field report: ego bashed but no regrets

[DJ Alejandro]

i waz looking for a way of approaching women just for the sake of approaching them without any strings attached. i mean, just approach without having them think that im interested.

maybe i should have approached only the girlz with whom i was interested in but i thought that it was only practice so a girl is a girl. so i took off and did it.

im in the school paper and i 'volunteered' to distribute the most recent issue in the school grounds. knowing that it should be done face-to-face in my case, i thought it would be good practice. so here goes:

first group of girls i approached was around 5. i just came up. i said if they haven't gotten the school paper yet they should get it already. i was holding on to it. at first they had these very 'what-the?' looks but they turned out ok.

another group i approached was ok. they were very open and i didn't get shot down. i didn't ask for any of their numbers yet but i made a few friends after figuring out that it would be better to introduce myself first like, hi! im from blah blah...

there was this girl who was DEFINITELY and HB1 in my scale (just trust me on this one). thinking that she probably wasn't getting approached that often, i went for it and what happend was like this.

me: hi! im Alejandro and im from the <name of skul paper>.
her: <blank look>
me:you should get your copy. you paid for it already anyway. <with my best smile>
her: <looks at me from head to toe and rolls her eyez and walks away>
me: <to myself> oh wel, u paid for it already. ur loss.

then i approached one of the popular girls. an HB8.5-9

me: hey there! im from blah blah...
her: hey! wow. special delivery for me. <smile>
me: <smiled and turned around>
me: <now facing her again> hey, ur ??? right? so u ARE friendly. i see u have a nice smile.
her:<giggle>
me:my name's blah blah... <extending my hand for a handshake>
her:<shakes my hand>
me: uh... you can let go of my hand now. <naughty grin>

wel, i still working on my convo. i think i got something right.

i spotted one of the even more popular girlz walking alone so i went up to her.

me: hey! ur ??? right? i saw you dance last night.
her: yeah. you saw me??? OMG! i wasn't aware someone was looking.
me:wel, actually my friend was beside you. <grin>
her:OMG! that was embarassing... blah blah....
me:dont worry. i forgive you. <grin>
her: <blush>
me: SO, u ate chicken for lunch. ( i could smell chicken from her breath)

i approached a few other girlz that day after i closed with the last one. they were the below average girlz tho. i got shot down a few more times.

im noticing a trend here. the more popular girlz are more approachable than those who aren't. i guess they juz have to keep up their reputation of being friendly as a result of being popular. i could be wrong tho.

after distributing about 100 at least, i can say that being ignored and bashed wasn't really THAT bad. im a little more immune nowadays.

please help me with my convos. any comments?

 

[Atratus]

Dude, spreading the paper doesn't have ANYTHING to do with approaching. Stop using it as a front.

If you see "this girl who was there was this girl who was DEFINITELY and HB1 in my scale" and decide to APPROACH her, the convo is:

"Hey girl, you're DEFINITELY and HB1 in my scale!"

(and she'll be all confused and suspect what a HB is and wonder why you said 1 (ONE)!!! and she'll be all over you )
Or you could say whatever you want.

And if she STILL gives you a blank stare, you can grumble something about a school paper and *these ****in' times* or something and move on. You could even apologize before moving - she'll want your ass for it.

See... women DO like you to be honest with them (read: a nice guy), just maybe not right away, or all the time... but i'm willing to bet that they can count your karma better than you, so watch out!

Now go get 'em for REAL (if that's what you want).

 

[Chewy Bagel]

Originally posted by DJ Alejandro
me: SO, u ate chicken for lunch. ( i could smell chicken from her breath)

DJ'n Philippine style.

 

[DJ Alejandro]

yeah.

maybe i was using it as a front. what was important to me ws that i got my ego bashed in stuff. kinda more of the 'experience the worst possible shoot downs' mode.

oh. and uh, i approached a few girlz that day. i got a few numbers too. WITHOUT the paper. just so i get used to being shot down which are starting to come less frequently.

 

[Atratus]

Re: yeah.

Originally posted by DJ Alejandro
maybe i was using it as a front. what was important to me ws that i got my ego bashed in stuff. kinda more of the 'experience the worst possible shoot downs' mode.

oh. and uh, i approached a few girlz that day. i got a few numbers too. WITHOUT the paper. just so i get used to being shot down which are starting to come less frequently.

Hell yeah, forgive me if i bashed it a little further! I just wanted to make sure you knew the difference, but it don't matter either way. Using a front has also been called "pick-up opportunity" "good places to meet" "put my game on" and whatever. Whatsmore, you got numbers after all! Muchos Kudos to that.

Of course, the real gold does remain in the ego bashing. Keep drawing fire, and watch fight club (or eq) in the meantime; If you can hit bottom without losing your cool, you've got it made.

 

[DJ Alejandro]

hmm..

i got the most evil bashing whenever i approached without having EC first. that's a lesson i learned.

but still even more bashing came out when i only put on a smile and extended the issue out to people. i get ignored! OUCH!