First of all, I would like to say hello and introduce myself to everyone, as this is my first post, and I just got into the game. I am 19 and go to the University of Florida, and after a while of being depressed from getting out of a long term relationship, I'm ready to get into the game and build my confidence again.
Ok so as to the field report. Tonight was one of my friends birthday and he was having a party. Another one of my friends(Who we will call Bill and whom has a girl friend who we will call Gabby) decided to go and take his girlfriend along with one of her roomates. This roomate was my target. We will call her Tammy. So Gabby and Bill came over before the party and hung out while we waited for Tammy to get ready. Gabby drove us and we picked up Tammy, she got in the back seat next to me, and she smelled very nice. I did not immediatly say anything, and I allowed my friend Bill to say something first. I just basically ignored Tammy by not really speaking directly to her during the car ride. I just acted all pumped up and got into the music and just got loose and relaxed with my friends.
When we got to the party I changed gears. I still ignored her a bit, but I would ask a random question or say somehting, then look at her so she would answer it or respond to me. This got things started off a little so that we had spoken and gotten a little playful.
Now that I look back on it, I dont know what my problem was with the target, because on my trips to the keg and just random walk arounds, I gamed random girls so well. One random girl was standing next to me and she was talking about where she worked and was showing her friends the keys to the place, while she dropped them. I let out a loud WHOAAAA and said 'watch yourself' She looked up and smiled and we began to talk about the keys. I told her that she was lying and that she didnt really work there. After teasing her a bit, she accidently spilled beer next to me and I again told her watch what she was doing, she playfully said 'ooomgg im so sorry' and she reached down and wiped my leg(I guess she thought she spilt it on me lol) This got her friends interested and they introduced themselves to me and asked me my name. I felt that I had their attention pretty well, but I had a different goal. Back to my target I went.
We decided to play some flip cup, so we headed to the corner table where people were playing. I asked Tammy if she played and got her to come and stand next to me for the game. I kept randomly saying remarks and adding kino by touching her arm and stuff. A couple times, I grabbed her hand, squeezed and she defenitly squeezed back. I took this as an IOI and as we played I felt that I defenetly had her hooked or her attention peaked in some way.
Also while we were playing flip cup I flirted with 2 other girls very heavily. One I told that she couldnt play on our team and when she took offence and expected me to let her, I told her that I dont let ametures play on my team. I felt out how much negging was too much and played some catch and release with her. Another girl I opened on by asking if she wanted to play and when she said sure, I said "i really dont think you can handle me,but ok" I continued to flirt and neg these two girls in front of the Target. My first big question is...was this a mistake? Did Tammy see right through my game by seeing me be such a player with these other girls. Or was it good that she saw these girls take interest in me. A type of social proof thing.
Anyways, this is where it went down hill. I dont know really what happened, but this is where I need you guys to help me. I went to the bathroom and on my way I saw the girl I had not allow to join my flip cup team. When I said heyyy to her, she said 'You're mean' and I said, 'aww comon, you dont mean that, you love me' She had a camera in her hand so I told her friend to take a picture of us and I put my arm around her. My target saw this, and I'm wondering if this was good or bad. I really cant decide if the target seeing all this other flirting is a good or bad thing.
Anyways, when I came out of the bathroom, I sensed a noticibly cold tinge coming from my target. I was confused because I just had her hooked, and now she was all quiet and everytime I would mess with her she didnt seem too playful. I didnt know if I was getting played back at or if she legitamently lost interest. So I decided that I would freeze her out by walking away, flirting with other girls and then coming back later to see if she had thawed. I did this, but when I came back, same story. She was cold as ice. I had lost it. I dont know what the hell happened, but I failed to hook her enought I suppose. Does anyone else have this problem? I felt that she was into me, but I lost it. What can I do to deepen the connection and proceed to a kiss?
