Field Report - asked bank teller out.

[Luke Skywalker]

In the animal Kingdom, my Animal Spirit-Guide, the Puff Adder does not bother to hunt his prey. He is lazy. He loves to lie all day on hot rocks and relax. He snoozes and when it gets too hot, he retreats into a hole, or under some rocks, or into a hollow tree trunk, until it cools down a bit. He is so cool, that he doesnt need to hunt, the food comes to him. He lies deathly still, but ready to strike at any given moment. A small rodent does not even notice him, so still and well camoflauged is he. Until it gets too close. The strike of the Puff Adder is so powerful, that sometimes it kills the animal without a drop of venom used, but the venom is among the deadliest in all of Africa, and Arabia. He feeds and goes back on the rock to sunbathe.

That is my dating style in a handbasket. I go about my day. I awaken, read the USA Today, drink Java, watch CNN, hit the gym, cardio, free weights, stadium stairs, tanning, ect. Go to work, sometimes go out for a drink and a smoke, sometimes come home to watch a movie. I do not "Cold Approach"....They have to come to me. Do I miss out on oppurtunities? Sure. BUT when one comes along, being a flaky biittch, or a typical woman, I simply wait, until she is vunerable. My aloofness and cool "devil may care" attitude usually drives em mad. By the time I am finished, they are naked, on a bed, begging me to "Put it inside me" and they kiss me passionatley as I thrust away, and their cell phone rings at 3am the AFC trying to win her love.

This is what happens when you wait for them to come to you. Listen.....and learn.

Let's simply things. You are probably 10 in looks or look like Brad Pick or something and are either black or white racial background, am I right so far? I, on the other hand, am an average looking guy or below average, heck maybe I'm just ugly to some people.

So, it goes down to this, if looks are enough to pull girls then everything is bogus since I have the perfect excuse for my lack of success anywhere is simply because my looks aren't there for the type of girls I'm attracted to or am hitting on. End of story.

None of what you've mentioned has happened to me, except maybe once in ten years, but that's not good enough, and women generally don't even notice that I'm around or look at me a second time. So, maybe it's just all about looks. This was an Indian-Guyanese teller. Maybe if I was a tall and handsome caucasian guy she would have had a different reaction.

I guess there is really no solution. I don't have really good looks, and I don't have a personality to compensate for that, so basically I'm just fvcked.

 

[JackPrescott]

Let's simply things. You are probably 10 in looks or look like Brad Pick or something and are either black or white racial background, am I right so far? I, on the other hand, am an average looking guy or below average, heck maybe I'm just ugly to some people.

So, it goes down to this, if looks are enough to pull girls then everything is bogus since I have the perfect excuse for my lack of success anywhere is simply because my looks aren't there for the type of girls I'm attracted to or am hitting on. End of story.

None of what you've mentioned has happened to me and women generally don't even notice that I'm around or look at me a second time. So, maybe it's just all about looks. This was an Indian-Guyanese teller. Maybe if I was a tall and handsome caucasian guy she would have had a different reaction.

Landing women has little to do with any of that.

1. Confidence.
2. "Devil May Care" attitude
3. Patience.

"Buddha will provide"

 

[Luke Skywalker]

Landing women has little to do with any of that.

1. Confidence.
2. "Devil May Care" attitude
3. Patience.

you still haven't answered the question/challenge? What are you on the looks scale. If you are ugly dude that people are repulsed seeing, then I can listen to you. If you are a hot stud and you are saying that, it has no credibility.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

Joke about this fabulous meal that you ate last week. You can find out this way what she likes to eat herself. Don't ask her out. Just play with it a bit. Build up your value this way.

Interesting. I'm looking into this one.

I never did this before. Joke about something I did and tell some sort of story to someone. Sounds better than asking dull, dry and boring question like every other AFC does who is trying to hit on her.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Luke, I have never been involved in real estate in Canada. Here in the US, we have a "county courthouse" where records are kept and auctions are often held. Do you have something like that in Canada? I am asking because if you do, it would be a high percentage environment for you in regard to approaching women - you have common ground, rapport, and a dhv instantly, as soon as she knows that you are a real estate investor. A cynical guy would say a woman who likes you because she thinks you might be rich is a gold-digging wh0re. But I think all women are like this to some extent, and it is only fair to have sex with them while they are trying to figure out if you are rich. Don't lie. You don't have to. Rich people don't brag about being rich; they usually keep it quiet. Find some sweet young thing who is trying to do a very basic task like a lien search, and you will place yourself in a very high percentage closing situation.

