"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Alphathree

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I'm midway through "gaming" a "target" "HB9" and I'd like to reflect and get some pointers.

(I'm not attached to the outcome, but I would like to make sure I learn something from it.)

Cliff's notes:
- Meet HB9 dancing: white, teeny tiny she must weigh like 100 pounds, a tad conservative, smart but girly girly

- Encounter 1, she gives me tons of IOIs:
--- ignoring others, talking to me
--- dancing with me with no room for the holy ghost :)
--- I get her email, don't talk to her much (I'm a busy guy)

- Encounter 2:
--- MSNs me ~2 weeks later asking to go dancing in Toronto: "friend and I are going dancing in Toronto...you should come"
--- "friend" is her guy friend who is very far into AFC land, she showed no interest in him, I dominated the whole night
--- receptive to kino that night
--- mild **** testing... always saying what she wants. I pick and choose the things I want and do those.
--- drop her off at home afterward, ask me if I'll be out dancing monday, I say "maybe", and she says she'll be there

Now we're up to speed.

I don't want to move too fast with her because she's a bit conservative, but I think I'll take her for a walk Monday night and kiss close somewhere romantic (She's "that kind of girl")... then I'll leave the ball in her court.

Good plan? Thoughts? Suggestions?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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NEXT HER!!!

















Just kidding - :)

You could take her for a walk but maybe an action date such as bowling, ice skating etc. would bring her out of her shell a little.

Respect

G-man
 

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Originally posted by G-Man UK
You could take her for a walk but maybe an action date such as bowling, ice skating etc. would bring her out of her shell a little.

Respect

G-man [/B]
Thing is, dancing is already an 'action' date, so walking is a nice contrast to that. It's more relaxing.
 

Alphathree

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Originally posted by The_Shezzler
Good Plan? Yes

Initiate convo based on the night, the stars, the moon etc, make her feel special through vibes that cannot be given through kino, but emotional vibes through thoughts and most importantly MAVEC.

Why leave it at a kiss close? If she likes that and wants to take it even further (you kno when this is!) then go for it.

PS - Dont just walk - stop off at a local coffee shop or fast food joint for a drink and some deep convo (ie eye to eye)

Sarge On....
Thanks dude. Excellent suggestions. There are lots of places to just stop and talk in the park we'll be walking in; I'll definitely grab us a coffee on the way.

I can already hear my eloquent prose dancing amongst the moonlight and the pond =p
 
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