"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Field Report: Melbourne DJs clubbing #2

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Last week was a raging success, so the three of us were keen to go one step further in our second meetup.

The venue was the same, but for some reason there were probably only half as many clubbers than there were the same time last week.

I arrived early and sat on a couch by myself with a glass of lemonade. I couldn't stay out late because I've just started my first full-time job...and mid-week clubbing in your first week is kinda silly. Unfortunately I began to grow tired and my whole mindset was way off. In the back of my mind I knew I'd have to leave once the night started to heat up. Also, getting a makout early in the night is pretty hard, so what was the point? All I kept mulling over was how I was going to wake up next morning and which train/bus I'd have to catch.

I've learnt over the years that mindstates are absolutely critical, but I still find it difficult to control. Just this week I've fluctuated continuously from walking with a bounce in my step and talking to strangers on the street, to thinking negatively about how female behaviour disgusts me.

So I was already stuffed before the night began but I owed it to myself to make an effort.

A group of girls and guys sat on the couches next to me, and one hot girl was left standing and seemed to be slightly left out. We were separated by a table (built into bench seats) so she began to move beer glasses off it so she could sit next to her friend. I started helping her and then said, "Are you sure you want to sit there? You'll get beer stains all over your butt." She agreed and kept standing so I "skooched" over a bit a made room. She thanked me and sat down but her friends had completely turned their heads so it was just me and her. Too easy!

I was delighted...she was an HB8.5 blonde. We started talking straightaway and she was very responsive, giving good eye contact and touching shoulders with me. But as always, I didn't apply adequate kino because of one major problem. Whenever I'm at a pub/club, my hands are ICE COLD from touching the glass. Touching her with cold fish hands is going to do way more harm than good....i've been repulsed in the past by girls kinoing with clammy, cold, wet hands. So all I did was nudge her with my arm and shoulder, which is weak. How the hell do other people overcome this problem?? It has hindered me for years now.

I was doing decently with the convo though. She started saying, "I'm a good girl" so I answered, "Ohhh yeah...that's what they all say!.....all girls have a wild side" She started asking me questions and I stupidly mentioned I was working full-time and it was my first week. This seemed to impress her but then I f*cked it all up by saying stuff like, "I really shouldn't be here" "I'm not going to have a big night" "I wont' be drinking tonight" Basically I was nowhere near congruent with her state...she was gearing up for a big crazy night and I wasn't the fun party guy she was looking for. Soon her friend came and took her so they could get drinks. All I had to say was, "I'll come and see you for a dance later tonight" but I missed my chance. Oh well from now on I should ONLY talk to girls in party mode.

Wingmate (who btw has requested I refer to him from now on as Donni) and No Longer a Loser soon arrived and we started talking about our goals for the night. Donni was determined to make 8 approaches. NLaL was only going to stay half an hour so he was keen to approach right away. There were so few opportunities we needed to do something drastic to get the ball rolling.

Two UGs were standing by the dancefloor as NLaL began to walk by. The one on the right gave prolonged EC until I shifted my head away in disgust. Then to my horror, NLaL walked right up to them and I sheepishly had to talk to the UG who eyed me. Needless to say it was awkward and I was quick to initiate the withdrawal. They kept showing up near us later in the night but these are the type of girls you'd never touch with a 10 foot pole. Donni had made a few quick approaches by this time but nothing really to write home about. It's also hard for me to comment when I didn't see what happened.

NLaL went up to two hut slutty looking girls (HB7.5 and HB7) on bar stools around a table and easily gained both of their attention. He used a classy opinion setpiece, about whether he looks better with or without glasses. Donni and I didn't want to intrude on his set....he might have been telling a good story or making really good C+F banter and one of us arriving would have stuffed it up. Eventually he looked over in our direction and pointed so I took my cue and started winging. The one I was talking to (HB7) was pretty cool but seemed shy. Soon NLaL announced he was going to leave so I told the girls I'd see them later on the dancefloor.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Now it was just Donni and I but the ratio of girls didn't increase. It reminded me of the last day of the after-Christmas sales.....guys were desperately trying to snap up the remaiing merchandise. A few times I saw a target and made up my mind to approach, but a guy was already there once I turned my head. On one occasion, one guy just started to game a girl on a couch leaving her friend sitting bored. I decided very soon after to wing for him, but when I re-entered the room the couch was empty. I must have been too late for the poor bastard!

Luckily, Donni made the most of his opportunities and it was well and truly going to be his night. He was very positive and intent on keeping us moving throughout the night which is a great credit to him. On the dancefloor for the first time, he approached a girl on the edge and asked her to dance but it didn't work. Then he said a few words to a tall blonde and her friends but they barely looked interested in talking to guys.

