Personally, I love seeing the success stories on this site. I find them to be extremely motivating. So I wanted to share my recent stories. I am still in the beginning stages, but the last few days have been a breakthrough in these practices making good progress.
Girl #1: I met her through a mutual friend about 6 weeks ago. At the time, I was actually more interested in her friend. Within just an hour of meeting, I was making out with the friend, who eventually stopped it because she had a boyfriend. Still, throughout the rest of the night at this club, she was all over me. At one point she got so drunk I simply couldn't handle it anymore, and I started talking to/dancing with Girl #1. She ended up texting me all night saying how great it was to meet me, and she wished she didn't need to drive her friend home.
I go out with these girls a week later, and the same thing happens. The friend is all over me, but again got so drunk it just turned me off and I went back to Girl #1. Conversation starts getting really sexual and somehow gets to the subject of Victoria Secret. She tells me she has a lot of stuff from there that she will need to model for me. And we plan for her to come to my place the following Wednesday. That night she sends me a text picture of her in lingerie with the caption "A preview of Wednesday! You better not forget about our plans
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Wednesday comes around, I'm at work so I text her to head over after 8:00. No response. Never shows. So whatever, I simply didn't talk to her for a while. I wasn't going to initiate anything after she flaked.
Fast forward to this past Tuesday (my birthday) she texts me to say happy birthday and that she wants to come out to the bar with me. Long story short, I just had a good time, gave her very little attention, did not bring up the flake, and her and her friend ended up at my place that night. She said she didn't want to have sex because she didn't shave (at this point I'm starting to wonder if it's another red flag). But, we still had some fun... for a good 2 hours. Before she leaves she tells me how bad she wanted me to fvck her and almost begs me to hang out with her Thursday.
Blah blah blah, Thursday comes around, she comes over, spent a good 5 hours in my bedroom which included my neighbors pounding on the wall multiple times.
Girl #2: Met her last Friday at a bar with mutual friends out celebrating my birthday. I could tell from the start she wasn't the kind of girl I would be taking home that night. In fact, I was a little worried shes just looking for a relationship (and still am). But apparently in my drunken state, I still played it really well, as she approached me to offer me her number. The night ended with us making out in the parking lot, and her telling me "the ball is in your court".
I called her Sunday to invite her to my pool on Monday afternoon, but she had plans with her family for the 4th, so that didn't work out. She texts me at 2:00am that night asking what I'm doing after fireworks. I had a lot to do the next day at work, so I just told her I was busy.
Last night I made plans with a couple friends to go somewhere. She texts me saying she was going to the same place, ironically. So we meet up there and we are all having a good time. I had fun watching her try to isolate us randomly from the group. At the end of the night she comes over to my car to say goodbye and we start making out. I invited her out with me and some of my friends for tonight in the city and she was extremely hesitant. I through out the "don't ruin your chances with me" line. The next thing she said to me made me realize exactly how much this site has helped me, as I would have NEVER heard something like this before: "You make me nervous... Like, I'm always nervous I'm going to say the wrong thing and I will actually ruin my chance. I don't want to ruin my chance. I'll go tomorrow. I want to hang out with you, and I know it won't happen again if I don't go."
So, all in all, I think my last 2 nights were a huge step in the DJ direction.
What I have learned most from my last couple weeks:
- Relax and have a good time. You will kill yourself trying to do everything "right". And by trying that hard, you are already doing it incorrectly.
- Never be swayed by your lowest lows. When things look horrible, stop feeling down on yourself. It's incredible how quickly it can turn around when you keep at it.
- At the same time, don't get discouraged when your highest highs don't always occur. There has to be a middle ground, and part of the game is just shifting that middle more towards success.
- Multiple plates are MANDATORY!! For many people, at least. The second I had options, things got so much easier. I stopped analyzing everything so much, thinking about everything so much, and just went with it.
Hopefully someone can benefit from my success story like I have from others.
Girl #1: I met her through a mutual friend about 6 weeks ago. At the time, I was actually more interested in her friend. Within just an hour of meeting, I was making out with the friend, who eventually stopped it because she had a boyfriend. Still, throughout the rest of the night at this club, she was all over me. At one point she got so drunk I simply couldn't handle it anymore, and I started talking to/dancing with Girl #1. She ended up texting me all night saying how great it was to meet me, and she wished she didn't need to drive her friend home.
I go out with these girls a week later, and the same thing happens. The friend is all over me, but again got so drunk it just turned me off and I went back to Girl #1. Conversation starts getting really sexual and somehow gets to the subject of Victoria Secret. She tells me she has a lot of stuff from there that she will need to model for me. And we plan for her to come to my place the following Wednesday. That night she sends me a text picture of her in lingerie with the caption "A preview of Wednesday! You better not forget about our plans
"Wednesday comes around, I'm at work so I text her to head over after 8:00. No response. Never shows. So whatever, I simply didn't talk to her for a while. I wasn't going to initiate anything after she flaked.
Fast forward to this past Tuesday (my birthday) she texts me to say happy birthday and that she wants to come out to the bar with me. Long story short, I just had a good time, gave her very little attention, did not bring up the flake, and her and her friend ended up at my place that night. She said she didn't want to have sex because she didn't shave (at this point I'm starting to wonder if it's another red flag). But, we still had some fun... for a good 2 hours. Before she leaves she tells me how bad she wanted me to fvck her and almost begs me to hang out with her Thursday.
Blah blah blah, Thursday comes around, she comes over, spent a good 5 hours in my bedroom which included my neighbors pounding on the wall multiple times.
Girl #2: Met her last Friday at a bar with mutual friends out celebrating my birthday. I could tell from the start she wasn't the kind of girl I would be taking home that night. In fact, I was a little worried shes just looking for a relationship (and still am). But apparently in my drunken state, I still played it really well, as she approached me to offer me her number. The night ended with us making out in the parking lot, and her telling me "the ball is in your court".
I called her Sunday to invite her to my pool on Monday afternoon, but she had plans with her family for the 4th, so that didn't work out. She texts me at 2:00am that night asking what I'm doing after fireworks. I had a lot to do the next day at work, so I just told her I was busy.
Last night I made plans with a couple friends to go somewhere. She texts me saying she was going to the same place, ironically. So we meet up there and we are all having a good time. I had fun watching her try to isolate us randomly from the group. At the end of the night she comes over to my car to say goodbye and we start making out. I invited her out with me and some of my friends for tonight in the city and she was extremely hesitant. I through out the "don't ruin your chances with me" line. The next thing she said to me made me realize exactly how much this site has helped me, as I would have NEVER heard something like this before: "You make me nervous... Like, I'm always nervous I'm going to say the wrong thing and I will actually ruin my chance. I don't want to ruin my chance. I'll go tomorrow. I want to hang out with you, and I know it won't happen again if I don't go."
So, all in all, I think my last 2 nights were a huge step in the DJ direction.
What I have learned most from my last couple weeks:
- Relax and have a good time. You will kill yourself trying to do everything "right". And by trying that hard, you are already doing it incorrectly.
- Never be swayed by your lowest lows. When things look horrible, stop feeling down on yourself. It's incredible how quickly it can turn around when you keep at it.
- At the same time, don't get discouraged when your highest highs don't always occur. There has to be a middle ground, and part of the game is just shifting that middle more towards success.
- Multiple plates are MANDATORY!! For many people, at least. The second I had options, things got so much easier. I stopped analyzing everything so much, thinking about everything so much, and just went with it.
Hopefully someone can benefit from my success story like I have from others.
