"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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field report: Tokyo club scene(must read)

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Um, that doesn't really answer my question.

I've tried to talk to many an Asian girl, and by this I mean a recent immigrant or temporary student and not one who was raised here, and have never even seen a glimmer of interest.

But as soon as I step off the plane in Tokyo, they're suddenly throwing themselves at me?

I don't see them making ANY moves on white guys over here. Sh*t, I don't see them even with other Asians.

Sorry, this kind of bugs me, because I think Asian girls, particularly Japanese and Korean ones, are damn hot. Maybe I just don't have the angles right.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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xxSLavExx said:
I just got back from Toyko (I live in Japan) and I had a very successful night. When I entered the club the amount of women in the club was insane. The female to male ratio was probably like 7:3. Anyways, I noticed at least 3 women eye-balling me as if they wanted to rape me on the spot. Now like 3 years ago I probably would have acted upon that immediately, but I didn't because I'm more patient and calm with my game(thanx this website). Just because a woman looks you in the eye doesn't mean you have to approach immediately, just make sure you keep a mental note of her so you can leave your options open. Now, if you get too drunk in the club and try to hit on woman, you will get dismissed immediately. Getting too drunk will ruin ALL your game, and women know this. However it did take me like 2 drinks to loosen up and start talking to women because I'm naturally a bit shy. All the women I was talking to noticed I was tad bit shy, but they were attracted to it because they saw me as a challenge. One girl (I'll get to her later)told me she thought that I was teasing her and that it turned her on.

When talking to a girl in a club, you have to dance at least 2 songs with her. This makes her more comfortable with you. Make sure other girls see you dancing with your girl because the other girls in turn will want you. You have to seem genuinely happy and upbeat when your in the club because other girls will start to feel your positive vibes and they start getting attracted to you.

Now the girl I took home was half mexican and half japanese and she had really large breasts.:up: I asked her why are you going home with a complete stranger and that she should go home because she doesn't really know me. I purposely asked her this question knowing full well she was going to stay with me anyway. Plus I already knew what she was gonna say(thanx to sosuave again). She said that she didn't know why she was attracted to me(but I knew) ;) and that she thought I was cute. She's the one I mentioned earlier about me teasing her by the way. We ended up showering and taking a bath together, and after we were done I told her good night when we were both naked on the bed WITHOUT making a move.(this drove her COMPLETELY INSANE and she loved it) But.....I didn't have any rubbers so I didn't hit it. lol. No biggie, I'll see her again in a couple weeks, she was pretty cool so I'll probably kick it with her again in the near future. If anyone has any questions about pulling girls from clubs and what to do when your both in the hotel room and want to advance to the next level, please ask me because Im getting very seasoned and proficient at this type of stuff.
Thanks for the report ..sounds good!
as for me.. most of the women i've ****ed are from clubbing in town so any more advice would be great :up:
 

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LOL... I guess all you've seen of the UK was on Comedy Central.. yea, that's gospel right there

No, I was actually stationed in London for awhile. You Brits like to act like the bad teeth thing is just a stereotype. It's not.......:D
 

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realsmoothie said:
Um, that doesn't really answer my question.

I've tried to talk to many an Asian girl, and by this I mean a recent immigrant or temporary student and not one who was raised here, and have never even seen a glimmer of interest.

But as soon as I step off the plane in Tokyo, they're suddenly throwing themselves at me?

I don't see them making ANY moves on white guys over here. Sh*t, I don't see them even with other Asians.

Sorry, this kind of bugs me, because I think Asian girls, particularly Japanese and Korean ones, are damn hot. Maybe I just don't have the angles right.
Sorry, but mind you please explain to me how I didn't answer your question? I'm confused...:confused:

Just to give you another example, in the early 70s, when there were almost no Asians in France, hot French ladies would literally "jump" on Asian guys. Now it's not the case anymore, but compared to the dreaded blacks and arabs here (they represent 10% of the French population), the Asian guys still have an edge in France.

