Field report thursday 3/11 and saturday 3/20

[la-migra-is-after-me]

ok well here it goes:

im sitting outside a building at my school on a hotday when this chick on the phone walks by, (hb9) we make eye contact but she looks away b4 i can smile....so i just decided to move on..then she sits next to me, she calls her friend (later she says its her best friend from hawaii, but that's the oldest trick in the book)..she says something about a speech she has to do, and thats where i start from

she gets off the phone and after a few seconds of silence i ask about the speech, who her speech teacher is, and what class she is taking...then we talk some more about work, i say some comments to make her laugh, but there is alot of silences inbetween, she is really quiet, so i think that she has a b/f because of the way she is acting...i ask her if there is any other place to eat around here (all there is at my school is a mcdonalds, a couple more fast food, two chinese food places, cafeteria food, and a catering truck) but i don't feel like any other those

so i decide to end it, and i say:

lmiam: whats your name?
hb9: susan
lmiam: its nice meeting you, im gonna get something to eat...see you later
hb9: ok bye *big smile*
lmiam: hey let me give you a call sometime.......
hb9: *laughs* (a good type not mocking or anything) i can't, my boyfriend won't like that
lmiam: ohh so thats why your so quiet (earlier i busted her and said that she wasn't much of a talker) so i said ok and walked away.

the 3/20 approach

im at work ringing a customer up and a hb8 walks by and wants to buy something..we make eye contact and she smiles, but the dude im helping thinks she's smiling at him so she looks away b4 i can nod and say hi..

ok so its her turn:
me: hi how are you today
her: fine
me: thats good, i take it you have nothing better to do on a saturday night but shop?
her: *laughing* no,well i might go to the club with my friends
me: oh so your man doesn't feel like taking you out tonight?
her: i don't have a man
me: ohh so what are you doing here?
her: well i just got off work (her store is near mine)
me: oh thats cool, it seems realy quiet there like you'all don' get alot of business
her: *laughs* no it just gets quiet somedays, somedays its busy
me: ok well have a good day
her: thanks you too
me: whats your name?
her: teresa
me: its nice to meet you, let me give you a call sometime
her: no i can't...well we could be friends.....no i can't
says something about being a district manager
me: oh so you cant go out with lower workers like me *smiles*
her: laughs and says bye

i wasn't that successful, and know i could have done better but i tried but i would have felt better if we had "clicked"....oh well those are my field reports......im trying to be consistent on my approaches but its hard for me, but like pook says in his article (i don't remember which one), approaching girls has to be a habit....

wish me luck on more pickups
nick

 

[uniassign]

It's great that you are doing cold approaches.

You are closing WAY TOO EARLY that's why the chicks are not giving you the numbers.

What you have to do is to demonstate your personality and values to the girl before she will give you her numbers.

Try to instant date the girls as well.

 

[Vigilante7]

Originally posted by uniassign
It's great that you are doing cold approaches.

You are closing WAY TOO EARLY that's why the chicks are not giving you the numbers.

What you have to do is to demonstate your personality and values to the girl before she will give you her numbers.

Try to instant date the girls as well.

EXACTLY.....the whole point of a pickup is to disguise that your not trying to pickup her but rather be friendly and get to know her....(so you can see if she gives good head )

 

[AlwaysExcel]

The important thing is that you got the nerve to cold approach. That's awesome!

Unassign and Vigilante, how is he supposed to spend more time with the girl if he's at work? I'm nowhere %100 clear on this issue but it seems to me that the length of time you spend with a girl when you first meet her should depend on your agenda: what you are doing at that time and what you want to get out of any potential relationship with the girl. If you keep the first encounters brief (doc love style) , then you weed out a lot of disinterested girls, don't waste your precious time on uppity district managers or girls with BFs, and draw out the mystery and seduction for long term potential. If you spend hours with one girl, you MAY end up building enough rapport that you get sex that night. It's kind of a continuum, in my opinion. The middle seems to be more of a grey area. But I hear ya about the value making it look like it's not a PU.

I like to go for numbers when I know the girl is sufficiently interested, or when I'm running out of convo and getting a little ansty staying in one place, or when I'm unsure of the girl's IL and want to test it, or when I know she doesn't dig me but I want to practice getting rejected and have fun watching her squirm.

 

[uniassign]

how is he supposed to spend more time with the girl if he's at work?

Don't. You are supposed to be working. If you have to, bait and amp up her curiosity and tell her to come back when you have finished work.

I'm nowhere %100 clear on this issue but it seems to me that the length of time you spend with a girl when you first meet her should depend on your agenda:

Of course. That's why I hardly do any day PUs. I am a busy person so I don't have that much time to street PU. But if I do see a hottie, I will approach and see what I can get. If I could get a number from her in the limited amount of time I have, I will call her up IMMEDIATELY and talk to her whilst I am walking away.

If you keep the first encounters brief (doc love style) , then you weed out a lot of disinterested girls, don't waste your precious time on uppity district managers or girls with BFs, and draw out the mystery and seduction for long term potential.

I don't agree here. Think about it, hotties get hit on many times a day, you need to spend the time to distinguish yourself from all the LAMEOs out there.

All the demonstrating personality, showing value, being confident and funny etc will put you in the minor 1% of guys that are deemed worthy in her eyes. If you have a brief encounter, you will not stand a chance with the true hotties - why because she has an ABUNDANT of higher value guys in her social circle. Why should she risk the chance of being with you when she can go for someone just as good (in her eyes) but she already feels safe?

To overcome this path of least resistance, you need time to get into her life.

 

[AlwaysExcel]

Ah, good point Uniassign! It does seem that Doc Love's system has the weakness of providing a person with the most interested girls but not always the most attractive girls.

The problem with what you're advocating, of course, is wasting too much time getting into her life or wasting time just to find out that she still isn't physically attracted to you. I agree with Doc Love in this respect, the girl has to at least be physically attracted enough to see herself in bed with you.

So I'm curious about how you keep this from happening Uniassign. How long do you usually spend chatting a woman up before going for the number? What's the max time you would spend before giving up? And how much do you think physical attraction plays into your seduction? Thanks!

 

[la-migra-is-after-me]

one more thing

yes i know this is from more than a year ago, but i have another question


so ur saying that i should wait till next time i see her to ask her number? i mean if its a school u may never see her again, and the same goes for the streets....any more advice/thoughts