"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Field report: 4 approaches, 4 successes

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About a month and a half ago, I broke it off with my now ex-girlfriend. She was being controlling and needy, and I had a life to live, so I'm now living it without her.

Last night I went to a local concert with a bunch of friends of mine. We were having a complete blast, dancing to the band and not having a care in the world.

About halfway through the set I decided I needed to get another drink, and use the washroom. So I left the front of the stage to do this.

On my jaunt to the washroom I noticed that the girl selling beer had a mohawk. Like, a full-fledged mohawk. Not only that, she was really attractive and in great shape. I usually don't make a habit of gaming mugslingers, but I had to make an exception this time.

Me: Ok, that mohawk is hardcore! Holy ****.

HBhawk: (flattered) thank you.

Me: You're only selling beer here?

HBhawk: No, coolers too.

Me: That won't do. However, I didn't come over here to leave empty handed. You're going to give me your MSN now.

HBhawk: *****@hotmail.com (without hesitation)

Me: That is a killer hawk(I run my hand through it)

HBhawk: (smiles genuinely) Thank you.


One contact info done! I turn the corner to head down the stairs and at the foot of the stairs is a girl who I am slightly acquainted with - a friend of a friend. She has a very Avril Lavigne type look to her, only taller and hotter.

HBAvril: Hey! Enjoying the show?

Me: Yeah, its great!

HBAvril: Totally. The opening band was awesome too. Did you see them?

Me: Yeah, they were. Everyone was into it. Hey, listen, I gotta get back to the show so what's your MSN?

HBAvril: *****@hotmail.com

Me: Ok, I'll talk to you later. See ya.


Two down. By this time I really had to take a leak and was very happy that there were no more girls between me and the washroom.

Destination two: the bar. I look to my left to see a sexy blonde, short, not quite my type but still hot, something that would be called 'conventional'.

Me: You're getting a rum and coke aren't you?

HBblonde: Yes, how did you know?

Me: I didn't until now.

HBblonde: hahaha. Nice to meet you anyway, I'm HBblonde. What's your name.

Me: Luveno.

So the conversation lasted about one minute, the usual drivel about how good the band was etc. So I left and went back to the front of the stage.
Five minutes later, who is up there pushing the guys out of the way but little HBblonde. She almost knocked over one of the monitors!!!

HBblonde: Hey!!!(grabs me and hugs me)

Me: Oh you're hardcore. Right to the front of the stage knocking everything over. Someone's gotta tie you up.

HBblonde: maybe...if I let them(that sexy look). You got MSN?

Me: Yes, but you won't remember it. I'll remember yours though - I remember everything.

HBblonde: ok, its *****@hotmail.com.

Me; I'll be sure to get in touch.



So I kept dancing with my friends and we were having an excellent time. I met a few more guys there and we all just got together and sequestered the front of the stage. What a good show. So, by the end of it I wanted to get another email so I asked the tall girl dancing behind me for hers:

I just kinda looked at her in the eyes, and she looked back and smiled. So I came right out with it:

Me: What a great concert. What's your name.

HBtall: HBtall.

Me: HBtall...suits you. You seem interesting, got msn?

HBtall: yeah, here it is(she told me twice so I would remember).

Me: excellent. I'll chat with you later.


So that was my first real time back into the field since my LTR went sour.

To all you aspiring DJs, the main advice I have is to just do it! Take what you want!

One of the most important things you can do is take charge of the conversation. Control the flow, and the topics of choice. Listen, but be in control.

Another thing guys should do is escalate contact. The words that come out of your mouth only really exist for you to get contact info. The attraction is done via body language. For instance, the first thing that a man should do when approaching a woman is to maintain eye contact. I'm not saying stare her down. I'm not saying avert your eyes. I'm saying to look her in the eyes when she's speaking, or when you speak. If that goes well you have to initiate what they call 'kino' around here. In fast situations like this what I do is just hug them, maybe lift them up while doing it, to see if they're into it. If they reciprocate or stay close after you're done, the approach is a success. If not, it could be a failure(but can be salvaged).

I get MSNs because I only use the phone for important things like business, family, and friends. I also hate talking on the phone. There is a lot of talk saying that getting phone numbers is more effective. I disagree. My track record in following up women successfully using MSNs has been ridiculously high. If it ain't broken, don't fix it. So do what you find comfortable.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You should get their phone numbers instead. It will allow for better communication through spontaneity,voice tone and inflection.

But good job anyway.
 

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Girls will more readily give out MSN addresses. Phone #'s require a little bit more effort, but good job. I'm sure you can get their # after you talk on MSN with them or something. I personally always get the # because I figure, if she gives me the #, the chances are higher that she is into me. I don't like wasting time on low interest so I handle a lot of it right there. Women love talking on the phone, and hot women won't be found on MSN very often, which is another reason for getting a number instead. They might think less of me if I am not man enough to talk to them on the phone. I don't know, your method is great if you also like to show you're not really interested enough even for a #. Keep on pimpin'. OH yeah, that girl that was knocking everyone down, she was into you.
 

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hmmm its funny how every girl you talked to just happened to have MSN.
 

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Originally posted by griffon65
hmmm its funny how every girl you talked to just happened to have MSN.
Im from Canada, and I go to university. Young people from around here all have MSN.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Here they are all about equally popular, a slight edge to AIM though. There are certain people who prefer MSN, some Yahoo Messenger. Not that it matters, but I have all three, and if I was to ask someone for there's, I would ask for the AIM address first.
 

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Bluelemond is right, MSN is the equivalent to AIM in Canada.

When asking for instant messager IDs just ask for the one that's most commonly used around your area.
 

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$100 says all of this goes nowhere. You didn't take time to make sure there’s chemistry, there is no way this works out.
 

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Originally posted by MR_PERFECT
$100 says all of this goes nowhere. You didn't take time to make sure there’s chemistry, there is no way this works out.
You should be encouraging, not discouraging.

Good job original poster.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Originally posted by MR_PERFECT
$100 says all of this goes nowhere. You didn't take time to make sure there�s chemistry, there is no way this works out.
If you're good, you can tell if there's chemistry right away. You haven't learned that yet.


By the way, I'm going to a show with HBhawk this week, and HBavril invited me to her party next weekend.

Yeah, it's gone nowhere....
 

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Originally posted by Anirak
You should be encouraging, not discouraging.

Good job original poster.
I am encouraging him - I'm encouraging him to not settle for an e-mail address. It's lame to ask for an e-mail address anyway, it shows he didn't have enough confidence to ask for what he wanted, the number. Women are flakes by nature, except when it's a guy they like. I don't care what he says his success rate is, I don't believe him. I'm figuring 99% of the time they don't even reply.
 

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By the way, HBhawk just messaged me her phone number. I'm going to her place a few nights from now.

I'll tell you how it goes.

Oh yeah, Mr. Perfect, you're soon to lose $100 bucks.


MSNs are great to get at clubs because:

1. They're easier to remember than phone numbers. Walking around with a pen and a pad makes you look like some sort of lech.

2. You can talk to them on your own time. you don't have to go out of your way like you would if you were to call them. You can talk to them while you, say, write a paper, or read the latest movie reviews, or talk to your friends on msn too.
 
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I prefer the emial as david deangleo points out. Youll double your success rate by asking for the email not number.
 

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Walk around with a pen and pad? Just whip you cell phone out real quick and type the # in there..... that's what I always do. You're right that almost every girl will be willing to give out the MSN, and rejection will be lower, but in my opinion, if she isn't interested enough to give a #, she isn't the girl for me.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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