"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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FIELD REPORT #4: multiple pickup.

Marlimus

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I walk into one of the cafeterias and sit down to eat. A chick (not that hot, about a 7) asks if she can sit down, and strikes up a convo, so basically she approaches me. I throw in some ****y and funny just for practice, but I'm not that into her. However, she looked good, and might have had some hotter friends.

I hardly look at her for most of the time, and she asks most of the questions. I get up to leave, take her number, she asks for mine, and then leave. I think i'll have her as a designated chaser, spark some attraction, and see if she has any cute friends.

I;m walking to the library after leaving the cafe and I spie a chick I saw that same day.
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I'm walking in one of the corridors with all my silver jewellry, my favorite jacket, cologne on. Looking good. I see a table with a group of sorority girls sitting around with some kind of petition on it. I decide to walk over.
There is a thick girl (I like em a little thick too ) with big boobs to the left with a nice face but I make eye contact mainly with the plain looking one in the middle.
I notice from the time I walk over, the others come closer and stop talkin, looking at me. The thick girl was definitely giving me the DDB look. They were signing people up for a talent contest. I crack a couple jokes, sign up, then walk away. They remain silent until I walk out of earshot. I decided to delay the close.
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The thickie is walking by and shyly says hello. I turn around:
M: You're with sigma search, right?
Her: Yeah!
M: Where will you guys be tomorrow (meaning the signup table)\
Her: over at blah blah until blahblah pm.
M: What's your name?
Her: (Surprised. I dare say pleasantly)Me?
M: Yes you (she gives name, we exchange phone numbers)

So I keep walking until I reach the library where I sit next to a real hottie. She bears a remarkable resemblance to a female in one of my courses so I ask her if she's related to her. Turns out, the chick in my class is her best friend, and she admits that people mistake them for each other!

We keepi talking. Turns out she's not from my college but she lives in the area, her family is from Egypt, and she speaks fluent Arabic. I ask for a number, but I get an email.

My analysis: I established some rapport, but neither flirted nor used c&f (she was genuinely interesting, i got distracted). She made eye contact when she replied, and smiled, but did not initiate any questions of her own. She said it would be easier to reach her by email so I got email, but I've been in the trenches too long.

Conclusion on Egyption chick: Chances minimal. No real indicators of interest. But this chick is hot and I have nothing to lose by emailing her. I need to give the content of that email serious thought. Should I use a routine, or just establish rapport?

As for the rest, the future is bright. I'm also not very interested in either of the other two, one of which approached me.

But the Egyptian chick sparked my attention. Suggestions on my first email to her, anyone?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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milkman

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Originally posted by Marlimus
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Neither getting a phone number nor an email is a solid goal. Try to get to know the girls right away. What can u do better later after having contact information what u cannot do there? You are face to face with her, build rapport and try to escalate, change location with her.

Only if it is absolutely not possible to do or arrange something else, care about exchanging contact infos.

And for your email. Don´t know, send her a pic of you with your number and the words "call him today".

Next time don´t accept getting only her email. Tell her you will call her and you are no computer nerd. And don´t be happy getting a number without having at least kissed her. It´s more than nothing, but not a lot more...
 
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