He'd done about 5 approaches by the time the tides turned. A cute HB7.5 was sitting alone so he opened her, which was tough because she was sitting in an awkward area. Soon her friend came back and stood quietly in c0ckblocking mode....she was right in the walkway and I'm sure the HB7.5 and Donni noticed her presence. I was standing beside Donni so I stared at the c0ckblocker until she returned EC, then gestured for her to come and stand by me. She obeyed so I said something like, "I think your friend likes my friend," which hints that it was the girl who came on to Donni rather than him sleazing up on her. We joked a bit but it was hard to keep her attention. She said her friend was a good girl and doesn't usually pickup guys in clubs, but Donni later told me she was a bargirl at Goldfingers (the strip club). Typical dishonest female bullsh1t here :rolleyes:

Donni number closed and whispered something in her ear...she was all smiles. He was over the moon when we got downstairs! Enthusiasm for the game is something he has in abundance and that is critical for success. Genuine happiness after number closes is something that left me after my 5th to 10th one.....but I can see now that celebrating successes does wonders for your mood. I'm sure many guys in the world have barely made any number closes.

Back on the dancefloor, the two chicks NLaL opened earlier made a reappearance. They moved right in our vicinity to dance and then left the dancefloor, giving me EC from different points around the room. Finally they came back and I asked into the HB7s ear, "Are you guys going to stay and dance now, or keep running around the club?" The HB7.5 (the leader) led her away again and they stood there smiling at me and one of them spoke on her phone. Donni and I were thinking WTF?

Once again they came to dance again but the song hadn't even finished when the HB7.5 brushed close behind me with her hands on my sides. I grabbed the HB7 and said, "What's up with your friend, she can't keep still" She just giggled and kept following her, kinoing me also as she passed. Didn't see them again, I think they left. So frustrating dealing with bullsh1t games like that. Donni suggested the HB7.5 was more interested in me but I kept focussing on the other one. Who knows...it just shows how ridiculous club culture is.

Donni was determined for his target so her used some nice C+F lines on girls about their drinks. A girl was queing at the bar with drink already in hand so he teased her about that with good effect but he ejected because he thought she looked average.

Donni got better as the night went on and who knows what he could have achieved in a better environment. You get the MVP for tonight bro!

There is still much improvement to be done but we are well on track for a bright future.
 

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Well Done!! Awesome winging bro! Your field reports are the only reason I'm still on this site.. Brilliant stuff :)

Just one little thing, do me a favour guys... try a different venue.. Seems like Cheers is getting worse and worse.. There are so many other places.. you can try room, the armadale, the glenferrie etc... Try the armadale, it's packed on tuesdays..

Goodluck for your next meetup... Keep me informed!
Kind regards,
Irre.
 

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Another excellent FR duke! You guys made the most of what was not the best venue (chick ratio etc)! :D

As for kinoing with ice cold hands, only hold your drink with one hand and keep the other hand nice and warm in your pocket. Hopefully your 'warm' hand will be closer to your kino target to save reaching over. :cool:
 

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Great Field Report Duke,
It's nice to see that people are out in the field. I really enjoy reading your posts.

Keep up the good work!
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Yo IrReSiStIbLe, what happened to you when I was in Melb? Man, I ended up banging a virgin blue flight hostess, hot hot hot!
 

IrReSiStIbLe

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HAHA you big pimp!! You won't believe it, but about 5 months ago i was also with a virgin flight hostess.. didn't bang her, but copped head... still good :)

I've been incredibaly busy w shi1t so yeh, sorry bout that.. but dw, we're still young.. ;) besides.. I've got my hands tied these days coz of my g/f... but we'll see how long that lasts for.. How are things going with you bro? update me once in a while bout your hunnies.. hehe Speak soon bro :)

IrReSiStIbLe.
 

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Melbourne represent :) I just turned 18, when i get my game up i might come out with you dudes. Should be fun, what are good places to go to, my mates always go to seven on thursday nights.:p
 

CLOONEY

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Originally posted by IrReSiStIbLe
HAHA you big pimp!! You won't believe it, but about 5 months ago i was also with a virgin flight hostess.. didn't bang her, but copped head... still good :)

I've been incredibaly busy w shi1t so yeh, sorry bout that.. but dw, we're still young.. ;) besides.. I've got my hands tied these days coz of my g/f... but we'll see how long that lasts for.. How are things going with you bro? update me once in a while bout your hunnies.. hehe Speak soon bro :)

IrReSiStIbLe.
hahaha, prob the same one. She was like 28, blond and fine! My new years eve definately went up with a bang! ha.

Man, my girls are going well, possibly the best of my life at the moment! I broke up with my girlfriend a couple of months ago. Since then, dated about 15 or so, though I was fukced, all so damn boring. But about 2 weeks ago, I met this stunner (most athletic body I literally have ever seen), and cool personality. (apparently she played soccer for Australia a while back). So seen her a couple of times and things are great. See what happens, but when u start to loose hope in the female race, its always when you least expect it that one jumps out from nowhere! Good luck with your girl mate! Maybe next time Im in Melb we can have a beer and go on a mission!
 
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