"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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FIELD REPORT #2: gym pickup

Marlimus

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I was in the college gym Friday night, hurting myself, getting my fix, when I see my 'type'. She's short, petite, with a dazzling smile and long curly hair.

I walk past, and I notice that she looks over her shoulder at me and quickly looks away. My gut tells me to go for it.

I approach her from the side, having decided to use my ancestry opener.

I start off by saying 'hey' first to get her attention, and then started in with my opener:

"By any chance, do you have European ancestry in your family? Particularly eastern europe?" No smiling. Facial expression of genuine curiousity
She says...yeah! Romania! How did you know that?"

I said "I could tell by your features." What's your name?

Her: T. What's yours?
Me: (my name)
Her: (spends about 4 minutes trying to pronounce it right)

Me: What's your extension?
Her: I dunno...xxxx, I think.

Now, this is an acceptable excuse. The campus phones only can call on campus, and most students just use their cellphones and don't even bother to actually plug in the campus phone.

Me: You know what, I'm on the computer alot anyway. Email would be better.
her: Would you remember it?

Me: "We'll see."
Her: okay, its [email protected]
Me: okay, I'd love to keep chatting but I have to get back to my workout. Later!

Now the thing about this encounter is that when I walked up to her, she turned and started smiling at the exact same time, almost before, I said 'hey,' and she looked as though she herself was about to say something before I launched my opener. There was no ***** shield to penetrate, no need for ****y and funny or routines.
I had been pre-approved. And I knew why. I had been pumping iron steadily for about a year now, and was wearing a tight fighting polo shirt that exposed my chest.

It felt good, but I felt cheated. I felt as if my game didn't matter. So anyway, guys, this report comes with a tip
HIT THE FVCKIN GYM.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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BrotherAP

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"I felt cheated"

Well if you really want to learn the secret art of seduction maybe you need to lose the rock hard physique and go with something a little more overweight. You know, to really test your skills and put the thrill of the chase back into the game.

Just curious - if you were to use that opener and the girl were to say "no...", where would you go with that?

Also, if she was giving you such a greenlight do you think it was necessary to go indirect? You probably could have **** closed her. If a girl is already physically attracted, it makes sense to take it to the next level.
 

ER!C L!VE

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Ok bro, let's see how this turns out.

As you know, merely getting a phone number is not a big deal. It's having a successful meet-up, and in my opinion a f-close that constitutes a success.

Best of luck!

Cheers!

Eric
 

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You are getting active and that is great. Congratulations for this. What I will do is giving advise here that will help you bringing your game to the next level. ;)

Originally posted by Marlimus
when I see my 'type'. ...I walk past
When you realise she is your 'type' directly go to her. Excuses might drop in your mind, work on overcoming them. Make it a habit to directly go to her.


Originally posted by Marlimus
I notice that she looks over her shoulder at me and quickly looks away. My gut tells me to go for it
Don´t wait or look for approach invitations. When you realise you like a girl, directly go, no matter what she is doing.


Originally posted by Marlimus
I approach her from the side, having decided to use my ancestry opener
Better to approach her from the front. If not possible, approaching from the side is of course also okay.


Originally posted by Marlimus
I start off by saying 'hey' first to get her attention, and then started in with my opener
Better not to say 'hey' and trying to get her attention. Directly say what you want to say. Only if she absolutely will not notice you, then do something to get her attention. At first, assume she is noticing you. BTW, a nice smile is always good here before you say anything.


Originally posted by Marlimus
Me: You know what, I'm on the computer alot anyway. Email would be better.
Email is usually the worst you can get. Better to ask her if she wants to join you after gym for something. If not go for the number and maybe ask at the helpdesk for a pen and paper.


Originally posted by Marlimus
when I walked up to her, she turned and started smiling at the exact same time
Seems like you have good body language here. Good for you dude.


Originally posted by Marlimus
no need for ****y and funny or routines.
Exactly.


Originally posted by Marlimus
I had been pre-approved. And I knew why. I had been pumping iron steadily for about a year now, and was wearing a tight fighting polo shirt that exposed my chest. ....this report comes with a tip HIT THE FVCKIN GYM.
Good for you you are in a good shape and hitting the gym is always a good advise. But having said this, going to the gym is NOT nacessary for getting girls.
 

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Marlimus,

These are some solid pickups. My recommendation in the future is to spend some time developing rapport before you close. Get to know something about these girls, especially about what they like to do, and if possible, schedule an activity immediately, or at some later point in time. It's best to develop rapport and then date close, BEFORE you get a number and/or email. Second, try to introduce some kino right off. You can start off with a simple handshake and try to escalate from there. In the gym, ask her to pose for you, and feel her muscles, or allow her to do the same.

I've number and email closed many times, but it led to flakes because I really did not develop any connection/rapport with them before I did so. Good luck.

NorPacWolf
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by NorPacWolf
It's best to develop rapport and then date close, BEFORE you get a number and/or email. Second, try to introduce some kino right off. You can start off with a simple handshake and try to escalate from there.
Good advise. :up:
 

Marlimus

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NorpacWolf , the date close idea seems dead on, i'll remember that for future reference.
 

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good job. 1 thing. Don't let fear beat you.
Fear will say" you can't do it you chump, look at you !!! you have no chance" tell fear to stfu and appoarch. When appoarching, lean back, don't jump all over her and give her space. Don't ever ever ever FOREVER EVER !!!!!!!!! have sex on your mind when you apporach a girl. And finally have that attuide of are you good enough for me ?? don't have that attuide of I'm ready to kiss your ass cause you will be rejected faster then a lighting bolt.

Kept up the good work
 
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