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upcoming_DJ

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Hey guys!

so i've posted several times on this forum about my experience so far with my "girlfriend".

I was warned and given so much great advice on here! and along with reading heartiste and rollo tomassi, I have understood so much and amazed at how accurate this information is. It's like you can see women do something now, and more or less you can see their intentions. you remove so much of the pedestalizaiton and idealization you were conditioned with.

I had shared some red flags with the members of this forum, the biggest one was that this girl had daddy issues (grew up without a dad since she was 7 and witnessed her mom beat her alcoholic father many times until throwing him out of the house, literally).

Everyone told me this would be the biggest deal breaker and I would soon find out why.

well i read a lot of borderline personality disorder and I've seen a lot of signs that she may be one, or definitely in the cluster b zone.

she use to joke that she is crazy! and for the first few months I thought she was joking indeed, until with time that hazy "honeymoon" period began clearing up and I was seeing her for who she is.

well, i've had a gut feeling that something has been off for the last 2 months. and I was well aware of it, I did not ignore it.

So i began sifting through her social media and I realize she has this one guy who she follows on both her personal and business account. I got the guy's # and added him on whatsapp. I turned on my last seen for about 3 weeks now and i've been monitoring them. It's scarily accurate how active they are on whatsapp. Literally he or she comes online, the other comes online, and come off at the same time.

Anyway, I went against advice and I told her that my gut is telling me something and I do not like the feeling. So I dropped a nuclear bomb and asked her who these guys are (I mentioned 4 names, of her ex lovers that I knew about and I could see her face and hear her nervousness through the phone, I kid you not!). I am sure she was shocked. Anyway, when she shared about 3 of the guys. When i got to the guy I highly suspect she is seeing or began talking to, she immediately went "Yuk! him?! I do not even know that guy!". So I told her I find it interesting that you're following him on all his accounts on facebook on instagram from all your accounts!" she said "I think I only have him on facebook". So I said no, you also have his # stored in your phone!". She then tried to lie (WOMEN LIE BLATANTLY!) and said "oh, that's because once we did a photoshoot for [local company] and he was a model in the photoshoot.". So my red flags went up. This changed quickly. From I don't know him to admitting she knew the guy. So i continued to probe. Then she said "yeah I contacted him few days ago from my business page to offer him shirts for a concert he's attending (the guy posted tickets that he won to the concert and she has a business with printing shirts and stuff) so perfect lie?!?!

so I knew then that she was lying and she was caught like a deer caught in a bright head lamp. She continued to negate knowing this guy. she denied every single bit. Then she told me "and you're worried about him?! if I were you I'd be worried about the other 3 guys!". That did it for me. That was the last straw.

I just want to make mention that I kept my frame. I did not talk to her from a needy or insecure place. I told her that there's her, me, and then the relationship. I said your actions will not affect me, it will affect the relationship. And I reiterated that I am happy and ready to walk away if I find out a single ounce of proof because I would not allow it.

Well, I broke up with her via text on sunday evening. All I said was "do not call me. take care!"

well, the girl has been going bonkers. She has literally tried to called me about 70 times already. She has sent me countless text messages. some of them like "if you don't tell me why or what this is I will do something really stupid right now!!!!!" and some other ones that is clearly showing her cluster b disorder or abandonment fear.

Funny thing is, all this while, she is still online the same time with the guy I am talking to her about. She has not unfriended or unfollowed the guy on social media. She knows what is bothering the relationship.

I've read "hypergamy doesn't care" and "the medium is the message" and also "the desire dynamic" from Rollo Tomassi. I stick through to these concepts.

I did not try to negotiate and neither did I beg her.

Now she is threatening that she will come this weekend to look for me because "I am hers!!!!" and that she is not giving up on me!

well guess why? the clear reason is this: she has $1,000 USD invested ($2,000 our currency) into a trip we had planned for Argentina! that's the only reason I believe she is going bonkers.

