rgeere
Master Don Juan
Grrrr, I am such an AFC…. I’ll admit that right now so no one else will
have to for me, but then again that is why I browse here and this forum.
Note: Read this post first, she showed me interest
signs, which was why I asked her along.
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=51299
Ok, I don’t think I will be dating this girl ever again. The conversations
we had were positive, but she had a spanish accent and I had trouble
understanding her, and she seemed nervous and stuttered a little when she
spoke. This is disregarding the fact that she said some things at the
beginning of our conversation that were contradictory to what she had
previously said towards the end of our time together, or maybe I just
completely misunderstood her. Either way I didn’t like that at all.
I am writing down what I can remember from the conversations we had for
everyone’s analysis and constructive criticism. She showed considerably
less interest in me than last time we spoke. Reminds me that I could
definitely sharpen up my DJ skills, I lag like a slug. It’s possible she
had at least some interest in me from the start, but I definatelly
think I screwed up in several ways and initially lowered her interest
level to the far brink side of null.
I’m estimating this whole thing took about 45 minutes…..
Wait around for her to come out from where she works.
I use to work there and know everyone in the office,
So had some chit chat with people while I waited.
She comes out and I say…..
ME:So where are you going? Doing anything important?
HER:;(points to teeth)
ME:Brushing your teeth?
HER:No, I’m going to go get something to eat.
ME:Ohh, I see.
ME:Well, do you want a snowcone? I was on my way to the stand.
HER:No, thank you, but my house is in that general direction, and I’ll follow
you there.
HER:Why were you waiting around in the lobby area. Were you waiting for someone?
ME:No one in particular. I thought about getting one and wanted to invite
you along.
HER:I see.
HER:Well, normally my mom (something I couldn’t understand) comes around and
picks me up (something?), but I am walking home today.
Asked her some open ended questions about herself, found out that she only
went to school here for about 3 or 4 semesters, and took a few months off
to teach English in brasil.
Then I said…….
ME:So, do you remember my name?
No, you look familiar, but I don’t remember
ME:Really? You don’t remember my name? I’m so very shocked!
ME:You don’t remember me from the party?
HER:What party?
ME:Chuck’s girlfriends party?
HER:There were a lot of people there. Like a said you look familiar.
HER:I hope you aren’t very disappointed.
ME: Drats.
ME:Well, my names Reuben, and you name is [Girl’s name], correct.
HER:That’s right, well, I like guys whose names start with R’s, Reuben,
Roberto, Rosel, etc.
ME: (Forgot how I responded to that)
ME:So how many languages do you speak?
HER:About 2 and a half
ME:Really, only two and a half? Let me guess, Spanish, Portuguese, and English?
HER:YEAH!
ME:Why two and a half?
HER:my Portuguese is rusty.
ME:So, you don’t speak it as much anymore?
HER:Not as much as I use to.
ME:That’s interesting.
ME:So, what is your major, then?
HER:Guess.
ME:In that case, hmm, I wonder.
ME:Let me think, Education?
HER:No, but it use to be. My new field has something to do with education.
MEsychology?
HER:No
ME:Religion?
HER:Keep guessing
ME:Buisness?
HER:Way off!
ME:Hmmm, what could your major ever be.
HER: (shows me from the school’s bulletin that she is Physical education)
MEhysical education, I should have guessed that.
HER:What are you….
ME: [I state my major]
HER:Ok, you should know my brother, then.
ME:I don’t think I do, who is he?
HER:Guess!
ME:Hmm, I don’t know. His name probably isn’t dee.
HER:He is tall and Spanish
ME:I can only think of a few people who are tall and Spanish.
HER:His name is Dan
ME:Well, I don’t know anyone by that name.
We arrive at the snowcone stand
ME:Are you absolutely sure you don’t want a snowcone? I bet it looks really
tempting.
HER:Ok, I think I’ll get one after all.
ME:We make small talk while it is being ordered. Finish getting the stuff,
and start walking to her house.
ME:So, where do you , live?
ME:Well, I have lived in both Missouri, and California, but I am currently
living in the dorm.
HER:Really, I’m sorry.
ME:Isn’t it supper time for you?
HER: Doesn’t the café open from 5:00 – 5:30 during the summer?
Naw, I’m not hungry. I already ate.
HER:That is not healthy.
ME:I only eat one meal there a day, the cafeteria cost alot, so I eat a lot
in one meal.
HER:That still isn’t healthy
[we get to her house, we have some small talk, and she invites me inside
her house. I don’t remember everything I said, so some parts are probably missing. I
asked a bunch of open ended questions.
HER:Well, would you like some water?
ME:I could use some water, yes
HER:Ice?
ME:No thank you
HER:A wise decision.
[I sit down at the table, and she sits at the opposite end]
HER:Would you like anything to eat as well, we have lots of fruit here.
ME:Hmmmm, I’m not very hungry, but thanks anyways.
HER:Are you absolutely sure?
