Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I didn't really like her personality either. My thoughts are that she might be good for a quick bang if I'm ever in the need.Originally posted by dragonrb
Take this as you want, it's just my opinion.
I think picking up girls online is too easy. And in my experience, when I get things too easily, the enjoyment of them doesn't last very long.
As for this particular girl, she seems extremely shallow. The only thing she seems to be interested in is what kind of car you drive or how much money you make. And finally, her intelligence seems to be rather diminished based on my analysis of the way she communicated in the IM transaction.
Though not exactly the same thing, her question about which car you drive reminded me of this scene from the movie "Swingers," where the AFC finally musters up the courage to approach a hot girl at a party, to which he is shot down immediately by her question: "what kind of car do you drive?"
That being said, if you manage to get this girl, you should exploit her for her money. She's apparently loaded anyways.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.