so I got the number and gave her a hug and sayed the goodbyes....

So how do you guys think I did? Remember theres 6 minutes in between classes so I couldnt just keep it goin.I am extremely proud of myself,but im always open to little things i couldve done better.....
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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littleweasel22

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Sounds like you were really smooth and confident in everything you said. Nice work.
 

OUTCRY

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Yea, im glad with how I handled myself during the convo......good to see that you guys think I did a good job.
 

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NICE.

lol i always skip convo more or less and just do what i have to do to get the number. but man u had confidence falling out of ur ass with this one. verrrrry nice.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Void

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Nice, but remember I HAVE A STICKY FOR A REASON ;)
 

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Oh, my bad. Well ima try the same opener/format tommorow wit another girl I want....Ill post it...Best not miss it!!!!!!
 

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Was nice, the whole deal was with the guiding to seclusion.
gg.
 

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Guys....if you have a hottie chekin you out for sure.....this format works 100%.....truly easy.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Inquire

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congrats congrats and u made her get out a pen too. haha.
 

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u did a good job capturing her interest

its a nice way to start a convo and make it interesting :up:
 

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Originally posted by benassi
not bad not bad .. the only thing is wasn't that kinda awkward for the 1st time talkin lol ... and MOST girls wouldn't admit to findin you attractive even if they did lol theyd feel embaressed, fcuk her, she wants it. bad.
Well, it wasnt awkward becuz i knew she was diggin me with the signs she wa givin,i just had to grab da balls.She prolly said she liked me without waiting to tell me because
1.Shocked I was so open
2.Didnt wanna say no, and ruin it....
 
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