ME:I guess I could at least try something, bananna, or what is this? Ohh, an
avocado! I like those, but not raw like this.
HER:An orange maybe? Here, and try it with some of this seasoning [Strange
Mexican stuff]
HER: You need to start eating nutritionally anyways.
ME:So, do you do anything for fun?
HER:Well, I like to [do something] and with my boyfriend…. [stayed calm and
collected]
ME:And you liked work today?
HER: Don’t you work where I work?
ME:I havn’t worked there in ages.
HER:I saw you in the office, I thought you worked there.
ME:No, but I have worked about everywhere on campus.
HER:You should work at the cafeteria. I hear they give out free meals.
ME:Yes, but I am not sure if it is entirely free, they discount from your
paycheck. I know since I worked there for a little while one summer, and then went
to work where you worked for the rest of the summer.
HER:But aren’t you working now?
ME:I’m working on getting a job at the radio station. They had an audition
last semester that I missed, and auditions are before next semester some
time, but I know the manager there personally, so I am just thinking of
asking if they have any times that they can use me since they don’t always
have a DJ working 24 hours a day.
I know start to run out of things to say, should have ended our visit and
gone home, but asked more open ended questions. Stupid me. I wasn’t fluent
enough with my talk.
HER:Why are you saying “WOW” all the time?
ME:I’m just responding to what you are saying?
HER:But surely what I am saying can’t be all that interesting?
ME:Well, if you like I could use an alternative to “WOW”
ME:Like, I don’t know, “Ohh” or something.
HER: (Goes “Hmmm”)
ME:Sounds like a good one, I’ll use that one next time.
HER:Well, I have to go take a shower, sorry.
ME:I understand, I’ll be leaving then.
ME:I guess I will be seeing you around
HER:Around campus, yes ( OUCH!)
(Almost walk out the door and remember…)
ME:Ohh wait,I almost forgot my back pack.
HER:Ohhh, that’s not a problem, if your wallet is in there you can just leave
it here.
ME:Fortunatelly, I leave my wallet in my pocket. [knew she was implying
something else]
ME:Well, I’ll see you.
HER:Thanks for the snow cone.
OUCH! OUCH! OUCH! The pain of rejection! But you know what,
I got off of my lazy butt and learned something about women from this experience.
Sure, the outcome was lousy, but I will make it my life’s goal to perfect myself as
a DJ if I have to. Now to find another woman to try whatever stuff I have and hopefully I will have improved by then.
By the way, I could use any positive criticism anyone is willing to give me.
have to for me, but then again that is why I browse here and this forum.
Note: Read this post first, she showed me interest
signs, which was why I asked her along.
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=51299
Ok, I don’t think I will be dating this girl ever again. The conversations
we had were positive, but she had a spanish accent and I had trouble
understanding her, and she seemed nervous and stuttered a little when she
spoke. This is disregarding the fact that she said some things at the
beginning of our conversation that were contradictory to what she had
previously said towards the end of our time together, or maybe I just
completely misunderstood her. Either way I didn’t like that at all.
I am writing down what I can remember from the conversations we had for
everyone’s analysis and constructive criticism. She showed considerably
less interest in me than last time we spoke. Reminds me that I could
definitely sharpen up my DJ skills, I lag like a slug. It’s possible she
had at least some interest in me from the start, but I definatelly
think I screwed up in several ways and initially lowered her interest
level to the far brink side of null.
I’m estimating this whole thing took about 45 minutes…..
Wait around for her to come out from where she works.
I use to work there and know everyone in the office,
So had some chit chat with people while I waited.
She comes out and I say…..
ME:So where are you going? Doing anything important?
HER:;(points to teeth)
ME:Brushing your teeth?
HER:No, I’m going to go get something to eat.
ME:Ohh, I see.
ME:Well, do you want a snowcone? I was on my way to the stand.
HER:No, thank you, but my house is in that general direction, and I’ll follow
you there.
HER:Why were you waiting around in the lobby area. Were you waiting for someone?
ME:No one in particular. I thought about getting one and wanted to invite
you along.
HER:I see.
HER:Well, normally my mom (something I couldn’t understand) comes around and
picks me up (something?), but I am walking home today.
Asked her some open ended questions about herself, found out that she only
went to school here for about 3 or 4 semesters, and took a few months off
to teach English in brasil.
Then I said…….
ME:So, do you remember my name?
No, you look familiar, but I don’t remember
ME:Really? You don’t remember my name? I’m so very shocked!
ME:You don’t remember me from the party?
HER:What party?
ME:Chuck’s girlfriends party?
HER:There were a lot of people there. Like a said you look familiar.
HER:I hope you aren’t very disappointed.
ME: Drats.
ME:Well, my names Reuben, and you name is [Girl’s name], correct.
HER:That’s right, well, I like guys whose names start with R’s, Reuben,
Roberto, Rosel, etc.