Put shortly, rarity creates curiosity, thus leads to higher interest. Suppose the guys are NOT butt ugly or have unbearable bad hygiene of course...
 

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realsmoothie said:
Are Asian girls like that only in their native countries?

Because I've never seen anything even CLOSE to a sexually agressive Asian girl here in North America. We've got tons in my city, and they rarely ever go out and usually just stay in their own little packs and watch videos.
No, not all of them. But english is big business here. Being able to speak it is a big plus. And some girls date foreigners just to learn it. They represent, in my opinion, a 1% of the population.

Many a folk come to japan and says japanese girls are so easy. What they don't know is that the bars they frequent (bars for foreigners) are full of those girls. They don't really have access to the normal japanese girl, coz they don't speak japanese.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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So you're saying that the average Japanese girl is not sexually agressive at all... it just seems that way for foreigners in Japan who go to "foreigner" bars.

Huh. Maybe I should offer "english" classes... ;)
 

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Xtravaganza said:
No, not all of them. But english is big business here. Being able to speak it is a big plus. And some girls date foreigners just to learn it. They represent, in my opinion, a 1% of the population.

Many a folk come to japan and says japanese girls are so easy. What they don't know is that the bars they frequent (bars for foreigners) are full of those girls. They don't really have access to the normal japanese girl, coz they don't speak japanese.
Spot on!

And the same thing goes in Korea, China, Taiwan, HongKong, and so on...
Some times some "dreamy" girls might see this as a way to try to come to the US or the western European countries. That's also why even if you are white, if you come from some poor eastern european country, these girls won't give a sh*t about you.

The American guys are so blessed, they are considered "cool" just for the sake of being "American"...:rolleyes:
I'm so jealous...:whistle:
 
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Just to point out:

It's a very beta thought process to think "asian girls are like this" or "French girls are like this", or "fobby asian girls are like this". You have to remember that women are individuals also. If you're out there thinking, "man, I never see asian girls, with white guys" and that somehow hinders you from approaching or only making a half-hearted effort then you've already lost.
 

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unreal-guy said:
you're dumb!

you could've got ******* or boobjob, instead you sleep like nothing happened which brings up my suspicousion of you even slept with her in bed

sounds like this just another of these bull**** imaginery stories you find on this forum

GET OFF THE CRACK! or whatever drugs you're on

lol...when someone is actually trying to help someone with a real life story, its thought of as a lie....lol...hey bro, if thats what you think...oh well. But it aint gonna stop me from posting some real sh!t on this forum that might actually help somebody. That is my only goal.....
 

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unreal-guy said:
you're dumb!

you could've got ******* or boobjob, instead you sleep like nothing happened which brings up my suspicousion of you even slept with her in bed

sounds like this just another of these bull**** imaginery stories you find on this forum

GET OFF THE CRACK! or whatever drugs you're on

lol...when someone is actually trying to help someone with a real life story, its thought of as a lie....lol...hey bro, if thats what you think...oh well. But it aint gonna stop me from posting some real sh!t on this forum that might actually help somebody. That is my only goal.....
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Martin Shabazz Jr. said:
Just to point out:

It's a very beta thought process to think "asian girls are like this" or "French girls are like this", or "fobby asian girls are like this". You have to remember that women are individuals also. If you're out there thinking, "man, I never see asian girls, with white guys" and that somehow hinders you from approaching or only making a half-hearted effort then you've already lost.
No, man... It's NOT about letting anything like this stop us from getting what we want, it's about knowing the odds and increase our chance everytime we go for the things we want.
Don't tell me we shouldn't care if she's Asian/French/White/with BF/Hot/Ugly/Tall/Short etc, we just shouldn't let this stop us or make us hesitant.
 

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Mr_knowit_all said:
No, I was actually stationed in London for awhile. You Brits like to act like the bad teeth thing is just a stereotype. It's not.......:D
Guess I'm an exception since my blood's European...
 
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