btw, this advice works for all of us. I have experienced it myself frequently. Backbreaker did it at the horse track; I have done it at stock market seminars, and now with a law degree, picking up any woman at the courthouse is ridiculously easy - it's like a bordello where I have already paid my money. Whatever your area of expertise, the one thing that you know more than most people about, seek out an environment that reflects that expertise, and the women there will want you. This works for hobbies as well as career expertise. If you have a hobby, go talk to girls at your local hobby store - you instantly have rapport, common ground, demonstration of value, and a reason to talk again later. Start a conversation, get her hooked, and then cut her off because you are in a rush, but you can take her number and finish answering her question another time. This is the *right* way to do things, Luke. If she says no, then it is her loss for turning down free expert advice. Don't even tell her that if you get a no. Just shrug and walk off. But doing things this way actually makes you much, much more likely to get a number, because you are making her wonder if you like her. That's what women want. When you bust out right away with 'can I take you to dinner?' then they know you like them, you're instantly boring, and the game is over before it begins.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

Luke, I have never been involved in real estate in Canada. Here in the US, we have a "county courthouse" where records are kept and auctions are often held. Do you have something like that in Canada?

No, never heard of anything like that here. Everything is done by computer.

Well, what you wrote makes sence, but I don't think I'll be too comfortable going out of my way like that, and even if I did, I usually have some sort of blinders on. That is, I may talk strictly business, but then zone-off completely on closing or thinking of being sexual, and usually just become a total asexual with no interest on even closing because that's blocked out of my mind. It's like, I wouldn't hit on an attractive client I'm showing homes too because that would be zoned out, but maybe that's comparing apples to oranges.

I'm trying to go to Yonge Adult groups in church now, but this is all beyond the scope of this particular field report.

 

[saber]

good effort but thats a tricky spot...i think a dive bar is the best venue for newbs imo

 

[Luke Skywalker]

dude, just go for a woman as boring and ugly as you...

But that is not the problem.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Don't hit on clients, but if you have no courthouse, then try seminars and auctions. You are bound to meet women who are trying to become real estate investors. If they feel that dating a Realtor and a mysterious, possibly wealthy real estate investor will advance their goals, then such a woman would be all over you like a pre-paid hooker.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Don't hit on clients, but if you have no courthouse, then try seminars and auctions. You are bound to meet women who are trying to become real estate investors. If they feel that dating a Realtor and a mysterious, possibly wealthy real estate investor will advance their goals, then such a woman would be all over you like a pre-paid hooker.

Yeah, sometimes you gotta lie.

The bank tellers here have the most gorgeous beautiful juicy breasts I've ever seen. They must be giving a lot of head in order to get a leg up. I think the altitude blows up tits.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

Don't hit on clients, but if you have no courthouse, then try seminars and auctions. You are bound to meet women who are trying to become real estate investors. If they feel that dating a Realtor and a mysterious, possibly wealthy real estate investor will advance their goals, then such a woman would be all over you like a pre-paid hooker.

Let's assume what you are saying is correct. I don't exactly have a portrait of a successful and enthusiatic business set-up. My car is a 2001 used car, I personally don't own Real-Estate property, and actually don't have a real passion for my own career and fall asleep at the thought of RE investing as there is no personal interest. So, I'd have to even fake an interest in all that. I am no rags to riches story through Real-Estate investment, I'm just a boy still living with parents wondering where the next deal is coming from and if I'm making enough to even survive living on my own hypothetically. It's hard to pull something off like that as it's virtually lying, other than the fact I'm an agent.

I do play lottery by dealing with builders and developers however, such as give out inventory-leads for maga-purchases, but nothing has materialized there. Usually, I may impress a girl by saying I work with these people, but that's a stretch of the truth that's neither here nor there.

Now assuming all of this passes, I've found this could work at enhancing interest with people who are already intersted in me, but I dont know about this actually making interest if there is nothing there to start with, I mean you still have to talk to people when all is said and done unless you give a RE seminar yourself.

 

[Bible_Belt]

actually don't have a real passion for my own career

aha. Then you have bigger problems than women.

What do you have a passion for? What do you really care about? What excites you? Whatever it is, you need to work that into your life, career or otherwise. If your own life bores you, then you're not ever going to be exciting to anyone else.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

actually don't have a real passion for my own career

aha. Then you have bigger problems than women.

What do you have a passion for? What do you really care about? What excites you? Whatever it is, you need to work that into your life, career or otherwise. If your own life bores you, then you're not ever going to be exciting to anyone else.

It's not like my own life really bores me, but it's more like I'm just low energy most of the time, guess I"m half-asleep most of the time.