Anyways. We all decided to leave the party, and everyone was staying at my condo near by. So as we walked back home, I flirted with her like mad, and constantly added heavy kino. This was my last chance to hook it before we got back. I felt like she was responding very nicely and when we got back, we all sat down at the table and we were going to play poker. However just after sitting down, she got up, and sat on one of my couches(my roomate was on the other watching friends) and said "oo I love friends" This could have been an invitation for me to sit next to her, but the way she did it, it was more a shaft IMO. So anyways, I wait a bit and go sit next to her. Still ice. So i get pissed and just go up to my room, and to the bathroom. When I came out, I saw her, Bill and Gabby in my room and she was commenting on my water bed and how cool it was. I thought to myself."game on again" so she went to an ajacent empty room and I thought this was defenetly my chance to kiss her. However when I got in, I couldnt find the right opportunity to do it. I just..kinda frooze, but on the other hand, she didnt give me many IOIs or anything. So I was so conflicted. I didnt want to kiss her and get thrown off, cuz I ddint feel she was into me.
Looking back, I probably should have pulled the kiss close right then and there, but I didnt. Damn me. I really dont know in retrospect whether she wanted me to or not. She had just been too cold recently for me to really think she did want to.
And that was basically the end of the night, we went back down stairs with my friends and watched a bit of TV. In a last ditch effort to test her like, I did an awsome magic trick, she seemed to like it a bit, but when I sat next to her again, she wiggled around then leaned away from me. I couldnt tell if this was some sort of LMR(last minute resistance) or if she didnt want to sit with me. Then when my friends went to sleep , she immediatly got up and went to the other couch and asked if I had a blanket for her to sleep.
So I got her the blanket and said"peace out"<<---I was pissed and I showed it in my voice. And now here I am, writing this busted ass field report.
In conclusion, some questions
--Was it bad for me to flirt so heavily with other girls in front of the target?
--Once I have that initial hook, what is good to build some good rapport and get her to really feel confortable and ready to kiss me.
--Do many girls act cold so suddenly to play games? Or was it more likly that she lost interest?
--Was the couch thing and the watching Friends rather than poker a LMR technique by her, or was it just her being cold.
--Any suggestions when I got her alone, A good kiss close, or what to say in that situation.
Thanks guys, I know this was long as hell, but for those of you who read it I appreciate it.
--Inv3rse
Ok so as to the field report. Tonight was one of my friends birthday and he was having a party. Another one of my friends(Who we will call Bill and whom has a girl friend who we will call Gabby) decided to go and take his girlfriend along with one of her roomates. This roomate was my target. We will call her Tammy. So Gabby and Bill came over before the party and hung out while we waited for Tammy to get ready. Gabby drove us and we picked up Tammy, she got in the back seat next to me, and she smelled very nice. I did not immediatly say anything, and I allowed my friend Bill to say something first. I just basically ignored Tammy by not really speaking directly to her during the car ride. I just acted all pumped up and got into the music and just got loose and relaxed with my friends.
When we got to the party I changed gears. I still ignored her a bit, but I would ask a random question or say somehting, then look at her so she would answer it or respond to me. This got things started off a little so that we had spoken and gotten a little playful.
Now that I look back on it, I dont know what my problem was with the target, because on my trips to the keg and just random walk arounds, I gamed random girls so well. One random girl was standing next to me and she was talking about where she worked and was showing her friends the keys to the place, while she dropped them. I let out a loud WHOAAAA and said 'watch yourself' She looked up and smiled and we began to talk about the keys. I told her that she was lying and that she didnt really work there. After teasing her a bit, she accidently spilled beer next to me and I again told her watch what she was doing, she playfully said 'ooomgg im so sorry' and she reached down and wiped my leg(I guess she thought she spilt it on me lol) This got her friends interested and they introduced themselves to me and asked me my name. I felt that I had their attention pretty well, but I had a different goal. Back to my target I went.
We decided to play some flip cup, so we headed to the corner table where people were playing. I asked Tammy if she played and got her to come and stand next to me for the game. I kept randomly saying remarks and adding kino by touching her arm and stuff. A couple times, I grabbed her hand, squeezed and she defenitly squeezed back. I took this as an IOI and as we played I felt that I defenetly had her hooked or her attention peaked in some way.
