Went on a date with a girl. Got some food at a to-go place, went for a short walk, and then to my friend's party. All in all a decent night.
She messaged me on facebook saying "we should totally hang out and go to the beach or something this week!"
I replied on facebook and said "That's funny, I was just going to ask you if you wanted to go to my friend's party today but didn't see you in school. What's your number?"
I asked her if she wanted to go to my friend's party and I told her where it was. She told me it was her friend's last night in town and she was obligated to hanging out with her, but she would be totally do something before she met up with them at around 11:30 PM. I said that's fine.
And she was like, "Oh I know a really good place that has awesome crepes around there." So I said "Yeah we should totally stop by there before we go."
So we went to the crepe place and walked around for about 20 minutes outside while we finished them. The conversation went well and she seemed pretty cool.
Going to the friend's party was probably the worst part of the date (it was by no means bad or anything). In terms of escalating physical contact, (kino) this was not a good atmosphere to do it. It was obviously a lot easier while we were outside and by ourselves.
The next day she texted me and told me how hanging out with her friends was a bust. She also asked if she wanted help cleaning out my studio space at school (we go to art school and it's the end of the year so we have to clear all of our stuff out of the school). She has a car and I don't so it's easier for her. I said no thanks, I don't have too much stuff to clear out.
So given the situation, what would you advise for a good second date? Location, as well as how I should conduct myself, or what I should do would be great. I did "okay" as far as the physical escalation: I flirted with her, touched her and messed with this weird jacket she was wearing. But I definitey should not have brought her to the party.
I went out with her on Saturday evening. I was thinking of taking her out to the beach or something like that. She recommended earlier on in the facebook message that we should go hang out at the beach. I think that actually would be a great idea for physical escalation since we won't be wearing much clothing in the first place. But since she is the one who recommended it, I don't want it to seem like she is all of a sudden the one calling the shots (which right now it seems like she is).
Mistakes I made:
1. Should not have told her I was looking for her at school for obvious reasons. Very desperate move.
2. I should have been the one who thought of the better date idea, not her. She kind of recommended to crepe place, which was a way better first date, and I just kind of obliged.
3. Don't bring girls to parties on dates (especially first dates). Isolation and solitude is key.
4. I need to be leading and calling the shots and deciding what we do.
Any input guys? What would you recommend for a good second date? And when should I call her?
By the way, she's not the only game in town. I'm going out to get some ice cream with a different girl in about an hour. I feel like I did well overall but made some huge rookie mistakes. I'm new to this whole dating thing so give me your best advice.
She messaged me on facebook saying "we should totally hang out and go to the beach or something this week!"
I replied on facebook and said "That's funny, I was just going to ask you if you wanted to go to my friend's party today but didn't see you in school. What's your number?"
I asked her if she wanted to go to my friend's party and I told her where it was. She told me it was her friend's last night in town and she was obligated to hanging out with her, but she would be totally do something before she met up with them at around 11:30 PM. I said that's fine.
And she was like, "Oh I know a really good place that has awesome crepes around there." So I said "Yeah we should totally stop by there before we go."
So we went to the crepe place and walked around for about 20 minutes outside while we finished them. The conversation went well and she seemed pretty cool.
Going to the friend's party was probably the worst part of the date (it was by no means bad or anything). In terms of escalating physical contact, (kino) this was not a good atmosphere to do it. It was obviously a lot easier while we were outside and by ourselves.
The next day she texted me and told me how hanging out with her friends was a bust. She also asked if she wanted help cleaning out my studio space at school (we go to art school and it's the end of the year so we have to clear all of our stuff out of the school). She has a car and I don't so it's easier for her. I said no thanks, I don't have too much stuff to clear out.
So given the situation, what would you advise for a good second date? Location, as well as how I should conduct myself, or what I should do would be great. I did "okay" as far as the physical escalation: I flirted with her, touched her and messed with this weird jacket she was wearing. But I definitey should not have brought her to the party.
I went out with her on Saturday evening. I was thinking of taking her out to the beach or something like that. She recommended earlier on in the facebook message that we should go hang out at the beach. I think that actually would be a great idea for physical escalation since we won't be wearing much clothing in the first place. But since she is the one who recommended it, I don't want it to seem like she is all of a sudden the one calling the shots (which right now it seems like she is).
Mistakes I made:
1. Should not have told her I was looking for her at school for obvious reasons. Very desperate move.
2. I should have been the one who thought of the better date idea, not her. She kind of recommended to crepe place, which was a way better first date, and I just kind of obliged.
3. Don't bring girls to parties on dates (especially first dates). Isolation and solitude is key.
4. I need to be leading and calling the shots and deciding what we do.
Any input guys? What would you recommend for a good second date? And when should I call her?
By the way, she's not the only game in town. I'm going out to get some ice cream with a different girl in about an hour. I feel like I did well overall but made some huge rookie mistakes. I'm new to this whole dating thing so give me your best advice.