"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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WrEcKLeSS2000

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Hey guys,

I have some much better news since my last post regarding just frustration with women.

I've giving up online dating sites once and all. It's just not a good way to meet people for me at least.

Now to the good news. I went to this young professional social event last night and there was a huge turnout with around 300 people.

There were alot of women and at first I was a little intimidated because I didn't know anyone.

About 15 minutes into the night, I said to myself, that I just have to go up to people and start socializing. That is exactly what I did.

I starting approaching groups of people and most people were pretty receptive. I got to the point where I wanted to focus on approaching women. It wasn't easy because they were all in groups if they weren't with other dudes.


Isolating for an inexperienced person is not easy. However, I just was social and wanted to see quickly if there was someone that I was connecting with and seemed interested. Most of the girls that I talked to in the beginning were not that sociable and seemed like airheads to be honest.

I didn't let that discourage me though, not every girl will be outgoing or friendly even if I'm just talking to them as a new friend with no sexual intentions.

Anyway, this is the part where it gets really good. I noticed that this dude was talking to this girl that I was interested in. I wasn't sure if they were together but I didn't let that stop me.


I actually walked up to the dude first and introduced myself and got in a conversation. He turned out to be really cool and he told me that he had a girlfriend already and he told me that the girl I was interested in is single. He told me that he is friends with her.

He actually played wingman for me. He introduced me to her and on cue left us to converse. So I started talking to her, making chit chat. At first she seemed a little scattered but that could have been due to the fact that she was drinking or maybe just nervous. The dude told me she's a little socially awkward.

Anyway, we were in close personal space, good eye contact and in my head, I said to myself, "This is it, I'm going to number close her." I got a little nervous but after about 7 or 8 minutes of talking. I asked for her number and gave her my phone and she put it in.

It was at that point that her ****blocking female friend came over as I was getting her number. This girl was hideously ugly. I tried to introduce myself to her but she had stuff in her hands so she couldn't shake and she didn't even tell me her name.

Anyway, when that troll came over, she took her friend with her to get a drink . In hindsight it worked out well that I got her number when I did. I did have enough time to work it because that wingman was keeping her friend distracted for a little while.

Anyway, I'm very proud of myself. I was very social and talked to alot of people all by myself in a huge venue. I'm going to call this girl probably tomorrow and set something up. I know it's only half the battle because if she doesn't answer her phone or call back then I'll be out of luck. If it works out for a date that would great, if not, back to square one.
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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WrEcKLeSS2000

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Quick question, I called this chick last night and left a message. She hasn't called me back yet. I'm not too surprised mainly because my wingman told me that she is "socially awkward."

It's too bad because she was actually pretty cute. Anyway, if I don't hear from her today, my plan is to text her tomorrow and if she doesn't reply after that, I'm done with her. I'm not putting up with flaky twits.

My question is, do you guys have any ideas on what I should say in the text? I want to keep it short and to the point.
 
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