"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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RandomGuy22

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Sup guys, well i went on a date last night w/ this girl who i approached. She showed a strange IL.. it oscillated through the night.

I pick her up, and we go to get coffee and chill and talk.

She tell sme about her ex b/f, balh blah we talk. Turns out she's a big drinker. (i'm don't drink or smoke.. at all, it's not that i'm a nerd or w/e, or don't ever get invited to.. i just don't like it) so that kidna worries me... it's like this girl is outa my league, b/c 1 she's hella hot, and 2 her ex-b/f was like homecoming king, who all the chicks in our school think is hella hot or w/e... =(. But during the date, i kept my cool and remained confident, like she was the one who was priveleged to be out w/ me, not the other way around. She offered to pay for her own cofffee, and i suavely said "nah it's on me"

After our coffee, we talked and i asked if sh ewanted to shoot some pool. She said she wasn't a big pool fan , but she'd watch me play. I told her nah that's cool, we can find somethign else. So we went and saw a movie. (yes horrible.. but it was late and we're not 18 so... that's about it). I didn't go for the arm around her int he movie b/c.. A) i learned w/ my last g/f that it's actually hella uncomfortable and B) it was our first date, and keep in mind this girl was pretty mucha cold approach.

The movie ends and i take her home, we had good conversation pretty much the whole night, and on her porch.. she asked me what iw as doing tomorrow (today) night. I told her that a friend of mine was coming into town, and we might go to a party, and asked if she woudl wanna go. She said "yeah definetley", so i said i'd call her around 7 or 8 today. I got agoodbye Hug, and here'st he thing.. i think i coulda gone for the kiss. she had strong eye contact and was almost like she wanted it.... grrrr.. if we hang otu tonight, i'm going for it.

ANyway, here's my dilema... i'm not as experienced as this girl is. She's probably had sex (dunno, but i'm pretty sure) and i'm still a virgin. She is like a party girl, who still has great gardes and is really smart, she's in like an entirely different clique than i am. but i am friends w/ all her friends, and they all think i'm cool, so i get a good social proof.. Do i need to just stay confident and play it cool? thx
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Vigilante7

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If youve made it this far, major props.....

Youve mad some damn obvious mistakes, which should be fixed.....drinks, kiss test, but that can be fixed

DOnt worry about the lack of experience, just play it cool and shell think ur confident, dont worry guy, the reason why beginners kiss are so bad, cause u can tell their lips are like trembling LOL

just play it cool, and interact with her clique
 

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She offered to pay for her own cofffee, and i suavely said "nah it's on me"
Not paying presents more of a challenge. For all you know she's the type of girl to offer to pay knowing she's hot and that the chumpy guy (you) will pick up the tab no matter what.
 

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is it just me or is the wrong person acting/being treated as the prize
 
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