ME: (Forgot how I responded to that)
ME:So how many languages do you speak?
HER:About 2 and a half
ME:Really, only two and a half? Let me guess, Spanish, Portuguese, and English?
HER:YEAH!
ME:Why two and a half?
HER:my Portuguese is rusty.
ME:So, you don’t speak it as much anymore?
HER:Not as much as I use to.
ME:That’s interesting.
ME:So, what is your major, then?
HER:Guess.
ME:In that case, hmm, I wonder.
ME:Let me think, Education?
HER:No, but it use to be. My new field has something to do with education.
MEsychology?
HER:No
ME:Religion?
HER:Keep guessing
ME:Buisness?
HER:Way off!
ME:Hmmm, what could your major ever be.
HER: (shows me from the school’s bulletin that she is Physical education)
MEhysical education, I should have guessed that.
HER:What are you….
ME: [I state my major]
HER:Ok, you should know my brother, then.
ME:I don’t think I do, who is he?
HER:Guess!
ME:Hmm, I don’t know. His name probably isn’t dee.
HER:He is tall and Spanish
ME:I can only think of a few people who are tall and Spanish.
HER:His name is Dan
ME:Well, I don’t know anyone by that name.
We arrive at the snowcone stand
ME:Are you absolutely sure you don’t want a snowcone? I bet it looks really
tempting.
HER:Ok, I think I’ll get one after all.
ME:We make small talk while it is being ordered. Finish getting the stuff,
and start walking to her house.
ME:So, where do you , live?
ME:Well, I have lived in both Missouri, and California, but I am currently
living in the dorm.
HER:Really, I’m sorry.
ME:Isn’t it supper time for you?
HER: Doesn’t the café open from 5:00 – 5:30 during the summer?
Naw, I’m not hungry. I already ate.
HER:That is not healthy.
ME:I only eat one meal there a day, the cafeteria cost alot, so I eat a lot
in one meal.
HER:That still isn’t healthy
[we get to her house, we have some small talk, and she invites me inside
her house. I don’t remember everything I said, so some parts are probably missing. I
asked a bunch of open ended questions.
HER:Well, would you like some water?
ME:I could use some water, yes
HER:Ice?
ME:No thank you
HER:A wise decision.
[I sit down at the table, and she sits at the opposite end]
HER:Would you like anything to eat as well, we have lots of fruit here.
ME:Hmmmm, I’m not very hungry, but thanks anyways.
HER:Are you absolutely sure?
ME:I guess I could at least try something, bananna, or what is this? Ohh, an
avocado! I like those, but not raw like this.
HER:An orange maybe? Here, and try it with some of this seasoning [Strange
Mexican stuff]
HER: You need to start eating nutritionally anyways.
ME:So, do you do anything for fun?
HER:Well, I like to [do something] and with my boyfriend…. [stayed calm and
collected]
ME:And you liked work today?
HER: Don’t you work where I work?
ME:I havn’t worked there in ages.
HER:I saw you in the office, I thought you worked there.
ME:No, but I have worked about everywhere on campus.
HER:You should work at the cafeteria. I hear they give out free meals.
ME:Yes, but I am not sure if it is entirely free, they discount from your
paycheck. I know since I worked there for a little while one summer, and then went
to work where you worked for the rest of the summer.
HER:But aren’t you working now?
ME:I’m working on getting a job at the radio station. They had an audition
last semester that I missed, and auditions are before next semester some
time, but I know the manager there personally, so I am just thinking of
asking if they have any times that they can use me since they don’t always
have a DJ working 24 hours a day.
I know start to run out of things to say, should have ended our visit and
gone home, but asked more open ended questions. Stupid me. I wasn’t fluent
enough with my talk.
HER:Why are you saying “WOW” all the time?
ME:I’m just responding to what you are saying?
HER:But surely what I am saying can’t be all that interesting?
ME:Well, if you like I could use an alternative to “WOW”
ME:Like, I don’t know, “Ohh” or something.
HER: (Goes “Hmmm”)
ME:Sounds like a good one, I’ll use that one next time.
HER:Well, I have to go take a shower, sorry.
ME:I understand, I’ll be leaving then.
ME:I guess I will be seeing you around
HER:Around campus, yes ( OUCH!)
(Almost walk out the door and remember…)
ME:Ohh wait,I almost forgot my back pack.
HER:Ohhh, that’s not a problem, if your wallet is in there you can just leave
it here.
ME:Fortunatelly, I leave my wallet in my pocket. [knew she was implying
something else]
ME:Well, I’ll see you.
HER:Thanks for the snow cone.
OUCH! OUCH! OUCH! The pain of rejection! But you know what,
I got off of my lazy butt and learned something about women from this experience.
Sure, the outcome was lousy, but I will make it my life’s goal to perfect myself as
a DJ if I have to. Now to find another woman to try whatever stuff I have and hopefully I will have improved by then.
By the way, I could use any positive criticism anyone is willing to give me.