"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Field Report #3 Same bar as usual

Dannyrt34

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Alright guys, I have another field report from the same bar that I been going to the past 3 weeks. My first 2 field reports were with the same chick but tonite was completely different. I took my friend Mike to the bar because it was his 23rd birthday tonight.

Anyway, we go to the bar and we did a birthday round of soco-lime. We stood around and chatted for a good while. I like to get warmed up and in a talkative mood before I start approaching girls so I started talking to everyone around me. Things were going well when I finally spotted a cutie I wanted to approach.

I usually get nervous so I decided not to sit around and think about it first, and just made my approach right away. I walk up to her and just said "hey!" that's all, lol, nothing special. And she was very responsive! Very talkative too, there was never a dull moment. We ended up talking alot about what we were drinkin, our jobs, college, my buddy's birthday, all kinds of stuff. It felt very easy with her.

Anyway, as our conversation went on I found out she has a bf (Why do all the chicks I meet end up having bfs?) But she still seemed interested, so I decided to ask her more questions as why she likes him, and what he does for her and stuff. I got a whole lot of negative answers from her! I can't remember our exact words but it was kind of like this:

Me: So do you have a bf?
Her: Yea I've been with him for 5 1/2 years on and off, but things are kind of rocky
Me: How so?
Her: He never really takes me out, and when we do go out, he gets so trashed to the point where I just have to take care of him.
Me: (laughing) So wait! Besides the fact that you've been together for five and a half years, why are you with him?
Her: That's pretty much the only reason.

It went something like that, but during our conversation we exchanged numbers, and she invited me to a different bar. So I grabbed my friend and we followed her to the other bar (she is a bartender here). We got there, and it was a quieter atmosphere and easier to talk. She bought me a shot, and a beer. That's when I accused her of trying to get me drunk. We shared a lot of laughs together, and overall had a good time. She invited me to go out again tomorrow night. And I told her I'll have to let her know. Anyway, I'm just excited about another good night I had, and wanted to share with the rest of you. Thanks for reading.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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