Also while we were playing flip cup I flirted with 2 other girls very heavily. One I told that she couldnt play on our team and when she took offence and expected me to let her, I told her that I dont let ametures play on my team. I felt out how much negging was too much and played some catch and release with her. Another girl I opened on by asking if she wanted to play and when she said sure, I said "i really dont think you can handle me,but ok" I continued to flirt and neg these two girls in front of the Target. My first big question is...was this a mistake? Did Tammy see right through my game by seeing me be such a player with these other girls. Or was it good that she saw these girls take interest in me. A type of social proof thing.
Anyways, this is where it went down hill. I dont know really what happened, but this is where I need you guys to help me. I went to the bathroom and on my way I saw the girl I had not allow to join my flip cup team. When I said heyyy to her, she said 'You're mean' and I said, 'aww comon, you dont mean that, you love me' She had a camera in her hand so I told her friend to take a picture of us and I put my arm around her. My target saw this, and I'm wondering if this was good or bad. I really cant decide if the target seeing all this other flirting is a good or bad thing.
Anyways, when I came out of the bathroom, I sensed a noticibly cold tinge coming from my target. I was confused because I just had her hooked, and now she was all quiet and everytime I would mess with her she didnt seem too playful. I didnt know if I was getting played back at or if she legitamently lost interest. So I decided that I would freeze her out by walking away, flirting with other girls and then coming back later to see if she had thawed. I did this, but when I came back, same story. She was cold as ice. I had lost it. I dont know what the hell happened, but I failed to hook her enought I suppose. Does anyone else have this problem? I felt that she was into me, but I lost it. What can I do to deepen the connection and proceed to a kiss?
Anyways. We all decided to leave the party, and everyone was staying at my condo near by. So as we walked back home, I flirted with her like mad, and constantly added heavy kino. This was my last chance to hook it before we got back. I felt like she was responding very nicely and when we got back, we all sat down at the table and we were going to play poker. However just after sitting down, she got up, and sat on one of my couches(my roomate was on the other watching friends) and said "oo I love friends" This could have been an invitation for me to sit next to her, but the way she did it, it was more a shaft IMO. So anyways, I wait a bit and go sit next to her. Still ice. So i get pissed and just go up to my room, and to the bathroom. When I came out, I saw her, Bill and Gabby in my room and she was commenting on my water bed and how cool it was. I thought to myself."game on again" so she went to an ajacent empty room and I thought this was defenetly my chance to kiss her. However when I got in, I couldnt find the right opportunity to do it. I just..kinda frooze, but on the other hand, she didnt give me many IOIs or anything. So I was so conflicted. I didnt want to kiss her and get thrown off, cuz I ddint feel she was into me.
Looking back, I probably should have pulled the kiss close right then and there, but I didnt. Damn me. I really dont know in retrospect whether she wanted me to or not. She had just been too cold recently for me to really think she did want to.
And that was basically the end of the night, we went back down stairs with my friends and watched a bit of TV. In a last ditch effort to test her like, I did an awsome magic trick, she seemed to like it a bit, but when I sat next to her again, she wiggled around then leaned away from me. I couldnt tell if this was some sort of LMR(last minute resistance) or if she didnt want to sit with me. Then when my friends went to sleep , she immediatly got up and went to the other couch and asked if I had a blanket for her to sleep.
So I got her the blanket and said"peace out"<<---I was pissed and I showed it in my voice. And now here I am, writing this busted ass field report.
In conclusion, some questions
--Was it bad for me to flirt so heavily with other girls in front of the target?
--Once I have that initial hook, what is good to build some good rapport and get her to really feel confortable and ready to kiss me.
--Do many girls act cold so suddenly to play games? Or was it more likly that she lost interest?
--Was the couch thing and the watching Friends rather than poker a LMR technique by her, or was it just her being cold.
--Any suggestions when I got her alone, A good kiss close, or what to say in that situation.
Thanks guys, I know this was long as hell, but for those of you who read it I appreciate it.
--Inv3rse