Besides she would want to save face as she has recently introduced me to her family (including her mom!) who all said it's the first time she's ever brought a guy home. She's 28 for reference.

she has all the signs:
  • reckless behaviors (spending, crazy sex)
  • very impulsive
  • depressive
  • suffers anxiety
just to name a few.

Well, usually my blue pill mindset and idealization would have me crying and hurting like crazy.

I am quite happy I made this decision.

if anything, I will offer her to go on the trip with me, hit it one more time and then let her go for her own sake.

I want to thank everyone who have submitted feedback on my field reports and bestowed great advice on this forum!!! i truly appreciate it!!

cheers
 

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Hate to say it, but the type of woman you are dealing with is actually par for the course. Many of the guys I know deal with:

1) extremely fat and/or ugly women

2) extremely controlling, domineering women

3) extremely crazy women

Of course, I know lots of guys who are married to 'normal' 'well adjusted' women. These guys and gals are generally from the midwest and south and have more traditional values.

On both coasts, guys start to believe the feminist lies (women's looks don't matter, men and women are equal) and wind up with women who are extremely low stock and value.

It's tough out there.
 

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Hate to say it, but the type of woman you are dealing with is actually par for the course. Many of the guys I know deal with:

1) extremely fat and/or ugly women

2) extremely controlling, domineering women

3) extremely crazy women

Of course, I know lots of guys who are married to 'normal' 'well adjusted' women. These guys and gals are generally from the midwest and south and have more traditional values.

On both coasts, guys start to believe the feminist lies (women's looks don't matter, men and women are equal) and wind up with women who are extremely low stock and value.

It's tough out there.
Lol! I actually had fun with this one. I could have seen right through her, and I don't know if she was so delusional or if she indeed felt like she could manipulate me so easily. I sure wasn't beta with her. She chased 90% of our time together (7.5 months). I hardly ever called or texted her first. So she had way more "invested" than me. All I invested was time (on us, not her). I never bought her a gift or something material. I did pay for our travels but that is doing stuff I love and by the sense, she fell in my frame and I never lost that.

but she lives 2 hours away from me. I should have known better than to get into a long distance "relationship". The guy in question lives in her hometown. go figure.
 

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Good for you. It's a step in the right direction. The ultimate goal is to be able to identify these things in a woman before you get involved in any way. It takes a lot of time. I've been on SS for like, sh!t, 5 years now?? I'm finally getting good at it. The last several girls I've been with have been cool, no craziness. And now I realize it is quality over quantity.

I like how you said there's you, me, and the relationship. Actions speak louder than words. It is a little over the top, the lengths you went to and circumstantial evidence, but with the red flags provided definitely the correct decision. Stay strong and don't stick it back in her no matter how much you want to. She's 28, she wants them babies. I hope your pull out game was strong!
 

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@BeExcellent @LARaiders85 @mrgoodstuff @billtx49 small question. I am still pondering if I should allow this girl go to on the trip with me or make her lose her $2,000 investment into the trip so far.

even after I broke up with her, and she knowing why (but still begging me to please give her my reason for breaking up with her), she's still following this one specific guy I confronted her about and who she lied about. so it's clear as day there's something going on.

she might want to surprise me at my place this weekend, I am dead sure about this. How should I handle this situation? what do you guys recommend as best course of action?

thankfully, I am not in pain and feeling well.
 

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@BeExcellent @LARaiders85 @mrgoodstuff @billtx49 small question. I am still pondering if I should allow this girl go to on the trip with me or make her lose her $2,000 investment into the trip so far.

even after I broke up with her, and she knowing why (but still begging me to please give her my reason for breaking up with her), she's still following this one specific guy I confronted her about and who she lied about. so it's clear as day there's something going on.

she might want to surprise me at my place this weekend, I am dead sure about this. How should I handle this situation? what do you guys recommend as best course of action?

thankfully, I am not in pain and feeling well.
You are the only person that can decide on the quality of others and enforce what you want in your life. If one person doesn’t meet your standards and you’re true to your standards, then that person is out for good.…
 
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